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seducing a sub and then dominating him - 4/19/2006 2:47:26 PM

teazchaz

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I was just curious if any of the dommes (not really sure what the hell that word means) have ever seduced a guy and teased him into getting all worked up and then once he is in this condition, dominating him by using him for your entertainment and pleasure.

Yes, i admit up front that this is a fantasy of mine and a shameless attempt at throwing this out to find out whether anyone actually has done this because the idea of it turns me on. Hopefully you can have fun with it. But if you feel i must be castigated for putting it out here, then go ahead if you have to.

But it would be wonderful to hear about any experiences you might have in turning a guy into your sub this way. How you did it, what his reaction was, and how it turned out. Thanks much for playing along.

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RE: seducing a sub and then dominating him - 4/19/2006 2:58:47 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: teazchaz

I was just curious if any of the dommes (not really sure what the hell that word means) have ever seduced a guy and teased him into getting all worked up and then once he is in this condition, dominating him by using him for your entertainment and pleasure.

Yes, i admit up front that this is a fantasy of mine and a shameless attempt at throwing this out to find out whether anyone actually has done this because the idea of it turns me on. Hopefully you can have fun with it. But if you feel i must be castigated for putting it out here, then go ahead if you have to.

But it would be wonderful to hear about any experiences you might have in turning a guy into your sub this way. How you did it, what his reaction was, and how it turned out. Thanks much for playing along.

More times than I can count.

It's not as manipulative though as the way you presented it. Instead, it was just a simple seduction -- most men enjoy it when a woman is aggressive and confident and they fall into place when asked to take commands and be told how the woman wants to be pleased. The hardest part about this in my 20s was making sure the guys didn't obey just because they wanted to get laid; that wasn't part of the bargain. I wanted them to obey because they got a rush out of pleasing me despite their helpless situation. Most men enjoy turning a woman on and being able to play a role in her pleasure if he is attracted to her.

I never "turned a guy into a sub" -- I introduced them to a version of sensuality they had not experienced before and most of them found it to be a flavor they liked. It's not as cut and dried as the fantasy stories make it -- it's not a tease/deny situation where a guy is duped into obeying, tied up, locked up in a cock cage and then told, "You are my slave now, you have no choice." It's also not a malicious seduction where the guy is turned into a dope for falling for it and ridiculed/used as a lesser being by the woman who is all powerful and controlling.

At the core of it, it's consensual and romantic. But yes, there have been many times I took a man who had no interest or idea in bondage or submission and then made a decision in my head, "I MUST tie that guy up...and I want him to do as I say..." and then I went on to find a way to do it. Never maliciously, though.

And, most importantly, I didn't tease/deny them to make them sexually vulnerable (read: horny as hell) and then take advantage of them. I do that A TON with guys I am in a relationship with because they know that power exchange is part of the gig. But I wouldn't get a guy all worked up (who was a total stranger) then try to "turn the tables on him" and laugh and say "ha ha, no sex for you! I am the femdom! You are my pigslave!" -- dangerous situation when played out the wrong way with a horny guy who won't take no for an answer.

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RE: seducing a sub and then dominating him - 4/19/2006 3:05:35 PM

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It would be so great to have a domme seduce me! It would be great just to have one use me period. Why is it so hard to find someone locally that is for real, when I'm right here and willing to give myself?

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RE: seducing a sub and then dominating him - 4/19/2006 3:16:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: teazchaz

I was just curious if any of the dommes (not really sure what the hell that word means) have ever seduced a guy and teased him into getting all worked up and then once he is in this condition, dominating him by using him for your entertainment and pleasure.

Actually, a lot of my applicants have told me that's how they got their first experience in the lifestyle. (Just another one of my nosy questions. lol) Another very good reason to experience life beyond the internet...

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RE: seducing a sub and then dominating him - 4/19/2006 3:20:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sublace

It would be so great to have a domme seduce me! It would be great just to have one use me period. Why is it so hard to find someone locally that is for real, when I'm right here and willing to give myself?

sublace

What qualities do you have to make a woman want to seduce you? Seduction takes effort...and is a risk. So you have to be ultimately irresistable -- not simply available. That's the key factor.

Also don't be too overly willing. There's not too much thrill and excitement seducing a man who would be willing to give himself to anyone, anywhere, just because they like the fantasy of it. Part of the rush of seducing a man is knowing he's not about to let anyone break down his barriers, and he's willing to trust. Not just a man throwing himself at my feet.

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RE: seducing a sub and then dominating him - 4/19/2006 3:31:06 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: teazchaz
I was just curious if any of the dommes (not really sure what the hell that word means) have ever seduced a guy and teased him into getting all worked up and then once he is in this condition, dominating him by using him for your entertainment and pleasure.

Yes, i admit up front that this is a fantasy of mine and a shameless attempt at throwing this out to find out whether anyone actually has done this because the idea of it turns me on. Hopefully you can have fun with it. But if you feel i must be castigated for putting it out here, then go ahead if you have to.

But it would be wonderful to hear about any experiences you might have in turning a guy into your sub this way. How you did it, what his reaction was, and how it turned out. Thanks much for playing along.

No.
I want my subs and slaves to submit to me because submission and surrender is what they feel deep inside, and because they respect me, not because I seduced them. I'm confident enough in my prowless as a woman that I can seduce the majority of men, the majority of the time. But surrender because one truly respects me and trusts me, *that's* appealing!
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RE: seducing a sub and then dominating him - 4/19/2006 6:01:24 PM

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Well, if you're talking about teasing with a wink and a smile, a caress on the back of the neck with a polished fingernail, stictly vanilla, then yes. I do that all the time. And then the man can be quite entertaining and cute as he does My bidding for the rest of the evening: fetching Me a glass of wine, offering Me his suit jacket because I am cold, holding My cigarettes, lighting one for Me and a myriad of other little services. But I am not doing this to try to see if he is submissive. I am doing this because I can, and it is natural to Me, and it makes the evening much more pleasant.
When I meet some one for a possible lifestyle connection, no, I do not. I am not into the "it's a challenge to bring him to his knees". I realize a boy can and should choose the FemDom who is right for him. But I am not going to go out of My way to overtly seduce him so that he will choose Me. He is already telling Me he is submissive, so I don't want him to put Me in a position of proving to him that I can dominate him. I either can or he is not interested. I am looking for a lifetime connection, so he will see the real Me, which includes many facets. And I would want him to choose the whole FemDom, and not just the sexy side.
Then again, I consider Myself sexy all the time! *Smile*

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RE: seducing a sub and then dominating him - 4/19/2006 10:04:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: teazchaz

I was just curious if any of the dommes have ever seduced a guy and teased him into getting all worked up and then once he is in this condition, dominating him by using him for your entertainment and pleasure.

Yes.

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RE: seducing a sub and then dominating him - 4/20/2006 6:16:27 AM

teazchaz

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i guess the reason i am curious about this is because i've never had a relationship with a woman, other than professional experiences, where i was submissive to her. i have had typical vanilla relationships with other women. Like many men, i am used to making decisions and being in charge, and yet i've fantasized about what it would be like to meet a strong assertive woman who seeks to conquer and control me just because she can, even though i don't come on to her as submissive to her. It's interesting to hear from several of you that you have had dominant relationships with men that began this way, and even that it is more of a turn on to you if the man does not immediately throw himself at your feet. i think that would be so exciting to be involved in that kind of a relationship, where we begin without preconceived roles and She naturally seduces and then takes control over me, just because she wants to and she can.

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RE: seducing a sub and then dominating him - 4/20/2006 7:00:17 AM

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I think that's what I did routinely before I knew what SM was and that others did it in far safer ways than I did. I think a boy or young man will do a lot if he thinks it will lead to him getting off or getting intercourse.

Now I'm upfront about it and negotiate. Those have been the relationships that are most fulfilling and long-term for me.

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RE: seducing a sub and then dominating him - 4/20/2006 3:31:35 PM

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greetings

Oh that has been done so manytimes~
But as a Domme to have them submit to what they crave for long for!
I can have almost any man.
But best is the man who is true and mine
power my control is the key.

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