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was blocked - 8/4/2010 8:47:36 PM   
nudeslavebobbi


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Status: offline 		i contacted a woman and told her that she was a phony. now i think i was wrong and would like to contact her. what can i do?
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RE: was blocked - 8/4/2010 8:51:39 PM   
KyttynTheMynx


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Status: offline 		Nothing. One should always think before pressing the send button.

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RE: was blocked - 8/4/2010 9:01:57 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Seriously, dude, why would you contact someone unless you wanted to talk with her?  What do you stand to gain from calling someone a phony?  And why do you want to contact her now?

She simply blocked you.  No wasted effort on her part, while you're contacting people you don't even know and calling them names, then trying to contact them again.  Lots of wasted effort.

Learn from this.  Only spend time with people you want to be with, and don't piss them off.




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RE: was blocked - 8/4/2010 9:05:21 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Oh hell... just go to your dominant profile and email her and beg to be forgiven.

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RE: was blocked - 8/4/2010 9:05:37 PM   
Chrisincuffs


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Only spend time with people you want to be with, and don't piss them off.


Very well put!

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RE: was blocked - 8/4/2010 9:32:14 PM   
heartcream


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Only spend time with people you want to be with, and don't piss them off.


I agree with the first half of this sentence but the second half. I dont want to directly piss anyone I like off but I know from time to time I have. I might speak my mind on something that we are not aligned with and there is a chance that it might piss that body off.

I could hold my tongue and not speak my mind when it might cause a possible unpleasant wave but I dont believe in putting this forward as the best decision to make for me or anybody else. Personally I would like to feel people are being genuine with me even if that means I might not dig what they gots to say. As I heard in a song, "It is more important to be kind than to be right" but it is also important to be oneself.

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RE: was blocked - 8/4/2010 10:13:08 PM   
BentUnit


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ORIGINAL: nudeslavebobbi

i contacted a woman and told her that she was a phony. now i think i was wrong and would like to contact her. what can i do?


Suck it up and deal.

You behaved like an asshat and she's done the right thing in blocking you.
Any sane woman when treated like that would do the same thing.

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RE: was blocked - 8/4/2010 10:45:12 PM   
CynthiaWVirginia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: nudeslavebobbi

i contacted a woman and told her that she was a phony. now i think i was wrong and would like to contact her. what can i do?


You learned something, and that was the most important thing.  Not to let history keep repeating itself.
 
Unless you make another profile and apologise for having been an asshat, there's nothing much you can do.  (If you are going to apologise to someone do a good job and not use "if".) 
 
I block people who are unforgivably rude to me.  I completely forget their names, that they even exist.
 
In the past few days since I changed my profile from switch to Domme, I have gotten mail from at least half a dozen males who were rude.  You might be lost in the deluge, so...find some way to move on.  If making a new profile with something else as an avatar instead of your pic will help, then kill this old profile off and start again with a blank slate.
 
Or suck it up and put your best foot forward next time.
 
I will tell you something I found amusing...it happened yesterday.  Someone sent me a chat invite, and thinking it was someone I knew, I accepted.  There was a "slave" from Canada who obviously hadn't read my profile that said I was NOT looking, nor my latest journal entry that said I have someone under consideration already and wasn't looking. 
 
After a few minutes of friendly conversation, he made a statement about his having decided he will be mine after he knows me better, I corrected this and he went off on me...calling ME a "time waster."
 
After the initial choking spew of iced tea all over my keyboard, I only laughed and went onto opening my next letter.  I hope this helps put things into perspective for you.
 
It's okay.  You messed up, and it will probably not be the last time you make a mistake; you're only human.  You can be kind next time, if someone approaches you and you think something is hinky about them or you know the both of you are not compatible for whatever reason, just say, "I don't believe we are compatible.  Good luck in your search."
 
I know who I am and that I am real, I don't need to prove myself to anyone.  Maybe she feels the same way I do and nothing you said had the power to hurt her...other than causing a brief moment of irritation. 
 
Best luck to you in your search...and remember, as hard as it is on you at this site being a male...it is also very hard on females.  I have burnt out several times and needed some downtime. 

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RE: was blocked - 8/5/2010 1:34:12 AM   
ResidentSadist


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Status: offline 		You went out of your way to tell someone they were a phony?  I'd block you too.

Here is what people like you use to advance to the next level (stalker):
Start a dozen alt accounts and mail more and more letters telling them they are phony,
or that if they were a real sub, they would send those nekked pics you wanted,
or you forgive them if they blow you,
or you want them to move in on your first meeting,
or they need a cam so you can be their cyber slave,
. . . then open a Nigerian bank account and demand money for airfair.

Do all that and you will have the bases covered. 

< Message edited by ResidentSadist -- 8/5/2010 1:57:37 AM >

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RE: was blocked - 8/5/2010 2:01:51 AM   
BentUnit


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

You went out of your way to tell someone they were a phony?  I'd block you too.

Here is what people like you use to advance to the next level (stalker):
Start a dozen alt accounts and mail more and more letters telling them they are phony,
or that if they were a real sub, they would send those nekked pics you wanted,
or you forgive them if they blow you,
or you want them to move in on your first meeting,
or they need a cam so you can be their cyber slave,
. . . then open a Nigerian bank account and demand money for airfair.

Do all that and you will have the bases covered. 


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RE: was blocked - 8/5/2010 4:13:03 AM   
wandersalone


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CynthiaWVirginia
Unless you make another profile and apologise for having been an asshat, there's nothing much you can do.  (If you are going to apologise to someone do a good job and not use "if".) 


If someone made another profile in order to send me another message after I had blocked them I would simply block them again.  He screwed up in a big way, I would get creeped out and think he was a stalker if he made another profile

quote:

ORIGINAL: CynthiaWVirginia
If making a new profile with something else as an avatar instead of your pic will help, then kill this old profile off and start again with a blank slate.

 
I don't know....I tend to feel that people should own their screw ups, creating a new profile and hiding himself by not keeping this photo or acknowledging what his previous profile nic was seems cowardly and isn't about owning screw ups.  It would mean he could possibly contact the same person/people he has already pissed off and have them be none the wiser.  I would hope that he tells them who he is/was and that they would then have the option of choosing to have further contact with him or not.

OP, you screwed up.  Think next time before sending that rude message to a stranger.   If you wouldn't go up to a stranger in real life and call them a fake don't do so on the computer.



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RE: was blocked - 8/5/2010 6:18:33 AM   
OohAahMrs


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RE: was blocked - 8/5/2010 6:15:32 PM   
tiggerspoohbear


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Status: offline 		So now you "think" she's not a phony? And that was your first contact with her? No damn wonder she blocked you, I woulda sent you back a snarky reply first then blocked you. And what is it exactly that now makes you think she's not? Yeah, it's too late, she's blocked you, that's the end.

I'm submissive and been told I'm a phoney and a fake because a) I won't call someone Sir if i don't know him b) wasn't willing to go on cam naked c) refused to discuss my sexual preferences right off the bat c) because someone was rude and i got persnickety right back, the reasons go on. I've even got hell from a few for having the apparent nerve to stay on here with a new profile that says I'm now taken. Block, block, block, block, and more block.

So suck it up buttercup and don't do it again. Do NOT make other profiles, that just screams squikky and creepy. You made the mistake, you own it.

And all this within a week of joining up. So i guess a welcome is in order since this is the intro section. Where you're supposed to introduce yourself?



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RE: was blocked - 8/6/2010 6:53:29 AM   
sirsholly


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quote:

ORIGINAL: nudeslavebobbi

i contacted a woman and told her that she was a phony. now i think i was wrong and would like to contact her. what can i do?
ask yourself just why in the hell she would want to hear anything you have to say.

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RE: was blocked - 8/6/2010 8:16:44 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		yup, I'm with Holly on this one.

She thinks you're a prick - so what?

Now you know you did a stupid thing, there's less chance of you being a prick with the next woman.

I hope.

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RE: was blocked - 8/6/2010 8:27:48 AM   
juliaoceania


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From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline 		This is entertaining to me....

I blocked a bunch of people, some for sending me shit like you spewed to a stranger, some of them for incessantly emailing me... I decided to take everyone off block.

I get this sheepish email from someone that "apologized" for sending me a rude "you aren't a sub and get off this site" email. So I accepted his apology...

He emailed me back that he was going to be in LA and wanted to meet me ... Needless to say he only apologized because he wanted to meet me as he was in my city for a couple of days. He wanted a booty call and thought he could get one with only an apology. What a laughable asshole..

If you are truly sorry, just don't do it again. If you are regretful that you slammed the door on an opportunity, well too fucking bad for you.

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RE: was blocked - 8/6/2010 9:50:37 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Gotta love those:  I am traveling and will be in your area, want to get together?  emails.  Why would I want to bother?  

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RE: was blocked - 8/6/2010 9:55:44 AM   
loverly


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Status: offline 		Unfortunatly .. You can never take back a first impression and should remember that !

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RE: was blocked - 8/6/2010 11:35:38 AM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Gotta love those:  I am traveling and will be in your area, want to get together?  emails.  Why would I want to bother?  


Especially when the same person was ranting at me how unreal and untrue I was a month before

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