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HappyMinion -> Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 6:13:40 PM)
Hello All, Please accept a very respectful and well meaning question. I am looking to please (my Dommes pleasure) not mine. Through work, service, and simple gifts... I was hoping some Dommes might offer a few suggestions. The sort of things I have done so far... include... -Washing her car during the evening to surprise her in the morning -Monitoring her fridge and keeping it stocked with her favorite items (before) they run out... I think she is wondering how things magically re-appear :) I have made a list all her favortie music and made a CD and placed it on a new IPOD for her Pre-paying for a pizza and having it sent to her house.. I basically believe that if I truly wish to serve and be her "SLAVE" which I very much do. I should work hard for her and the opportunity. But a few suggestions would be gladly appreciated... Thanks, robby.

Cloudz -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 6:28:38 PM)
Hi robby and welcome to the boards, It sounds like you have a good handle on what you need to do. My boy specializes in surprising and delighting me. He anticipates what I may want and generally offers it just the split second before I realize I want it, which is a magical trait to be sure. The nice things he does are simply a part of him and the reason they are so nice is because of who I am. In other words, each situation is different. For example the sound of his voice in the dark is just like liquid silk. The same words said face to face or whispered in my ear make me grin in the daylight..but in the dark <sigh> amazing. This situation is unique to him, I have never reacted that way with any other. So, it is a unique answer for each of us, I suspect.

Proprietrix -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 6:52:41 PM)
And you already have a Domme? Damn. Well, here's my suggestions for the lucky lady. Along the line of gifts - big fluffy towels. Huge ones. And fluffy ones. And wash them first to get rid of the store ickies. No one can ever go wrong with gift cards either. Check the expiration date on the milk. A coffee pot (if she drinks coffee) that has an automatic timer so it starts brewing in the morning about 10 minutes before her alarm goes off. Note close friends and family member birthdays. She'll probably be getting them a gift (another good use of her gift card that you got her.) Other things that often need restocked: postage stamps, tape, saran wrap, toilet paper, etc... Any pets? I know my cats need food, their bowls washed (I hate doing), the kitty litter changed (I hate doing) Changing batteries in the smoke detectors. (although you may want to put a little posty on there with the last date they were changed so she isn't wasting batteries.) Spare batteries next to the flash light. Cleaning off the computer keyboard, monitor, telephone receiver, and doorknobs (especially if she has kids) Change the calendar page when it's a new month. Gas up the car. Hope that helps.

HappyMinion -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 6:57:40 PM)
Thank You... both... What great suggestions... and exactly the sort of ideas I was looking for... She doesn't drink coffee but Tea will work just as well... Some other ideas I have been able to think of... I put 25 dollars a week away for her and offer it as a gift card in six months (or perhaps) just the money... But I thought a card might be better... Also, I was thinking perhaps I could enroll in a cooking class, or doing something else positive that would benifit her... Thanks again for the "wondeful" suggestions... robby.

Proprietrix -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 7:16:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HappyMinion Also, I was thinking perhaps I could enroll in a cooking class, or doing something else positive that would benifit her... Along those lines...... massage classes, cooking classes, accounting, computer repair, automotive mechanics, electronic repair, learning to play a musical instrument (and maybe even making a song for her), CPR, Emergency first aid (both of which are also very good skills to have if you will be attending any public dungeon parties). Also, I noticed you're in Canada. Multi-lingual submissives come in handy at the least expected moments. The same holds true for sign-language. lol, I think I've probably given you enough suggestions to keep you busy 5 to 10 years or so.

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 7:18:42 PM)
Damn, Proprietrix beat Me to it! To bad you are already snapped up! S The best thing to do is pay attention to what she likes, or tasks she particularly dislikes. Two examples... I mentioned (on these boards) that I could not wait to get a new CD. It was in My mailbox a few days later. Very thoughtful and showed the boy was paying attention. Another lovely boy was aware that I have frequent headaches so he gifted Me with a cranial massage for My birthday. Today... I made My big grocery run, and I truly detest having to load and unload the car and get it all put away. I would adore to have a boy who made it his business to make himself available to go with Me to the grocery. Taking a cooking course is a great idea. You might also want to look into learning more about giving a good massage, and how to serve up a nice manicure and pedicure. (If those are things she loves.) Simple things count for much.

SweetDommes -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 7:19:32 PM)
cooking classes are good - and if you have a massage therapy school nearby, that would be good too. keeping her favorite treat around for her during any times that you know will be bad (like, if she has a hard time during her mentrual cycle, or if she has to do monthly reports for work, or if every Wednesday is just incredibly rough on her) ... keeping track of her appointments, like dentist or eye doctor visits or her yearly checkup (and if she doesn't get a yearly checkup, you might want to mention how sad you would be if she were to get ill). Other things like drawing her a bath if you know she's going to be tired - scenting it with some bath oils in her favorite scent is also good (or if you are into aroma therapy - lavendar is good for relaxation, peppermint is good for clearing the mind, and rose is good for ... um ... dang, something, but I can't remember LOL). At our house in the winter, turning on the small heater that we keep in there is enough to make me sigh and smile, knowing that whichever boy did it loves me and doesn't want me to get chilled during or after my shower. For us, it's things like cooking and cleaning - taking care of the animals when we don't have time, they are both very good at getting our favorite candy (although our new boy is still learning about favorite foods), and the new boy always seems to know when I need a hug or a little present (in the last week, which has been really rough on me, I've gotten 3 small stuffed animals - won from one of those claw games, which makes it even better IMO - and a single red rose). Other things to think about, depending on your budget: what is her favorite gemstone? mine is sapphire, so anything sapphire is great, even if it's just a cheapy $20 ring from wally-world what is her favorite flower? buy her a potted plant (and tend it for her) so that she always has it. if she has a place for a flower bed, plant some out there and keep it weeded for her (unless she's one of those that likes to do it herself). if she has a hobby, buy her supplies for it - Holly and I both cross stitch, she knits, and I make dolls from papertwist ... supplies for those are pretty much always welcome who is her favorite author? keep track of when he/she publishes a new book and get it for her. find out if the author is going to be in the area for a book signing and see about getting her to it how about her favorite musician/group? same thing as with the book - buy the cd and/or take her to a concert or maybe she used to have a book that she adored but lost and can't find any more - track it down for her ... same thing with a favorite record her favorite food? take that cooking class and make sure you learn how to make that her favorite tv show? buy the dvd (if it's out) or make sure that it's DVRed/TiVo'ed if she is going to miss it (you know it's love when a boy tapes the Nutcracker Suite and he *hates* classical music sighs and makes eyes at rob) there are dozens of other little things that you can do, depending on her personality and her likes/dislikes.

littlesarbonn -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 7:20:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HappyMinion Hello All, Please accept a very respectful and well meaning question. I am looking to please (my Dommes pleasure) not mine. Through work, service, and simple gifts... I was hoping some Dommes might offer a few suggestions. The sort of things I have done so far... include... -Washing her car during the evening to surprise her in the morning -Monitoring her fridge and keeping it stocked with her favorite items (before) they run out... I think she is wondering how things magically re-appear :) I have made a list all her favortie music and made a CD and placed it on a new IPOD for her Pre-paying for a pizza and having it sent to her house.. I basically believe that if I truly wish to serve and be her "SLAVE" which I very much do. I should work hard for her and the opportunity. But a few suggestions would be gladly appreciated... Thanks, robby. This may sound strange, but I'll let you in on a little secret that works wonders, and it involves just a slight tweak to what you've already written, and it isn't that much of a conceptual change, but in the end it manages to change the very nature of one's submissiveness itself. Let's take one of your examples, to explain better. You mentioned washing her car to surprise her in the morning. That's a good first step. Now imagine doing the same thing and not seeking out a reaction, but doing it so that when she wakes up in the morning she will have a freshly clean car and not have a submissive hovering around trying to get attention for actually doing it. I learned this a long time ago when I was a live-in slave to a woman who ran a very expensive house of domination (where many other women worked for her). It was a beautiful mansion, but the outside of the place was quite unkept. One day on a weekend, I walked outside, and I trimmed the overgrowth on the outside of the long gate, taking probably six or seven hours to do it. She was busy with sessions all day, so she never really missed me, and I would wander in from time to time just to make sure I wasn't ready. Well, in her job, sometimes it would be a few days before she actually ever left the house. It took me 3 days of nonstop working to actually really make the house look wonderful. I never mentioned what I did. I just continued on as normal until one day she was driving her car out of the garage and must have noticed it then. When she came back home, she cornered me and asked if I had done it. I responded I had, and to be honest, the look on her face was the greatest I'd seen since I'd known her. You could tell how pleased she was that not only had I done this to make her place look much better, but she also realized that I wasn't jumping up and down begging her to come outside so she could see what I did for her. It kind of changed the dynamic of our relationship after that as I continued to try to anticipate what she wanted done, mainly inquiring when I wasn't sure, while still relishing the things she instructed me to do in the normal course of our days.

thetammyjo -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 7:28:19 PM)
That is a perfect example of service, littlesarbonn. I'm sure it felt wonderful when she did recognize the work you did but not expecting it is another gift to give her and it opens the door for her more sincere recognizition of the service.

Proprietrix -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 7:42:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetDommes lavendar is good for relaxation, peppermint is good for clearing the mind, and rose is good for ... um ... dang, something, but I can't remember LOL). lmao... apparently not memory eh?

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 7:55:54 PM)
robby, Great ideas! I've posted other suggestions for non-sexual service as part of another thread a few weeks ago. Here's the link. I have this in a word document, if you'd like it. Send me a message if you do. http://www.collarchat.com/m_311039/mpage_1/key_service/tm.htm#311202 Fire

SweetDommes -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 9:43:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Proprietrix quote: ORIGINAL: SweetDommes lavendar is good for relaxation, peppermint is good for clearing the mind, and rose is good for ... um ... dang, something, but I can't remember LOL). lmao... apparently not memory eh? [sm=tongue.gif] That's what the peppermint is for ... and I remembered that one

novacaine -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 10:55:03 PM)
How about having a hot bath ready for her when she gets home from a stressful day of work? Put the towels in the dryer so they're nice and warm when she gets out...candles..that sort of thing? I'd flip if someone did that for me! (& if someone cleaned my kitchen, i HATE doing that...)

SweetDommes -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 11:04:47 PM)
Heh, that reminds me of another thing that the corporal has done ... on a cold night, put her pjs (if she wears them) in the dryer so they are warm for her when she puts them on.

EbonyFtshGoddess -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 11:12:08 PM)
simple things please women. i personally don't like flowers.. they die, i'd rather someone donate that $60 to my favourite charity. also.. listen to what she says. if she mentions that cherries are her favourite fruit (ok so i'm tossing my favourite).. so then send her that. hang on her every word.. few dommes say things for the sake of saying it. if you respond in kind then you will be rewarded thusly. i HATE cash tributes.. i hate to admit it.. cash makes the world go 'round, but cash is so impersonal. i'd rather a response to a thought or need i have. typically it's more toys (that i can use on my boys).. OR.. rubber.. for photo shoots and to feed my own fetish.. remember her bday... get her favourite flowers, send her a written card that's she's not expecting randomly (NO e-cards.. way lame.. just in case you wanted to know) HELLOOOOOOOOOO.. dommes are women too.. we like the spontanious. woo us like you'd woo ANY other woman you want to impress just listen and react.. we hate to say things twice. my two quid worth edited for typo

IndigoDadesi -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/19/2006 11:13:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn This may sound strange, but I'll let you in on a little secret that works wonders, and it involves just a slight tweak to what you've already written, and it isn't that much of a conceptual change, but in the end it manages to change the very nature of one's submissiveness itself. Let's take one of your examples, to explain better. You mentioned washing her car to surprise her in the morning. That's a good first step. Now imagine doing the same thing and not seeking out a reaction, but doing it so that when she wakes up in the morning she will have a freshly clean car and not have a submissive hovering around trying to get attention for actually doing it. I learned this a long time ago when I was a live-in slave to a woman who ran a very expensive house of domination (where many other women worked for her). It was a beautiful mansion, but the outside of the place was quite unkept. One day on a weekend, I walked outside, and I trimmed the overgrowth on the outside of the long gate, taking probably six or seven hours to do it. She was busy with sessions all day, so she never really missed me, and I would wander in from time to time just to make sure I wasn't ready. Well, in her job, sometimes it would be a few days before she actually ever left the house. It took me 3 days of nonstop working to actually really make the house look wonderful. I never mentioned what I did. I just continued on as normal until one day she was driving her car out of the garage and must have noticed it then. When she came back home, she cornered me and asked if I had done it. I responded I had, and to be honest, the look on her face was the greatest I'd seen since I'd known her. You could tell how pleased she was that not only had I done this to make her place look much better, but she also realized that I wasn't jumping up and down begging her to come outside so she could see what I did for her. It kind of changed the dynamic of our relationship after that as I continued to try to anticipate what she wanted done, mainly inquiring when I wasn't sure, while still relishing the things she instructed me to do in the normal course of our days. In a similar story. My slave recently bought me two dozen roses, a box of chocolates and a card--out of the blue. That day I was having a very busy day and I was running late to get home. We had to go grocery shopping so I called up to our apartment and told him to come down to the car without going in when I got home. He protested a little, but I wasnt in the mood to hear it so he came down pleasant as can be and we ran our errands. THEN when I got home and saw the gift and realized that is why he had wanted me to come upstairs. I felt like such an ass...but in a good way. It was more than a thoughtful gift. It allowed me to stop and smell the roses, literally, amidst my busy schedule. Suddenly I was relaxed. My attention was focused on him because I realised that he bought me those things solely because he knew it would make me happy. And THAT is the best gift Ive received in a long long time.

HappyMinion -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/21/2006 12:14:44 PM)
Wow... I am truly amazed at all the wonderful suggestions. I appreciate the time people have taken to reply. In fact of the many things I have now added another myself... To compile a list of services / chores / errands into a list for my domme and simply allow her to check off some things she might enjoy most :) Thanks again, robby.

MHOO314 -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/21/2006 12:51:56 PM)
Be careful, you'll be getting offers to clone yourself! Welcome to the boards.

Real0ne -> RE: Doing "nice" things for a wonderful Domme? (4/21/2006 2:51:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HappyMinion Hello All, Please accept a very respectful and well meaning question. I am looking to please (my Dommes pleasure) not mine. Through work, service, and simple gifts... I was hoping some Dommes might offer a few suggestions. The sort of things I have done so far... include... -Washing her car during the evening to surprise her in the morning -Monitoring her fridge and keeping it stocked with her favorite items (before) they run out... I think she is wondering how things magically re-appear :) I have made a list all her favortie music and made a CD and placed it on a new IPOD for her Pre-paying for a pizza and having it sent to her house.. I basically believe that if I truly wish to serve and be her "SLAVE" which I very much do. I should work hard for her and the opportunity. But a few suggestions would be gladly appreciated... Thanks, robby. Dont change a thing! you are doing fine. Sounds more like you are in love man! Love makes a person want to do for another. in any case glad to hear it and go go go man! good luck to ya, r1

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