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Ideas please - 8/5/2010 3:51:44 AM

delicatelydirty

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I have a bit of a strange situation, the fem half of the couple I play with has approached me and asked me to top her man for a couple of hours. Normally when I play with them he is Dom and she either watches or bottoms with me although I am aware they switch with each other.
My dilema is that I very much want to do this but I am so very submissive and topping is not something that flows naturally for me. This is all a lighthearted fun situation and I just wanted a few ideas of potential scenarios. (side note I have a fully functional cross I can use too

) hehe so maybe the idea of turning the tables for a couple of hours sounds fun.
He isnt a huge pain puppy so probably more along the lines of humilation and bondage ... because seriously the whole set up will be a huge mindfuck

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RE: Ideas please - 8/5/2010 3:56:52 AM

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Why not ask if the two of you could co-Top him? You could learn by watching her and playing along. So you would be Topping him but wouldn't have to take the lead in it. Maybe later, you could Top him alone.

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RE: Ideas please - 8/5/2010 4:05:29 AM

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She has to work late... and she knows that the idea of him coming to my house and my topping him will mess with him because he doesnt think I have it in me so while your idea would be ideal it would also kinda mess with the element of surprise if you know what I mean ...

I am sure I can do it ... I think there is an evil streak in here somewhere... actually I know there is an evil streak in here... I just need a starting point and a plan of sorts. And as I said it will all be very lighthearted nothing to heavy or serious.

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RE: Ideas please - 8/5/2010 5:58:22 AM

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have him come over... nice dinner all set up for him.. you know soft lights... soft music.. CANDLES... with any luck you have dinner chairs that have arms on them.. place a bag under the table hidden by the table cloth that contains the following.. DUCT Tape... small flogger of the genital nature cock ring.. blindfold.. gag if thats your thing.. and cuffs.... you tell him as your there kneeling btwn his knees.. your going to give him the ride of his life..and the best blow job ever.. BUT.. you want him to feel the sensations completely and whip out the duck tape.. and tape him to the chair so he cant move... flutter flutter.. then you up the anti.. cuffs cock ring blindfold..etc.. then play tease and denial for as long as you like.. do some mild cbt.. play wiht his nipples.. do some light wax play.. let him beg to cum.. call him names.. nothing to serious.. or that requires expertise in whips, floggers and electricity..

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RE: Ideas please - 8/5/2010 6:30:14 AM

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oh I like the tying to the chair ... would have to be dessert .. will find out what he likes ...

thankyou

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RE: Ideas please - 8/5/2010 10:46:45 AM

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This wont be a surprise coming from me but:
Dress “to the nines” (seductive maximum). Wearing stilettos of course and while he’s bound, blindfolded (or not)touch him with the stilettos.
PS. Its admirable/attractive that you’re open minded to the idea and admit your evil streak.

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RE: Ideas please - 8/6/2010 4:53:10 AM

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if you set up a dinner scene, ice cubes are always a nice touch use your imagination for time and placement. if he is really suggestible, serve something that requires carving, which brings a knife to the table. Once he is blindfolded and very secured, use your butter knife (as dull as you can, and the flat side) and see if you can convince him that it is the carving knife. Carry on conversation with a silent observer. It should make him wonder who else is there. A simple "Oh no, do you really think so?" just before you start something new will have him squirming in the chair. If you do not know them already, find his tickle spots. just a few thoughts.

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RE: Ideas please - 8/6/2010 8:38:31 AM

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I would start out by making him strip and clean for an hour or so. Make him clean your tub and toilet or scrub your kitchen floor. Some other ideas might come to mind while you relax and watch him.

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RE: Ideas please - 8/6/2010 11:12:25 AM

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Easiest advice? If you have similar play tastes, do whatever kind of scene you would enjoy if you were bottoming.

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RE: Ideas please - 8/6/2010 2:53:09 PM

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I think for me the hardest 'obstacle' of switching is never the kink, but the mindset. Switching on someone who has become firmly rooted as 'dominant' in my mind can be hard.

If it's mindset, play a little game of it. Perhaps pretend the female counterpart has given you a specific set of 'orders' to carry out upon this 'unsuspecting victim' putting some context and role play on the situation can help you get far more into the mindset where you can have fun with it. Find a 'role' that you think would be interesting that will still let you carry out your 'mission' upon the male, and go from there?

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RE: Ideas please - 8/6/2010 4:35:51 PM

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Hello A/all!

Ms. DelicatelyDirty, this sounds like it could be fun!.. Fun!.. FUN!... The senario that comes to mind to me is what I call 'The Hostile Takeover.' Make it clear to him that the tables are TURNED! I'd like to offer a bit of a twist on LadyPact's sugestion. Give him a taste of the things that he enjoys when he tops. If the situation is to be light hearted a 'taste' sounds about right for the event.

You could also hypnotize him with you Pentagram necklace. It works on me.

Respectfully,
Mike
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PS: How is your Winter going?

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RE: Ideas please - 8/8/2010 2:37:07 AM

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Thankyou all for your advice ... I was doomed from the start ... What Prolific said was true ... He couldn't bottom to me, the whole time he was being compliant he was just toying with me... I am a great seductress (if I do say so myself) so I know he had fun but we both knew from the moment he arrived that this was a little game that I would lose in the end ...
So we had fun with me pretending to be in charge ... then he called his wife told her he was bringing a present home ... and things went back to how they should be.

We had a big chat about it all and I think I could top someone who doesn't know me as a sub but with him our roles are so clearly defined. Also I think the whole idea of humiliation play is where I come unstuck, that is what he is into and I can't do that to someone... and I did try lol

In the end we all had fun which was the goal so all's well that ends well

Oh and P.s Snowranger we dont get much of a winter where I am... we wear jumpers for maybe 2 weeks a year

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