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boiinheels -> To all the young subbie boys, don't give up hope! (9/23/2004 1:30:48 PM)
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I have loved the fetish scene since as far back as my early teens. I can remember being turned on at Deborah Foreman’s orgasm received at the touch of the Marquis De Sade’s whip in the 80’s horror flick Waxwork and being in awe a segment on HBO’s Real Sex 3 showing the inner workings of a dungeon and it’s Mistresses. Being a pop culture junkie, it should be no surprise that it took cable TV to bring my deviant ideas to the forefront of my mind. I didn’t get to really experience the scene as it is until I was in my early twenties. I am not far from there now, as I am only twenty-four years old. One thing I did notice was that it is very hard for a twenty something average Joe to be accepted into the fetish scene, particularly a subbie.
The fetish scene is just like any other scene out there. Whether you are a punk rocker, a Goth chick, or sitting at the cool lunch table, things do have a tendency to get cliquish. New faces can generally be shunned away because “they don’t know what they are doing.” I think people have a tendency to forget that we were all at that point once. We as a community must embrace newcomers to the scene, or else we will be like one of those religions that doesn’t allow sex, therefore no procreation, therefore no new followers.
However, young women tend to be accepted on the scene rather quickly. Older dominant males always seem to want to take on the new, hot, young lady. I cannot blame them. These women are very attractive and have definite potential to become whatever they want on the scene. They can grow to be a collard slave, a bitch goddess or a greedy switch looking for the best of both worlds. (Just kidding kids, I switch as well!) On the other hand, the older, experienced female dominants tend not to want to deal with newbie, subbie boys. I can empathize with their reasoning to a point. With a scene that is so rooted in sexual urges, one must be wary of those just looking for a cheap thrill and some easy sex. Twenty something males can be horny little devils, trust me, I know. Of course, now we are stereotyping. Stereotypes do happen for a reason, there is always a little truth to them. It would be unfair to judge all twenty something males based on the actions of a few neardowells. There are twenty-year old males who have a definite interest and love for bondage, fetish wear, sadism, masochism and whatever other kink you can define, that are just looking for someone to take them under their wing and help them along.
I was at that point for quite sometime. However, I did meet several dominant females who really helped me discover new things in the scene. They showed me the places to go, the people to talk to, and even the people NOT to talk to. I appreciate everything they did for me and now I have much more real time experience in the scene, and in play. I just want to let all the twenty something subbie boys to know, don’t give up hope, there are people out there that will help you, and don’t let a few close minded people bring you down. Close-minded people on the fetish scene, can you believe it?
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