SweetDommes
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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig We shouldn't give Proprietrix a hard time though. The truth is we all live with or a round some a**holes, and cannot always control our environment. We definitely shouldn't stone her because she told of her experience. M Yeah - I'm related to some of prime examples of assholes. However, those relatives are not welcome in my house. I don't shun them, but I don't ask them over for dinner either. I'm not stoning her because of her telling her experience - I'm stating my opinion of it. If I feel that someone is mistreating or insulting either of our boys, they will be asked to leave. Her post happened to touch off some feelings because I have issues with the "good ole boy" mentality anyway, and so if it happens in my house, I put a stop to it - I can't control what they do outside of my house, but I damn well can control what they do inside my house, or they won't be in my house. I have also found that most people who are "teasing"or "razzing around" about things like male submission aren't doing so in a friendly manner. They have no problems with male Dominants, but always have an undercurrent of honest antagonism and distain for male submissives - especially rednecks (I've lived around them long enough and am related to enough of them to see a pattern here ... maybe your rednecks are different ... but somehow, I doubt it). And I'm not saying that friendships should be cut off - but there is a difference between cutting off friendships and allowing certain behaviors in your living space. I have friends who are not comfortable with the lifestyle choices that we have all made - so they don't come over to our house. We go out and spend time together, we talk on the phone, we chat online - but if they start to say things that I feel are disrespectful to me or to our boys, then the conversation is ended for the moment and we can talk later. I explain my opinions/feelings/knowledge on whatever they ask about - if they are honestly curious and wanting to understand, then I have no problems with it. If they are only digging for dirt, or if they are being derogatory, then I quit answering questions. I only have one friend who I flat out refuse to talk about WIIWD with ... and that's because of his attitude towards it and our boys. I'm still friends with him; we just don't discuss that part of my life. And once again, there is something to be said for discretion. I live my life how I see fit, and I don't tell others how to live theirs ... but at the same time, I don't leave my lifestyle equipment laying around for any and all to see. That just opens up the door to more conflicts and issues that I don't feel the need to go into with everyone who comes into my home. We have friends with unmentionables ... do they need to see our collection of home made floggers? No ... Does my mother need to see the dildos and vibrators? No ... We have our play space/bedroom that is off limits to people, and we have our living space that we keep clear of play impliments unless we are using them out there. I am glad that some people can be that open, but that's not us (for many reasons, but mostly because we are just private people) - and I'm going to state my opinions if people post about being that open with their lifestyle and then mention having neighbors with issues towards it. And now I will step out of this thread and not come back. To the OP, I'm sorry for the highjack.
< Message edited by SweetDommes -- 4/20/2006 2:40:50 PM >
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