LadyHugs -> RE: what was the most brutal punishment (4/22/2006 2:45:25 PM)
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Dear Real One, Ladies and Gentlemen; In any relationships there are understandings made as to what is a hard limit and known consequences, such as removal of the collar, dismissed for good and forever ignored. There are also degrees of behaviors that a dominant must make in their priorities of what will be tolerated and what will not be tolerated. Behaviors that are being changed, for example the use of profanity, will be something that will take time to change within reason. That is understood. So the discipline/punishment will fit the degree of that reasonable expectation. Beginners will make mistakes, so a dominant who trains will not go overboard with the punishment/discipline however, makes certain that beginner knows the importance of why certain things must be obeyed. A more advanced slave, to whom knows certain things must be obeyed in a certain way and makes a choice to vary from that behavior, will need to be punished a bit different than a beginner. But, each dominant knowing their slave/submissive best knows how to best punish them and should do so accordingly. That said; there are some behaviors will not be tolerated in my household, no matter if true slave or visiting submissive/slave. That is illegal drug possession and or use in or about my premise, in or about my property and or in or about my presence. I am clear that I won’t tolerate it at the beginning of negotiations before the commitment to a collar, maintain that commitment and stand by that rule. So, the slave chooses to make that violation of those hard limits of mine; they also know the consequences. They will be un-collared; dismissed and kicked to the curb. The relationship is over. For me personally, I am not defined by having a slave or not. I rather be alone and be assured that another individual does not place me at risk, e.g. illegal drug use and or possession. I will work with anybody who will try and patiently so. Humor is welcomed as long as it is respectful. However, I am directing my comments more towards those who make ‘sport’ or ‘play games’ of what some individuals cherish as a sacred relationship of two or more adult individuals, that do not return the respect and communication I give. I would enjoy the relationship more if there is joint effort on making the relationship work to our mutual benefit. However, if just one person is making all the effort the relationship will fail. Just a matter of time. The dismissal, removing of the collar and to the curb will just manifest when there has been a climax of frustration and no resolution can be met. If the slave/submissive finds someone better suited to their behaviors, personalities and such--so be it. I will be happy for them. I rather be a dominant rather than a warden and or babysitter. What is harsh about dismissal of a slave? Well, do please count in, that dismissing a slave/submissive is harsh on a dominant as well. I don’t take such a choice of such a drastic nature lightly, nor shall I if it comes to that time. Most of my releases have been by request, for their needs had changed; e.g. death of a parent and having to provide care for the survivor, military transfers, etc. My releases have been kind, compassionate and relationships maintained but, not in a M/s or D/s rank/rights capacity. However, on a disciplinary/punishment dismissal, based on the slaves I consider, it would be hard on both of us. My disappointment and their disappointing behavior. Respectfully submitted, Lady Hugs
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