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Kadu12 -> Where's the Finesse?? (8/18/2010 11:14:16 AM)
I'm used to the Vanilla 'fancy a shag' come ons. I seem to have moved to the 'can I tie you up and shag you'....now there's nothing wrong in that, but in the first or second mail...Pleeaase!!! Maybe I should change my pic? Do Doms really expect a positive response to this, or even a response to this? I'm submissive not stupid and just a tad frustrated by the whole thing, as if you couldn't tell [:D]

hlen5 -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/18/2010 11:16:22 AM)
Kadu12, get used to it. [:D] Welcome to CM!

myotherself -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/18/2010 11:19:21 AM)
I still get those, and I'm a rabbit, FFS! Don't sweat it - just think of it as nature's way of filtering out the fuckwits at an early stage of the proceedings [:D]

hlen5 -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/18/2010 11:21:50 AM)
Kadu, I just went to your profile (as I'm sure you can tell!). Do you think you could expand more on who you are and what you expect from this site? There's nothing to indicate you aren't up for casual encounters. You're not giving people a wealth of info to go on. Best Wishes!!

LadyPact -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/18/2010 11:38:45 AM)
Without having read your profile, there probably is some of it to do with your pic. You have to remember that, on a site such as this, there really are some folks who are specifically looking just for a romp in the hay. A female picture with some nudity is going to draw them like a moth to a flame. It is going to give you a lot more crap to deal with.

Kadu12 -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/18/2010 11:45:15 AM)
Hmmm, I may crop the picture down, when I've used it before it's left more to the imagination, I did have a go but I'm a bit of a technophobe so couldn't figure it out on here. I've added to my profile as suggested...now I'm not sure I don't come across as an arsey cow!!! [:D]

Twoshoes -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/18/2010 11:53:59 AM)
The finesse is where you can't see it.

peppermint -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/18/2010 11:57:10 AM)
You are new here so will show up as a new member. New members get swamped with mail from every Dom, Dick, and Hairy on the site hoping to get to you before you get smart enough to know that they are not Doms or from Doms who smell fresh meat. It should calm down a bit after awhile, but not if you keep that picture as your main picture. As LP has said, that just attracts all the whankers and those hoping to do a one nighter. Putting in your profile that you are not looking for any LTR will also attract those who are looking for a quickie no strings attached erotic evening. Emphasizing the part about wanting to explore with one, even though you do not want a live in situation might help. You do have to realize that many guys who see your picture are not going to bother with reading your profile. "Do Doms really expect a positive response to this, or even a response to this?" Some do and some do not. Remember that as a free site it is easy for any male to check the box that says Dominant and pretend to be one. It is up to you to weed out those who are not what they say they are. If you don't like that approach, block and delete and continue looking for someone you might find attractive. You are never obligated to reply, politely or otherwise, to anyone here or anywhere else online.

hlen5 -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/18/2010 11:59:07 AM)
Not sure what you mean by an arsey cow, but you are giving a clearer picture of who you are. Good job!!

mnottertail -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/18/2010 12:00:54 PM)
well, you don't come across as a cloth eared bint, so you have that working for you.

Musicmystery -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/18/2010 12:10:09 PM)
quote: It's been suggested I fill this part in, hopefully to avoid those mails whereby you Doms who say 'Hi' by telling me you wanna tie me up and fuck me!!! Kill this part. Just get to what you have to say. ALL the profiles that start with negative, reactionary takes go into the "no" pile immediately. It's about you, what you're like, what you're seeking. Skip the rest. Besides, it's not like "Don't be a jerk" is going to stop any jerks. Shrug and move on.

Kadu12 -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/18/2010 12:12:33 PM)
Cloth eared bint....[:D] I'm pleased it's clearer now....I've changed my picture, it's changed in the main section yet when I've checked on here the old ones still showing yet I've deleated the picture from CM so I'm not sure why, any idea's? Is there something else I have to do to remove it from here? Run's off to remove negatives

Musicmystery -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/18/2010 12:24:13 PM)
quote: the old ones still showing yet I've deleated the picture from CM so I'm not sure why, any idea's? Give the server time to catch up with you.

Focus50 -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/18/2010 2:17:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kadu12 I'm used to the Vanilla 'fancy a shag' come ons. I seem to have moved to the 'can I tie you up and shag you'....now there's nothing wrong in that, but in the first or second mail...Pleeaase!!! Maybe I should change my pic? Do Doms really expect a positive response to this, or even a response to this? I'm submissive not stupid and just a tad frustrated by the whole thing, as if you couldn't tell [:D] What I posted in your other thread pretty much applies here, too. You're not gonna get a lot of finesse through a medium (internet) that allows anonymity to those inclined to be obnoxious or live out fantasies they'd never dare in front of real life people. And yes, just giving a sub email commands amounts to living out a fantasy for many "doms". Get over it and only respond to those with a modicom of sincerity, mutual respect and manners toward strangers. Focus.

Kadu12 -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/19/2010 11:13:46 AM)
So far so goodly, hope I've not gone and jinxed things, the picture change and the profile update seem to have worked Thanks for you help xx

sexyred1 -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/19/2010 11:43:05 AM)
To answer the OP: Finesse went away. Got lost in the brave new world of blunt online communication. I wish it would return, same with the rest of the lost arts.

leadership527 -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/19/2010 12:12:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 Finesse went away. Got lost in the brave new world of blunt online communication. This is exactly why I try to be more subtle... something along the lines of, "Excuse me Ma'am, but perchance might I inquire if you'd like to fuck?"

Jeffff -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/19/2010 1:01:07 PM)
" Is that the scent of the fresh air after the rain, or does your pussy smell exceptionally nice today?"

hlen5 -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/19/2010 1:56:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leadership527 quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 Finesse went away. Got lost in the brave new world of blunt online communication. This is exactly why I try to be more subtle... something along the lines of, "Excuse me Ma'am, but perchance might I inquire if you'd like to fuck?" s me of the scene in Notting Hill - a t-shirt reads "(Front)You're the most beautiful woman in the whole world - (back) Fancy a Fuck??"

Kadu12 -> RE: Where's the Finesse?? (8/19/2010 1:57:57 PM)
Ahh, noone was that enchanting

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