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Mixed messages - 4/20/2006 2:55:27 PM   
EasyE


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Status: offline 		Hi all,

I contacted a Mistress a couple of weeks ago, inquiring about serving her.  She sent me an email back saying that she was interested and wanted to meet the following weekend but no details of where.  The weekend has come and gone but regardless of emails before and after the weekend no response.  Could I be doing something wrong or is this common?  It feels like she shows interest and then drops off the face of the earth.  I am not emailing her excessively and am being polite.

Any ideas?
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RE: Mixed messages - 4/20/2006 3:10:01 PM   
Proprietrix


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quote:

ORIGINAL: EasyE
I contacted a Mistress a couple of weeks ago, inquiring about serving her.  She sent me an email back saying that she was interested and wanted to meet the following weekend but no details of where.  The weekend has come and gone but regardless of emails before and after the weekend no response.  Could I be doing something wrong or is this common?  It feels like she shows interest and then drops off the face of the earth.  I am not emailing her excessively and am being polite.
Any ideas?

I've often forgotten to write back to someone, or inadvertently overlooked an email I had meant to respond to. I think it's because I have a lot of emails to manage and no good system of doing so. But if you've sent her several messages, it wouldn't really explain it. It could be that she has had a family emergency or life change that she is dealing with, and she simply hasn't had the chance to check mail. You may want to send her one last email reminding her who you are and that the two of you were going to meet, and then let her know that you won't write again unless she asks you to.
That's about the only thing I could suggest. Others might have other ideas on the matter that would be helpful.


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RE: Mixed messages - 4/20/2006 3:24:46 PM   
tasha_tart


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quote:

ORIGINAL: EasyE

Hi all,

I contacted a Mistress a couple of weeks ago, inquiring about serving her.  She sent me an email back saying that she was interested and wanted to meet the following weekend but no details of where.  The weekend has come and gone but regardless of emails before and after the weekend no response.  Could I be doing something wrong or is this common?  It feels like she shows interest and then drops off the face of the earth.  I am not emailing her excessively and am being polite.

Any ideas?

This has come up in other threads in the past.  In addition to Proprietrix's suggestions, I'd add:
  • she had second thoughts about meeting, and chose to let her silence speak for her
  • "she" is actually "he" and meeting would mess up the whole wanker thing he's got going.

I think the ball is clearly in her court already, though one last email certainly can't hurt.
 
Good luck.
 
Tasha

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RE: Mixed messages - 4/20/2006 3:36:51 PM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		I think when a Dominant pulls a stunt like this its a black eye to all if us--its so simple and courteous to say "pet, I can't meet you right now" or "pet I didn't mean we'd meet so soon"--common courtesy IMHO.

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RE: Mixed messages - 4/20/2006 3:46:47 PM   
MistressLlyoness


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Status: offline 		There have been times when I, too, have forgotten to reply to an email.  Sad but true.  However, since you have sent several emails it is unlikely you have slipped her mind unless something truly is going on in her life (emergencies do happen) or she is taking the easy way out and not answering in the hopes you will just go away.  If the latter is true, it is unacceptable behavior, no matter who you are.  Good manners are still required.
Ms. Lynette

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RE: Mixed messages - 4/20/2006 4:59:45 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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Status: offline 		Another thing that has Me wondering is the ease in which you sent an email and she immediately discussed meeting.  Although I like to meet someone within a reasonably short period of time, I would be unlikely to arrange a tentative meeting based upon one email.  If a boy is local, I am still apt to email back and forth a few times to get a better feel.
Although it is possible that something came up, you can see if your emails are being opened at this site.  If so, that would probably negate any possibility of circumstances beyond "her" control.  You may have been the victim of a prank or an online game player,and, as Hathor said, that is the kind of stuff that gives all of us a black eye. 

< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 4/20/2006 5:01:06 PM >

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RE: Mixed messages - 4/20/2006 5:07:17 PM   
MistressDREAD


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easye was being easy...........
contacting a Mistress to request to serve on the first email Id of sent back with the command: ask Me if your allowed to write and speak to Me befor ASSuming your allowed to. serve Me HA! you havent even gotten your emails cross My server much less a slaves back inside to be stingingly tickled by My bullwhip. [==~~~~~< ( smak!!

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RE: Mixed messages - 4/20/2006 6:43:46 PM   
Cloudz


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Status: offline 		It is tough when you don't have details on both sides. I agree, if she did it with intent - then it is a black eye for all of us. If she overlooked you, or had something come up unexpectedly...hard to know. I have been guilty of forgetting - but do apologize when it happens. If she said she wanted to meet but gave no details as to where or exactly when...was that the last contact?

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RE: Mixed messages - 4/20/2006 6:52:42 PM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		I forget too, like Propritrix I am in need of a system too, but I am working on it and less folks are falling through the cracks...One last email, telling her what she had said earlier but expressing that there is no pressure from you could not hurt..

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RE: Mixed messages - 4/20/2006 8:42:32 PM   
EasyE


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Status: offline 		We had corresponded in the past but dropped off and didn't go any further.  That is why I was so quick to agree to a meeting.

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RE: Mixed messages - 4/20/2006 9:22:05 PM   
Real0ne


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quote:

ORIGINAL: EasyE
Any ideas?


Next!


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RE: Mixed messages - 4/20/2006 9:29:00 PM   
BigEyes


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Status: offline 		In my experience, the internet is perfect for selfishness. In real life there are social rules that expect certain levels of politeness, whereas on sites like this people can pick and choose how they behave because there is no real comeback. Unfortunately I think your sort of situation comes hand in hand with using this medium.

Think of it as just not meant to be, and don't worry about it! Good luck x

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RE: Mixed messages - 4/20/2006 10:28:56 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tasha_tart

  • she had second thoughts about meeting, and chose to let her silence speak for her
  • "she" is actually "he" and meeting would mess up the whole wanker thing he's got going.
  • Tasha
I like Tasha's options as the most probable reason, and wouldn't send another note, but try if you wish.    M

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RE: Mixed messages - 4/20/2006 11:04:09 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: EasyE

Hi all,

I contacted a Mistress a couple of weeks ago, inquiring about serving her.  She sent me an email back saying that she was interested and wanted to meet the following weekend but no details of where.  The weekend has come and gone but regardless of emails before and after the weekend no response.  Could I be doing something wrong or is this common?  It feels like she shows interest and then drops off the face of the earth.  I am not emailing her excessively and am being polite.

Any ideas?


Easy,

Not only has the weekend come and gone, the whole week has come and gone! If you haven't heard from her since that last contact where she initially agreed to meet, it's highly doubtful you're going to hear from her. You can count your blessings because you haven't invested any time in her at this point, so just move along and keep your search on more positive and encouraging prospects.

Good luck,

Celeste

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RE: Mixed messages - 4/21/2006 12:51:28 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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quote:

ORIGINAL: EasyE

We had corresponded in the past but dropped off and didn't go any further.  That is why I was so quick to agree to a meeting.


I have to admit that the first thing that came to My mind, when I read this, is why did the correspondence drop off?
Honestly, I have boys who get back in touch with Me after stringing Me along and then falling off the radar, even cancelling or standing Me up for a meet.  A few have done it several times.  (Not standing Me up, but re-approaching regarding consideration.)  Now, I would not suggest a meet and then not follow through just to teach a lesson, but I would wonder, in this case, what the circumstances of the previous correspondence were, and how those circumstances might affect the Domina's attitude. 
Not saying it's right, just saying...

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RE: Mixed messages - 4/21/2006 10:01:40 PM   
EasyE


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Status: offline 		I think I am just being ignored as she has signed on since I sent the last few messages and hasn't even bothered to read them.  Oh well there are just so few users in my area.

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RE: Mixed messages - 4/22/2006 10:20:17 AM   
Goddesshesykhia


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Status: offline 		I would have to agree with Dusty. It is odd for a "Domme" to just say She will meet you so soon.  Like the others said, it is unlikely that she forgot your meeting.  She either got cold feet or is a man!

Good luck in your next adventure


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