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canupleaseme -> RE: 24/7 D/s relationships (5/13/2007 3:39:20 AM)
I think they do. Bu tthen my definition of 24/7 may be different to the next persons. I am my boys mistress everyday of the week together or not and he is my boy. When we are together we play when we can but the point is always there. Being D/s is our relationship thats how we met and what we both want so I couldnt see it ever not being 24/7 . Its definatly all whips and chains though all the time. I imagine that would get boring.

YesMistressIrish -> RE: 24/7 D/s relationships (5/13/2007 6:53:56 AM)
I really enjoyed reading about all the successful 24/7 relationships several people shared here. 24/7 is my dream. I know it may take time and work to create a real-time life with someone. The love goes both ways. And everyone wants different things. I hope you all find what you are looking for. Irish

MzMia -> RE: 24/7 D/s relationships (5/13/2007 9:09:01 AM)
I think most of us need to focus on living day to day with our partners. 24/7 is a final destination for ME, which would involve a collared submissive that I have already created a strong history with. It is the ultimate step and yes I want a BDSM wedding with him in a white gown when we take that step!

DrPleasure -> RE: 24/7 D/s relationships (5/13/2007 9:56:08 AM)
probably depends on the two people. as i start to learn more about bdsm and the different types of roles, i start to understand my needs and capabilities a lot more. i can never be a slave or submissive. but, someone recently described me as a 'warrior' archetype. i serve in my own way by protecting and making my goddess happy. in return, i require that i am her rock. that's the best articulation of my desires that i've ever come across. when i find this, i think 24/7 is absolutely possible

Nikko1962 -> RE: 24/7 D/s relationships (5/13/2007 12:43:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston As others have stated, they work. Expectations should be discussed and everyone needs to be realistic. I don't know anyone who lives in a castle with a dungeon where the slaves are walking around in full fetish attire 24/7 and the Mistress has nothing else to do all day than beat her stable of submissives. Real life exists with work, ums, bills, etc. Mostly, to anyone on the outside it looks fairly vanilla with my boy seeming to be very attentive. We have time for play and time to enjoy one another and various little rituals. As long as everyone communicates and has realistic expectttions, yes it can work. Regardless of what we are doing and who we are with the D/s is always an ongoing undertone even if we are not overtly participating in any particular act. 100% agree with MsK. Especially the "ongoing undertone". My thoughts from a recent 24/7 thread. http://www.collarchat.com/m_941150/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#978196

onthenosetone -> RE: 24/7 D/s relationships (5/13/2007 10:25:39 PM)
Yep....13 years here, we tend to do a public face of Mel'n'Tony as we don't feel it fair to possibly emarass others but at home it's full protocol, honorifics what she wants, how she wants, when she wants, loving femdom 24/7 relationship.....we're BOTH blissfully happy..

MzMia -> RE: 24/7 D/s relationships (5/13/2007 10:27:56 PM)
Congratulations and thanks for sharing. Happy couples give us all hope.[:)]

thetammyjo -> RE: 24/7 D/s relationships (5/14/2007 8:23:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressTina66 Do 24/7 D/s relationships really work? What about if feelings are involved? Feelings? I'm assuming you mean romantic or loving feelings? Why would I invest my time and energy in owning someone I was not emotionally connected with in some manner? As for whether or not 24/7 works, does 7.5 years with my current slave count as any evidence? I can promise though that we do not look like a porn scene or a stereotype but I think that means our authority dynamic is more an everyday thing that is part of who we are as individudals, couple, and family.

pixelslave -> RE: 24/7 D/s relationships (5/14/2007 11:25:05 AM)
Having lived the lifestyle 24/7 for a number of years with a former Mistress, I can say that it can and does work provided the communication is maintained and the needs of both parties are being met. There definitely are vanilla times and "down times" that are needed for both. One can't be "on" as either a "sub on duty" or a "Mistress in control or in charge" all the time. There needs to be time to "just be two people" who care about each other deeply, share common interests, like to do things together, and spend time talking or just doing nothing at all. At least that's the way I found it to be. [8\|] One thing that I'll say for me, even when not "playing" or doing something in a particularly D/s context, in the back of my mind, the submissive mindset never totally goes away. She was always "Mistress" in my mind and I was always HER submissive, regardless of what we were doing (until things approached the end that is). That element was always there at least to some degree; it seemed there was no escaping that feeling for me (and still isn't in my current D/s relationship). While I can't speak for others, I strongly suspect it is much the same for them. [&:] Even though I'm not living the 24/7 lifestyle at this time, my new Mistress is always someplace in my heart and mind. I always feel submissive to her and know that SHE owns a part of me that I cannot at all deny and feel very strongly about. In fact, the feeling is very addictive for me. I find myself wanting, perhaps even needing, and greatly desiring her to own even more of me!!! [8D] - pixel

Copulo -> RE: 24/7 D/s relationships (5/14/2007 11:52:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thetammyjo For me, what works best is what feel natural and simple. I have my rituals and my rules but these are low protocol most of the time so that both of us can live Ds 24/7 with less stress and most individuality. I've tried it with more rules and more rituals but find these limit and restrict me too much. If I feel like I can't be the complete me -- crazy silliness and cuteness and all of that -- then I can't feel dominant or even toppish let alone like an owner. I think this is a really good point. A D/s relationship should not only feel easy and comfortable but MUST be able to fit into your every day existence. What I love about D/s is it can be so incredibly subtle. It can be something as simple as a word, a look, a raised eyebrow! D/s skills are very similar in many ways to parenting skills (without the sub having to be a child!) We expect but encourage, we set rules and expect them to be obeyed, we are highly protective and often loving, we want to help the sub to make the absolute best out of life, to give them confidence and a huge amount of self worth but the bottom line is, they tow the line and abide by the rules.

Ericus1 -> RE: 24/7 D/s relationships (5/14/2007 6:56:52 PM)
As a slave who has had the pleasure of serving 24/7 before, i don't just say yes; I say HELL YES. But just like any other relationship, it takes work and love ericus

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: 24/7 D/s relationships (5/14/2007 7:15:21 PM)
They certainly do work if all parties involved are on the same page. It can only work if all want it.

Unrepentant1 -> RE: 24/7 D/s relationships (5/14/2007 10:13:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDolly quote: ORIGINAL: MistressTina66 Do 24/7 D/s relationships really work? What about if feelings are involved? Yes, in my experience it is feasible for D/s relationships to work. Not only is it important for both people to be clear in their expectations, they both have to be sure it's what they truly want; theoretically they may want this type of relationship but in reality they may not be able to handle it. Usually love (romantic or otherwise) is involved, but not always. I would have to love someone to be so devoted to them, in fact I would have to have strong feelings for them just to submit!

MistressDolly -> RE: 24/7 D/s relationships (5/14/2007 11:13:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Unrepentant1 quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDolly quote: ORIGINAL: MistressTina66 Do 24/7 D/s relationships really work? What about if feelings are involved? Yes, in my experience it is feasible for D/s relationships to work. Not only is it important for both people to be clear in their expectations, they both have to be sure it's what they truly want; theoretically they may want this type of relationship but in reality they may not be able to handle it. Usually love (romantic or otherwise) is involved, but not always. I would have to love someone to be so devoted to them, in fact I would have to have strong feelings for them just to submit! Umm hmm, yes.... :)

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