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porcelaine -> RE: Publicly airing your dirty laundry (7/28/2010 9:55:52 AM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I have to tell you that I am very much seeing porcelaine's view on this right now. This is very much different than I felt on the subject when I encouraged clip to join this site just under three years ago. At the current time, I'd probably approach things in a much different way. For something to be a resource, a person has to weigh the value of quality that it presents. Very much like the example that you stated. If someone comes to a forum such as this for advice on such a situation, but all they get are ideas on what other people think they would do, rather than those who have had to actually come to that decision of what they really did when they were faced with that situation, you'll get a quantity of opinion, rather than a quality of experience.
Exactly. Always consider the source.
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Where I will say your anology is good, especially tied in with the original, is that in some cases when the turmoil is just rampent on the boards is the 'best thinking got it here' anology. Piss poor methods, lack of education, and void of knowledge are the root causes for the troubles in some areas where the dirty laundry gets aired to begin with. Go to another thread and the same prescription for failure is being given by the same person as advice to somebody who comes here with a different problem. I'm not trying to be a shit here. At the same time, maybe, just maybe, if you (general you) are sitting in the position where your life is such a mess that your dysfunctional dynamic is all over the boards, unless you know that someone else's current problem is an area where you've had success, you might want to not pass along what didn't work.
As my father said, "Self got you in, self has to get you out."
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There are still some valuable resources here on these boards, but they really have become fewer. Any person coming here now with a situation that is difficult for them to handle really needs to find a way to form an opinion on how to proceed. Not all advice is coming from good sources and I think folks should keep that in mind.
Well stated. Thank you for weighing in. [;)]
~porcelaine
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