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ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan

In the Brain.

QSM

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Hannibal Lecter: No! He covets. That is his nature. And how do we begin to covet, Clarice? Do we seek out things to covet? Make an effort to answer now.
Clarice Starling: No. We just...
Hannibal Lecter: No. We begin by coveting what we see every day. Don't you feel eyes moving over your body, Clarice? And don't your eyes seek out the things you want?

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I think fetishes and fantasies start in childhood. I remember being fascinated by bondage even then and spanking, etc.

I did not know the feelings were sexual in nature, of course, only that they felt good to see or feel.

It was only later on during puberty that I connected the two.

Obviously, more intricate types of behaviors and fantasies happened later on as I learned more about this as an adult.

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ORIGINAL: leadership527

You know I've wondered about this also. Given the disparity in what various cultures find sexually appealing, I have to assume that there is a large cultural element and starting from day 1. Why DO I like black stockings & garter belt? When you step back and think about it, it's kind of random. Not ALL cultures find such things attractive.

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ORIGINAL: pogo4pres

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I think fetishes and fantasies start in childhood. I remember being fascinated by bondage even then and spanking, etc.

I did not know the feelings were sexual in nature, of course, only that they felt good to see or feel.

It was only later on during puberty that I connected the two.

Obviously, more intricate types of behaviors and fantasies happened later on as I learned more about this as an adult.

I know exactly when one of my fetishes began, my fetish for stockings, garter-belts and high heels began when as a lad of about 9 (1967) I saw the movie posters for "The Graduate". Jesus Christ, Anne Bancroft was sexy as hell, and I think those posters and the movie it self, seen a couple years later were the fuel for my always wanting the "older" more experienced women as a teenager.  From there it was a pretty easy move into the realm of the Female Dominant, and exploring my submissive tendencies, of course having a single and somewhat domineering mom helped too.  Damn, if the if the kink life had been more open as she grew up I could see mom as a Domme' easily.  She lived her life and passed away only having a vague understanding of her son's (my) sexuality.  What was really cool though was our ability to talk frankly about sex.  When I was 25 and came home from the USAF I saw the house had been re carpeted, she spoke of her affair with the carpet installer.   How many mom's that were mid-50's in 1983 would say to their son when he noticed the new carpet: "Oh and the carpet wasn't all that got laid either"???   Damn what a great lady she was, and boy do I miss her.


Memorially,
Some Knucklehead in NJ

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For me, it was women's prison movies and pirate movies, both of which had women captive, in bondage, beaten, raped, etc.

I literally remember watching these movies as a very little girl and being SO intrigued.

I had no clue why this was of interest, just that I could not stop watching and then imagining myself in the same position (well not the raped part, I did not understand that until later).

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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For me, it was women's prison movies and pirate movies, both of which had women captive, in bondage, beaten, raped, etc.

I literally remember watching these movies as a very little girl and being SO intrigued.

I had no clue why this was of interest, just that I could not stop watching and then imagining myself in the same position (well not the raped part, I did not understand that until later).

I remember watching this movie..Can't remember now the name of it or the plot for that matter but the one thing I do remember was this guy being done away with by sliding him on a giant razor type blade and into a boiling fiery tub of oil.

I thought to myself..How cool.

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Yikes! No, that sounds too much like a horror film. I was referring to even innocent type of films, like Caged, from 1956, where there was no overt sex or even violence, just the threat of it. And the pirate films were swashbuckling types...

Yours sound scary. :)

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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Yikes! No, that sounds too much like a horror film. I was referring to even innocent type of films, like Caged, from 1956, where there was no overt sex or even violence, just the threat of it. And the pirate films were swashbuckling types...

Yours sound scary. :)

I was just messin :> I do like knife play now though so maybe it did work it's way in there somehow..besides I would have to jump through hoops to get permits for that!