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MaamJay -> RE: Collaring ceremony (8/19/2010 3:49:02 AM)
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Two ceremonies, 2 experiences.
1) I was Domme, collaring a sub (now ex-hub) who had been My sub for about 18 months following the breakdown of our vanilla marriage. he wanted a ceremony, so we invited bdsm friends (and a couple of tolerant close vanillas) along to our house. he took AGES choosing his outfit especially his shoes (cross-dresser!), I ordered My new black velvet fishtailed gown pretty quickly! he said he wanted input to the words but couldn't get beyond blank paper, so I wrote it out and he changed maybe 3 words! Anyway, the gist of it was that we explained a bit about bdsm and what collaring meant, explained that it is not a position of weakness to submit, in fact it takes a lot of strength to yield your will to someone (not that he ever really achieved that in the long run), and then made some vows. We had decided rather unusually, to have matching anklets made with opals taken from an underground hotel room we'd stayed in where opals were mined! I wrote some words comparing the gold chains and the opals to our relationship ... and then I fastened his on his left ankle, and he fastened Mine on My right ankle! We sang a song (and inadvertently recruited 2 bdsm friends to our vanilla choir!), had supper and that was that. Unfortunately, he actually backslid once he'd got the collar and ultimately the whole relationship died.
2) i am sub/slave to Master. He and i had lived together for 2 years before He collared me. We had designed an identity-style bracelet to be my collar, in a celtic interwoven design that matched commitment rings we'd bought each other after 5 months together. The bracelet is silver but with a gold v[A] in the centre. We talked about what we wanted, He wanted us to be alone by the river, and then go out to dinner, so we did. He and i both had ideas for what we wanted to say and put in our private contract, we wrote those down separately and then i combined them and He approved the final wording. We chose a date with meaning to us, the second anniversary of getting together. On the night, we went to the river, said our words and read the contract, He fastened the bracelet to my wrist and then we got the hell outta there as it was unexpectedly cold! We went to a lovely restaurant and had a great meal. 4 years on that bracelet is still on my wrist, i am still happy as His sub!
Hope that helps as these are not your average collarings! Neither involve an actual collar due to problems with heat in Australia!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]
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