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RE: Such a thing as a "boring" submissive? - 12/19/2010 7:55:03 PM   
Hillwilliam


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Status: offline 		About 10-12 years ago, I coined a term in the old group I was in. "Oatmeal sub" Someone asked what it meant and I said "A sub with all the fire n sass of a bowl of oatmeal".

I like a challenge sometimes. I go for alpha subs. Sometimes, I just have to take her ass and..well TAKE her ass LOL.
Maybe it's not for you but that's what I like.

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RE: Such a thing as a "boring" submissive? - 12/19/2010 8:04:11 PM   
pyroaquatic


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Status: offline 		On the other end of the spectrum you may find a submissive that is not boring at all. Entertaining until you have to deal with off the wall fires that one may not be able to put out.

I am not boring in the least but...

you get what you wish for.


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RE: Such a thing as a "boring" submissive? - 12/19/2010 9:03:10 PM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		Boring is subjective. I went out with a Dom for about 3 months with a guy who bored the hell out of me, and I bored him, too. Yet, neither of us are boring people. We just didn't have compatible interests and personalities.

There was nothing wrong with either of us, and we even talked about not being right for each other. No blame or accusations necessary.

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RE: Such a thing as a "boring" submissive? - 12/20/2010 2:37:06 AM   
crazyml


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Status: offline 		This!

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Jettison the word boring. Substitute the word compatible.


and this!

quote:

ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance
Honestly, I'm a chronic homebody who likes her life quiet and peaceful. To someone who likes to bar hop and go go go, I'd bore them to tears. I've also been known to hardly say a word to anyone for days, especially when I'm in the middle of a book or an art or web project. Compatibility makes for excellent companionship


and this..

quote:

ORIGINAL: Zevar
What one man discards’ can be another man’s treasure!


Although, I thought that when quoting fortune cookies it was de rigeur to add "in the sack" afterwards so...

"What one man discards' [sic] can be another man's treasure in the sack"

When I was much younger, I got myself an "exciting" job. I took the job for adventure, excitement, danger... What was interesting was that the people (especially the best people job-wise) I worked with were all "steady types", they went to the same resort every year for their vacation, every Sunday they washed the car and mowed the lawn.

In my immaturity I despised these people. I was going to increasingly outlandish places for my vacation, I had way too "interesting" a life to make time to wash the car on a Sunday - hell some Sunday mornings I'd still be dancing in a club somewhere!

I was soo much more interesting, soo much better than these boring people.

Then, it occurred to me one day that these people were "content". They were content in a way that I wasn't and part of me actually envied their contentment.

These days, I need a little bit of "boring". A relationship that was all about the dungeon, all about constantly (desperately?) searching for new experiences would get boring very quickly. So now, I'm looking for a nice balance between "adventurous" and "boring" - and when I find the right balance I'll find what I reckon we're all looking for... contentment.



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RE: Such a thing as a "boring" submissive? - 12/20/2010 4:24:20 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Some years ago I knew a woman who had come to the realization that she was addicted to having a crisis going on. Personally, I'd rather be quiet and content. To someone whose life is constantly in a turmoil, I will come across as boring. Fine by me, I'd rather be that than crazed.

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RE: Such a thing as a "boring" submissive? - 12/20/2010 5:29:35 AM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		I don't know what's boring....because with some people doing the most exciting thing imaginable can be rendered boring .........and with others, watching paint dry can be exciting and fun.

I'm rarely bored by myself, so if I'm with sameone that is having the effect of boring me, then I put it down to * wrong person, wrong place or wrong time*.

I've known M for over 10 yrs and I've never been bored. I've spent 5 minutes in the company of someone new and been bored by minute 4. I can't say WHY.....apart from the fact that they just don't have *it*.

Boring is a mind-thing........it applies to everything, for me. If I share a similar outlook, I'm rarely bored.....so it ends up being about who *suits* you, at any given time in your life.

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RE: Such a thing as a "boring" submissive? - 12/20/2010 9:16:37 AM   
osf


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Status: offline 		if she is boring does she find you boring?

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RE: Such a thing as a "boring" submissive? - 12/21/2010 4:59:52 PM   
Buzzzz


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Status: offline 		I had boring bottoms... the ones that try to figure out what you are using and how and don't enjoy any of it (at least I don't!!)

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RE: Such a thing as a "boring" submissive? - 12/21/2010 11:30:27 PM   
DMFParadox


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Status: offline 		Being interesting is a skill set. A very difficult one, and fraught with misconceptions.

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RE: Such a thing as a "boring" submissive? - 12/21/2010 11:52:29 PM   
SoSexyAlmostEvil


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Status: offline 		Some submissives don't have personalities.  Some are doormats, who are so passive that things become mundane and boring.  Others are full of constant drama and belong on an episode of cops.  The same applies to Dominants, also.  We're still people.

That's kind of like asking, 'Is there such a thing as a boring mail carrier?'

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RE: Such a thing as a "boring" submissive? - 12/22/2010 2:44:26 AM   
allthatjaz


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Status: offline 		I have gone as far as having a drink with boring submissives but thats as far as it goes.
I have played with some boring people too but that was only as a pro Domme. Boring play for me has to be, no reaction (meat like).

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RE: Such a thing as a "boring" submissive? - 12/22/2010 7:49:36 AM   
ThundersCry


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Status: offline 		If *she* and *it* is boring then Im doing something wrong...

There is life to do but its never boring with her....

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RE: Such a thing as a "boring" submissive? - 12/22/2010 7:58:03 AM   
tazzygirl


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Status: offline 		There is no such thing as a boring person, regardless of orientation. There is only boring to you.

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