Leonidas
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In most mainstream D/s environs someone who is a collared submissive or slave is proclaiming that they are submissive or slave to AN individual. Period. Their status as a submissive or slave says absolutely nothing about their status relative to you. Because of this, you should disregard the fact that they are collared and interact with them just as you would interact with any other human. Some will be courteous, and charming, and intelligent, and thoughtful, while others will be insolent or argumentative, or confrontational, or otherwise a pain in the ass. You will like some of them, and others you won't.
Some doms are actually proud of the way that their subs behave in an arrogant or dismissive fashion toward anyone other than them. Others are quite "pussywhipped" by their sub, and so will always rush to defend them in any dispute, regardless of circumstance. Be aware of that, and just ignore the subs or slave who seem agressive or beligerant. They are that way because they are encouraged to be, I assure you. It's just something that you learn to shrug off if you've been around the life for very long.
You will often find, in online venues, that the subs actually control the interaction and the culture of the group. If the subs take offense to someone's behavior or opinion, you will see every dominant in the place rushing to take their side. Can't have the subs upset. The subs are, afterall, the main attraction. If you don't like this kind of environment, there are, fortunately, many many venues online. Just look around until you find one where the culture suits you.
There are a couple of exceptions to the above. In Old Guard type settings, someone wearing a collar is a slave. Bottoms and subs are not given and do not wear collars. In these environments (which are rare anymore) you, as a dominant, wouldn't interact with a collared slave at all except in their master's presence, or if you were a friend, with his prior approval. If something the slave said or did offended you, it would be considered correct ettiquite not to address it with the slave at all, but to bring it to their master's attention.
In Gorean settings (not to be confused with online role-play Gor), slavery (and free status) is a social condition that isn't narrowly defined by the relationship between owner and owned. In the most strictly traditional Gorean groups, a slave is expected to behave as a slave toward every free man or woman who has been accepted as such by the group. Depending on how traditional the group, you may have every right to disicpline the slave on the spot if he or she displeases you. The slave in question would probably be in for it again when their master or mistress found out that they had been found displeasing. In these groups, the pleasure of the free is sacrosanct. You would never find yourself having to explain why you were displeased with the slave. The fact that you were displeased would be enough. Of course, if you proved yourself to be an unreasonable asshole consistantly enough, you might just find yourself being invited to leave by the other free men and women of the group.
Probably more than you wanted to know.
Take care of yourself.
Leonidas
< Message edited by Leonidas -- 3/24/2004 7:36:58 AM >
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