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SweetEscravo -> Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 11:53:54 AM)
I have been doing a lot of thinking about the different skills a Dom or Master would ideally want their sub to have and thought I would just ask the community for inspiration as well. What skills or knowledge do you want your subs or slaves to have? Cooking? Sexual skills? Dance? I know that many people will say things like "I want her to be devoted and submissive." Please try to be a little more creative. I'm looking for actual skills one could possess to make him or her more pleasing to a Dom or Master.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 12:01:36 PM)
Most important should be skilled at adaptation and learning itself. http://www.collarchat.com/m_268592/mpage_1/key_skills%252Csub/tm.htm#268592 Service skills!!!

CrappyDom -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 12:11:22 PM)
A well developed "inner observer" a silly new age term that works. It is the development of a little voice that watches the things you do and provides the occasional salient remark or especially question. Like "gee, you are really reacting to that, I wonder what is really going on" or my dreaded favorite for myself "gee, you have done this before, is this some sort of pattern?" And the greatest rewards I have been given were often unexpected and ones I never would have thought to ask for. I try and see what's there before I go looking for what isn't.

BitaTruble -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 12:55:35 PM)
My skill set is composed of generic skills which would probably be of use to anyone and specific skills which are of use to Himself. Generic skills: cooking, cleaning, financial management, organization, secretarial skills and things of that nature. In 46 years, I've picked up too many skills to list them all. Specific skills, things which I learned 'just' because they make his life easier or better: humidor maintenance, understanding the terms which cigar smokers use like BOTL's ::Brothers of the Tobacco leaf:: choosing a good cigar, pipe maintenance, wire jewelry art, Jewish cuisine ::which I have not yet mastered, but I'm getting there::, learning as much as I can about RC ::radio control:: planes and flying. The specifics list is fairly long as well after 10 years, but that's a small sampling. I enjoy learning about the things he likes doing. Not only does it increase my personal knowledge, but it gives us something to share. Celeste

Level -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 4:18:53 PM)
The ability to communicate..... speaking and listening.

mstrj69 -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 4:31:38 PM)
I do not feel there is any given skills a sub could have that would make them perfect for everyone. Every Dom or Master is going to want something else from ther sub or slave. Thus the need to be able to adapt and learn. We are all newbies when it comes to first dealing with a new partner.

cillydom -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 5:06:38 PM)
making decent coffee and a good bj are a good start

AAkasha -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 5:15:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cillydom making decent coffee and a good bj are a good start And in another thread you claim to not be a generic dominant? Akasha

sensualkiten -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 5:17:38 PM)
i agree with the inner observer and communication comments along with the ability to adapt and learn. all of these are the building blocks for any specific skill building. also perhaps the skills of self love and care becuase the more you love and respect yourself the more you can love and respect your One. My specific skill set that i am building is the art of physical, emotional, mental, and Spiritual healing. In specific reiki and Spiritual response therapy, divination are the corner stones. and yes i am still on this path. but one recent example of time i spent with my Own was time i spent truely being grateful and appreciating Him and his masculine energy :) the more i stay on my path the more i have to give. and i am NOT vanilla lol i just dont know how to change the icon. stamps foot and pouts!

cillydom -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 5:22:57 PM)
that was there here i am i can be different doms in different threads online it's allowed

enthralled -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 8:14:25 PM)
It would be individualized to each dominants interests/hobbies/lifestyles. I'm assuming you arent owned. Just a few suggestions: Quite a few dominants are going to have SOME type of leather, be it boots, toys, etc. Leather care & boot blacking are good. If he enjoys the more 'formal' type gatherings or tends to host many: tea service (theres many different types), formal dining, catering, formal protocol, hand-washing ceremony, etc. If he is active in community meets, get-togethers, dungeon society, etc. : Victorian manners, proper etiquette, current events (ok, this one sounds strange but if he's engaged in conversation with someone about politics or something and can't remember that whats-his-name is running for senate, he'll be very appreciative if you're up to date and can whisper the name in his ear lol) domestic, accounting, valet, personal assistant . . . there's really too many to name! Have fun learning!!!! [:D] Respectfully, enthralled

shygirldesires -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 8:28:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetEscravo I have been doing a lot of thinking about the different skills a Dom or Master would ideally want their sub to have and thought I would just ask the community for inspiration as well. What skills or knowledge do you want your subs or slaves to have? Cooking? Sexual skills? Dance? I know that many people will say things like "I want her to be devoted and submissive." Please try to be a little more creative. I'm looking for actual skills one could possess to make him or her more pleasing to a Dom or Master. Might i suggest you read Claudia Varrin's Erotic Surrender she has many suggestions for self preparation

Reasonable -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 9:18:28 PM)
How about a Master's degree, and the ability to pull down six figures a year?

Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 11:03:04 PM)
How about knitting? (Sorry, couldn't resist...) Cin

Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/20/2006 11:10:58 PM)
Okay, the serious response: My writing ability is something I've found all my partners have appreciated. The ability to write out a fantasy or scene that might appeal to me, or give them insights into what I might enjoy. The ability to clealy express my thoughts, so they can better understand me. The ability to write erotic fiction to please them, or an evocative email or text message to liven up a dull day. The other skill I've found appreciated is that of research. Freeing up their time by going forth and getting information that will be useful to them. And I make really good jello...(I'm just saying...cause there's always room for jello!) Cin <~ who is overtired and no doubt should not be posting

IronBear -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/21/2006 12:13:49 AM)
The making and serving of Black Wine ("Black wine, first slave, two sugars no milk or cream..Harta...Harta...Harta...."). Massage specifically relaxing massage and massage of injured and other medical areas...

fullofgrace -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/21/2006 12:56:11 AM)
my skills of graphic and web design, research, and writing are all especially useful for my Dominant. and He claims i am the best at giving blowjobs He's ever had, but i'm not so sure about that ;) i'm also skilled at cooking, cleaning, dancing, and massage, which all come in handy in random situations, depending. those are the ones that have probably come up the most, so far. :) i am building skills of communication on levels i've never communicated with anyone before, as well as, with His training, becoming more adept at separating my emotions from my logic and being able to decide from situation to situation which should rule me. i am with sensualkiten that developing one's own personal self-care and self-esteem is a HUGE skill, one i'm only coming to develop now. i am also very spiritually minded. i can also make green tea, which is His favorite drink, besides water ;)

Level -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/21/2006 4:06:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Vancouver_cinful And I make really good jello...(I'm just saying...cause there's always room for jello!) Cin <~ who is overtired and no doubt should not be posting ................ okay Cin................ back away from the computer.......... thaaaaaat's it.............slowly....... Level PS- Bill Cosby called, he wants you in Philly this weekend LOL...

TxBadMan -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/21/2006 5:35:02 AM)
There are no skills that would make my girl more pleasing than for her just to be herself. That's all I ask for.

Areflectionofyou -> RE: Skills that a sub should have? (4/21/2006 5:40:29 AM)
This girls most valuable skills would be what My owner asked of me.

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