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SthrnCom4t -> RE: Loving 24/7 Femdom/malesub...myth or reality ? (7/21/2010 10:22:02 PM)
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Yes, successful FemDom/male sub relationships do exist.
In our case, it's almost effortless. I attribute that to Otter and what an amazing and loving individual he is. We got together because I saw his post on www.polymatchmaker.com. I thought he was cute. He was local, so I said hi. I really didn't have expectations, just saw that he and his wife were new to poly, I had some experiences, and they were 20 minutes down the road. We in alternative lifestyles have to stick together!
I was emotionally disconnected, initially. Living solo, but still legally married myself, I had 2 other 'secondary' relationships and was dating up a storm. I met he and his wife; liked THEIR dynamic, and thought he was a cutie. Who could have known?
Coming up on 2 years later, we're now married. He is a very 'active' submissive. We have very few 'rules' in our house. I don't 'make' him do things on a daily basis. He does them because he enjoys pleasing me. I love being spoiled, and he does a fabulous job of it. I wake up every morning filled with gratitude that I am able to share my life with him. I fall asleep with my arms around him every night feeling gratitude that he is in my life.
We both enjoy connection. Neither of us is needy, high maintenance or insecure.
I provide him with a safe and loving environment. My grounding energy is a compliment to his sometimes artistic nature. Together, we are on the same wavelength which makes us very compatible and companionable. Again, I believe that is due to his easy-going nature. I admire and respect his wit and charm. His devotion to me is seductive as hell. I help keep him focused. My independence challenges him to get to the door before I do. I love that he's a gentleman and opens doors for me 99% of the time. I praise him and thank him often.
I also don't put up with BS excuses for not meeting responsibilities in life. I'm never a victim. I'm always 'learning life lessons' and find positive ways to deal with difficult situations. I'm not caught up with 'what other's might think'. I'm a good match for a girlie-boy.
Together, we live an incredibly rich life. We are privileged to have many wonderful people share our world. We are both very social, and attract like-minded people. We both love to provide for other people. He through service, and myself, through nurturing. This is also what makes our dynamic work so well.
In the morning, we get up early and take walks together, even though we'd both rather be lazy and sleep in. We *want* to be physically fit, so we can be together in this physical life as long as possible! He's teaching me to like spicy food and Babylon 5. Together, we buy too much fabric at JoAnn's, and stumble through sewing projects. We are both sensation whores. We work hard, so we can play hard. We love to go camping and I'm teaching him to be naked outside. He's still a bit shy, and has an innocence about him. I love to make him blush!
We have a new dog, who we both love. We make great *four pawed um* parents, but have no desire for the real deal.
How did I find him? I met A LOT of people! I didn't give up. He is my 4th husband. 4! That's just plain CRAZY! I am not Liz Taylor, REALLY!
I had to be willing to take the chance. To get past the doubts of my own judgment, and trust that I REALLY had learned valuable lessons from past interactions.
He is amazing and very worth any risk!
My Dominant side loves to make him cry. Not always, but when the need rises in both of us. I value his tears and willingness to expose his most vulnerable self to me. His trust empowers me. My love and acceptance empowers him.
This is *power exchange* - neither of has *more* power than the other - we both contribute to making the dynamic work. He wants to make me happy. When I am happy, fulfilled and content, I want to create happiness in him.
I value his love and devotion. I trust he will tell me if he needs something, and he's not getting it. We are both responsible for getting our needs met. We communicate even when it's difficult. We each provide that *safe environment* for the other to speak openly.
I often fantasize, taunt and tease him, about a future molestation when we go to the women's restroom together. <wicked, evil grin> For me, he is just scrumptious!
Life is truly delicious!
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