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subwaythru -> RE: I found an injured bird in my yard, and tried to call for help, but it died before I could call (9/4/2010 8:15:46 PM)
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Each of us is born, we live, we die, and and in this way we go on forever, because no one and no thing can leave this place without leaving the effects of their existence. I smile when I walk to Mother's favorite plant on the mountain top, because her footsteps have helped to create the path to the plant, just as her ashes gently absorb into the soil around her plant and slowly into the roots and so into the plant as food. It is with profound awe that I realize and acknowledge that Mother's presence has created who I am and the flower we both so love. Eventually, with natural erosion, Mother will be quietly wash down the high hills into the river at their base, and she will be the river. I walk down to river by my house and sit there and smile as I see my Mother floating by.
Yes, Sum1ForFun, these facts are indeed the circle of life, and, yes, we, all of us face those facts. There is also a thing called grief and loss, which is also something that each of faces, each in our own way. I am so humbly grateful and even flattered that toppingfrombottom felt safe enough and that we here were her trusted family so that she could, with confidence, bring this sadness to share among those who love her. It is really something to feel one has a place to go where one will not be jeered at or dismissed.
There are all sorts of grief we will suffer in our lifetime. There is the usual accepted concept of grief for the death of another human being, and there is also grief for pets, there is grief for what was, what will never be, and for what could have been. One may grieve for roadkill, and one may grieve for a lost relationship, and one may grieve for the decline and death of a favorite plant. Each person deals with their grief in their own way. No one gets to decide for us what we grieve, how we grieve, how long we grieve, and, especially, what sort of memorial tribute we offer in the goodbye to our dead, except we, ourselves, in our own personal way, in reconciling this loss. There is nothing the rest of us can do to "make it better". But what we can do is offer our condolences and our support, which mostly just means our availability to provide a loving ear to the bereaved as long as they need to talk through their time of grief.
I hope you are doing okay, toppingfrombottom, and please, you can see from the other posts here that you are not only welcomed, but encouraged, to bring all of yourself, the glad times and the sad times, here to share where you are among friends and chosen family. I am sure I am not alone in inviting letters as well. xoxoxo
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