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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/30/2010 8:35:41 PM   
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See and there was me thinking being a sadistic submissive was a rarity...

hehehe I do have my moments....

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 8/1/2010 1:17:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		And clearly, cuckolding is completely different from 'cheating' on a partner, of either sex.
permission however grudgingly given by the cuckold is -not- going out and getting some 'strange' then comin back to crow about it,
I have no idea how that would work, a past friend tested the concept and his relationship failed.. perhaps the wrong gender to test it?

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 8/1/2010 3:57:37 AM   
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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another female? Or just a male fantasy come true?


I think this might vary a bit by individual.

Myself, I can be very passionate. And when I am really deeply involved ... I experience pain and anguish regardless of the sex.

But if I am not deeply involved ... then yes, two women ... it is just a fun male fantasy.

Mostly just talk ... too!

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 8/1/2010 5:41:47 PM   
idroolchicksrule


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Status: offline 		I think i counts. I am into cuckolding and never thought of this. I dont think i would bring it up. if i was lucky enough to have a partner into cuckolding and she wanted to...it would count.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 8/2/2010 3:32:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with those who think it counts. It is the energy that surrounds the experience that makes it so. For that matter, providing oral sex can be a service if the energy around it makes it so. There exists a form of cuckolding that is based on doing it with female lovers and I have seen groups dedicated to it.

Cuckolding can exist in various forms: (1) the imbalance in power where one partner can have outside relationships and the other cannot without the first being cast as inadequate, (2) the partner being told he is inadequate alongside scenario 1, and (3) the cuckold being told to wait upon his partner and her lover while excluded from the fun, or told to participate in a way that conveys a lesser status.

Each of these scenarios can exist even if the third party is a woman.

When it is a man, it will likely lead to greater intensity. Depending on the individual, he might feel greater emotional discomfort upon being told that he is inadequate in comparison to another man versus in comparison to a woman for sake of a greater sense of competition. Also, as Boijen points out, the threat of being replaced is greater when the other person is similar, which is discomforting in a different manner.

Incidentally, I am unsure how common my position is but I do not find it hot for my partner to have sex with another woman.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 8/2/2010 4:24:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: undergroundsea

Incidentally, I am unsure how common my position is but I do not find it hot for my partner to have sex with another woman.


Very much on the edge for me, Sea.  The idea feels hot to me, but only in a very abstract way (as a singleton, that is, and not in a position to apply the idea to a real-life partner and a third party of either sex)..  I think that the reality could well be more than I could bear - in which case, it could jeopardise the relationship.

(Good to see you again, by the way. ;-))

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 8/2/2010 8:29:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		 i believe that it depends mostly on the mindset of the parties.  If the wife is fulfilling the husband's fantasy then it is probably not cuckolding.  If she is fulfilling her own, in a way that the husband can or will not, and lets him know this is the purpose then yes, it is cuckoldng.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 10/12/2010 11:57:32 AM   
MistressMeltz


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Status: offline 		this is an interesting questions. I would say yes. To see two women is not a fantasy for all men. Some actually despis this and in that case I might call it cuckolding but if he enjoys it more than then two girls.....

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 10/13/2010 8:16:31 AM   
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"hello, my wife likes to cuck me with other females. Would you be interested?"
Honestly people - does that even count as cuckolding?


I thinks it doesn't matter if it is. Slaves exist to give their owners pleasures and happiness.
If the owner is bisexual or lesbian, she has the desire to enjoy herself with other women.
It doesn't matter what any man phantasizes. Maybe he likes it, maybe he hates, maybe he
doesn't care. That's not important. If he's turned on by watching, his owner is surely able
to keep him in position by denying him to come or applying CBT.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 10/13/2010 8:24:25 AM   
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Well I see a lot of guys saying they will service a women orally and make it sound like they are really putting themselves out by doing so. Maybe it is along the same lines as that. They figure if they make it seem like they are doing something they don't want to do, but will do it to make you happy, then they will get laid.


I admit it: I do love licking a beautiful pussy, too. One reason is that one has to be on the knees to do it. What I'd like to get in return is torure. Nobody can expect a woman to get penetrated if she doesn't want to. That wouldn't be real service.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 10/13/2010 8:49:35 AM   
powerplaying


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Whenever a guy offers me a three way with another chick, I always ask him what HE would be doing there? Other than fetching drinks and towels, of course.


Fetching drinks and towels sounds like a good start for a male slave. There might also be other uses for him:
- mixing interesting looking and tasting drinks,
- serving as a table onto which the drinks are placed,
- kissing the feet of the two women while they give each other pleasure,
- serving as a hallstand,
- being beaten and abused,
- cleaning the shoes of the visiting woman,
- DJing the background music, both women enjoy to increase the quality of the sexual encounter. "Virtuality" from Anne Clark's "To love and be loved" might work well,
- cleaning the towels and sheets the other day.

Best wishes

André



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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 10/13/2010 11:43:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: undergroundsea

Cuckolding can exist in various forms: (1) the imbalance in power where one partner can have outside relationships and the other cannot without the first being cast as inadequate, (2) the partner being told he is inadequate alongside scenario 1, and (3) the cuckold being told to wait upon his partner and her lover while excluded from the fun, or told to participate in a way that conveys a lesser status.


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ORIGINAL: atursvcMaam

 i believe that it depends mostly on the mindset of the parties.  If the wife is fulfilling the husband's fantasy then it is probably not cuckolding.  If she is fulfilling her own, in a way that the husband can or will not, and lets him know this is the purpose then yes, it is cuckoldng.


I wondered about this Myself. I got an email yesterday from a male submissive who wanted to know if I practice cuckolding at all. I responded, "Only in that My hubby is monogamous to Me, but I also have sex with the poppet. She's not another man though, so I don't know if it really counts."

According to the definition that CM gives (in the interests search section of the other side), cuckolding is "a BDSM lifestyle relationship in which the female partner openly engages in sexual relationships with other men whereas the male partner either remains monogamous or is kept chaste."

I'm not so narrow-minded as to think this is only the case with males, as a female can be made to feel all the same things as a male who's been cucked. So what makes it cuckolding? Is it the humiliation aspect? Hubby knows that part of the reason I need a woman in My life is that she provides things that he, as a man, simply cannot. It's never been a source of humiliation, though, or something that I've rubbed in his face as an inadequacy I find in him. (Which, on reading back, I guess fits him into the first description that undergroundsea gave.)

*edited to add that hubby doesn't get to watch or participate in My interactions with the poppet*

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 10/13/2010 12:32:13 PM   
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I could definitely see it working from the humiliation angle, if the wife wanted to throw it up to him that her new lover doesn't even have a penis and is so much more fulfilling than he is for her, There's still just as much opportunity to make the cuck help her get ready for her 'date', take care of her laundry and such afterward, etc.
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Ha, my first thought was no, until i read LadyPact's answer.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 10/14/2010 1:20:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know -- as a Kinsey 3 bisexual, I'd say it would count.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 12/7/2010 6:28:10 PM   
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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 12/10/2010 2:09:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		Male fantasy not withstanding, if I were to fall in love with a female slave (purely hypothetical, as I'm het), than brought in a secondary man, the fem would have to endure my use of him, as he would my use of her.
Most men I know, don't really want their beloved making love with anyone, except himself, girl-on-girl- fantasy notwithstanding.   As we are on a kink site however, he may see it as a bonus, rather than being subjected to sharing his domina with another.    M

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 12/13/2010 9:05:37 PM   
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It all depends on the dynamics involved.  If Mistress has sex with other women, denies you sex, and ties you up in the corner while she enjoys other women, I think it counts.


What he said.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 12/14/2010 4:26:54 AM   
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the mental/emotional quandry that is cuckolding?
Just thought of another comment.   I believe it is cuckoldry, if you have a husband, but wish to engage another sexually, with or without his presence, but with his knowledge.

Many women on here, have what I believe to be a similar conundrum.   I would imagine, any fem dom would find it easy enough to reserve the right to engage more than one sexual partner, where it isn't a hard limit.   However, what we often encounter, is the expectation of cuckoldry.   I personally don't consider it, because it doesn't currently fit in my life.   As options go, I think it's a kool one to retain, as a domina.   However, when men begin by begging, or insisting on cuckoldry, that is where it ceases being desirable for me.    I would consider someone asking for something I'm not providing, incompatible.

In my view, you have to determine for yourself, whether this is something you want to do, and would enjoy.   There is, in my opinion, no reason for your husband not to enjoy the situation.   I suppose you could make it painful, by making him prepare the scene, than disappear from the home for a period of time.   M

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 12/14/2010 8:59:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well I don’t really know if it is or not and would wholly depend on each and every person. Yes men do having fantasies about having two women. It has only happen to me twice and I remember at the time thinking, “wow I thought it was gong to be better then this”. Another words, fantasies verse reality. I also had a girlfriend who uses to enjoy women but she was very upfront about it and she would have to make the move, not me. I would support her, I did not see as a threat. But as LadyPact said, who says he has to watch. I like the way you think

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