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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 4/22/2006 3:41:49 PM   
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To, amayos,
i did answer Yes to all but C.} as You stated below,
and only didn't answer Yes to C.} because im not sure
of the Dynamics behind "implantation and classical conditioning.
im thinking ,
hehe i feel like Tim Foxworthy
im probally a submissive experiencing "Mental Bondage" hehe

a.) Seduction and influence,,,,,,,Yes
b.) Empathetic bonding ,,,,,,,,,,, Yes
c.) Implantation and Classical Conditioning 
                                        Not sure
d.) Fostering dependency & transparency 
                                              Yes 
e.) Internalization and reprogramming
                                               Yes
f.) Continued reinforcement 
                                                Yes

im very grateful for the posts from A/all it really has given me a good idea of mental bondage
            Sincerely in love Unameme.......O"=o  <---< does that look like a dragster ? it was suppose to be a self portrait, on the keyboard .... i guess ill stick to welding metal sculptures 

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 4/22/2006 4:43:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Unameme
Mental Bondage. Im not sure what it is, really.
If I was to guess it's being restrained without fetters, but what does that mean ? 


Mental bondage employs a wide pool of psychological implements and tactics, operating ultimately to mold the mind of a submissive creature to another's will. It involves loosely the following components:

a.) Seduction and influence
b.) Empathetic bonding
c.) Implantation and Classical Conditioning
d.) Fostering dependency & transparency
e.) Internalization and reprogramming
f.) Continued reinforcement


In short, it is the process of stripping the mind naked, and using that nakedness to forge a leash stronger than any chain.


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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 4/22/2006 4:58:58 PM   
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Sometimes for newbes they have to pick an mature dom and hope he will know himself well enough and decide if the subbie is suitable for him or not and not just string her along.

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 4/23/2006 4:42:27 AM   
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Asking for a definition of a broad term on here is a dicey proposition as it will depend on the readers frame of mind what you receive back. I believe there is a lot to be said for the examples given of mentally being bound in lieu of physically being restrained, from a play or scene prospective and what I have read I would agree is accurate. It depends on what is interpretted by the OPs question on what definition or explanation would fit "mental bondage", but I'll try to explain what I envision to be one aspect of it.
 
To me, and this is just me, having someone mentally bound in a relationship, an M/s or D/s relationship particularly, is something altogether different. I look at this as a committment and bonding that goes so deep, one that is so intense, that it is controlling without words. If a relationship has transcended to this point, no physical gesture of appreciation or punishment is necessary, it can be done with a subtle look. If you want a sub/slave to kneel at your feet, to be there to caress and stroke her (his) hair...that special look is all that is needed for her (he) to fall into a total state of submission and present themselves for that. By the same token if something has gone wrong, if displeasure needs to be projected, again, all it takes is that one "look", that outword appearance that this was not satisfactory or approved of and nothing need be said, the sub/slave in question will punish themselves quite adequately and do whatever is possible to alleviate the situation. I liken it to non-verbal control, an almost "ESP" type of communication where feelings are felt, not heard. I am certain this is not an all encompassing definition by any stretch, but is it a very real control that does exist in the right situation. I suspect you can ask most who identify as an "owned slave" and they will know what that "look" is and what power it has, they will feel mentally bound.
 
As usual, this is just one take on it and the "term" will mean many things to many people.

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/3/2006 7:46:55 AM   
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<sigh>  between amayos' post and what Celeste had to say, I find myself nearly overwhelmed with longing.  I've had the shortest, sweetest taste and I'd so like to find more...

And...leave it to our ElephantMan to give me the giggles.

Thank you all; GREAT topic!  I always learn so much here...

edited for spelling errors........AGAIN! 

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/3/2006 4:02:52 PM   
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To, amayos,
i did answer Yes to all but C.} as You stated below,
and only didn't answer Yes to C.} because im not sure
of the Dynamics behind "implantation and classical conditioning.
im thinking ,

Classical conditioning, also better known as Operant conditioning.  Refer also to Respondent conditioning, Extinction, Punishment, Shaping, Stimulus Control, Discrimination and Generalization of Stimulus Control, Transfer of Stimulus Control, Antecedent Control, and Chaining.

Operant Conditioning is best known in the example of Pavlov's dogs, considered to be the first clinical example of operant condioning.  Pavlov observed that by placing meat powder in the dogs mouth's they salivated (meat powder as an Unconditioned Stimulus).  In his experiment he began using a metronome (not a bell) whenever he gave the dogs meat powder.  This is a pairing of a neutral stimulus (the metronome) with an uncontidioned stimulus (the meat powder).  This caused the metronome to become a conditioned stimulus, thus after repeated experiments the dogs would salivated whenever they heard the metronome as if they had been given meat powder.  This same principle is used by dolphin trainers to teach them to perform tricks (through a shaping process known as differential reinforcement).  An example of applying this to slave training might be, for example only, stimulating a slave sexually while using a crop to whip them.  The sexual stimulation is an uncondition stimulus, the crop is an aversive stimulus.  Given enough time and pairings of the experience the slave would eventually become sexually excited anytime a crop was used to whip them, making the crop a conditioned stimulus.  More complex application can, in theory, be used to elicit virtually any behavior desired or imagine through Shaping and differential reinforcement assuming the trainer has sufficient understanding and skill in implementing the conditioning process.

Operant and Respondent conditioning were later advanced by Edward Thorndike and John B Watson (the later being the father of Behaviorism as a field of psychology), but it was under B F Skinner that it saw its most significant developments in his research and his series of books published from 1938 to 1974 with notable works including Beyond Freedom and Dignitiy, About Behaviorism and Science and Human Behavior.  Current applications of Behaviorism can be found in everything from child psychology to advertising.

Does that sufficiently answer your question?

BTW, the correct phrase should have been "implementation of classical conditioning"

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/3/2006 4:14:51 PM   
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Nevermind.....


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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/3/2006 6:15:14 PM   
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To me, and this is just me, having someone mentally bound in a relationship, an M/s or D/s relationship particularly, is something altogether different. I look at this as a committment and bonding that goes so deep, one that is so intense, that it is controlling without words. If a relationship has transcended to this point, no physical gesture of appreciation or punishment is necessary, it can be done with a subtle look.....
 
to non-verbal control, an almost "ESP" type of communication where feelings are felt, not heard. 


It was exactly this aspect that initially drew me to mental bondage.  I would like to add that communication is felt (omitting the word feelings) not heard.

Classical or operant condintioning is one way to obtain mental bondage albeit a physical training in an attempt to evoke a mental reaction.  It results in reflexive actions to physical stimulus thus limited in it's effects and use.

Mental bondage by my definition requires a state of mental dissociation and the principle of entrainment to atune one's mindstate with anothers.

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/3/2006 6:33:48 PM   
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I've also heard that term used in cases of erotic hypnosis.
 
Under the influence of hypnosis, it's as if you are bound....

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/3/2006 6:54:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: champagnewishes

Classical or operant condintioning is one way to obtain mental bondage albeit a physical training in an attempt to evoke a mental reaction.  It results in reflexive actions to physical stimulus thus limited in it's effects and use.

Neither operant nor respondent conditioning is limited to purely physical stimuli or training.  While many unconditioned stimuli are physical (biological) in nature, not all are.  Further, once conditioned stimuli have been introduced (which may be from a broad range of stimuli) physical prompts are no longer necessary.  For example, I mentioned above that dolphin trainers use a form of respondent conditioning in teaching the dolphins to do tricks.  Specifically they begin by pairing a clicking noise with being fed fish, making the clicking noise a conditioned stimulus (CS).  There after they use the clicking noise in training to prompt the dolphin in learning to perform tricks in place of feeding them fish.  In working with children, the simple act of verbal praise is another form of non-physical CS that can be very effective (and also works quite well with submissives).

It is also inaccurate to say these forms of conditioning result in reflexive physical actions.  What they create are conditioned behaviors, which may be expressed physically, but can also include emotional responses as well (termed CERs, conditioned emotional responses).  Probably one of the most famous examples of this was an experiment by Watson and Rayner in 1920 involving a 1 year old child.  The child, Albert, was conditioned to fear a white rat where previously the child had not been afraid.  Although now deemed an unethical experiment, it none-the-less demonstrates the utility of operant and respondent conditioning in producing a wide range of behaviors, including emotional responses. 

Simply put, to characterize operant and respondent conditioning as being of limited use, is to grossly underestimate their application.

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/3/2006 7:34:09 PM   
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Bearlee, I am with you. Between the two of them, they got it in a nut shell. I had a taste, and it was sooo sweet. This is a wonderful topic.
Thank you

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/3/2006 8:14:11 PM   
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Neither operant nor respondent conditioning is limited to purely physical stimuli or training.  While many unconditioned stimuli are physical (biological) in nature, not all are.  Further, once conditioned stimuli have been introduced (which may be from a broad range of stimuli) physical prompts are no longer necessary.  For example, I mentioned above that dolphin trainers use a form of respondent conditioning in teaching the dolphins to do tricks.  Specifically they begin by pairing a clicking noise with being fed fish, making the clicking noise a conditioned stimulus (CS).  There after they use the clicking noise in training to prompt the dolphin in learning to perform tricks in place of feeding them fish.  In working with children, the simple act of verbal praise is another form of non-physical CS that can be very effective (and also works quite well with submissives).

It is also inaccurate to say these forms of conditioning result in reflexive physical actions.  What they create are conditioned behaviors, which may be expressed physically, but can also include emotional responses as well (termed CERs, conditioned emotional responses).  Probably one of the most famous examples of this was an experiment by Watson and Rayner in 1920 involving a 1 year old child.  The child, Albert, was conditioned to fear a white rat where previously the child had not been afraid.  Although now deemed an unethical experiment, it none-the-less demonstrates the utility of operant and respondent conditioning in producing a wide range of behaviors, including emotional responses. 

Simply put, to characterize operant and respondent conditioning as being of limited use, is to grossly underestimate their application.


My apologies.  I did not mean to imply their application were not worth merit.  Rather it would be more like handing a culinary chef and ez bake oven.  Functional...yes....living up to the chef's potential...no.

edited cause this one can't even apologize and spell it right.

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/3/2006 8:18:05 PM   
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My appologies.  I did not mean to imply their application were not worth merit.  Rather it would be more like handing a culinary chef and ez bake oven.  Functional...yes....living up to the chef's potential...no.

I'd be very interested in hearing you expand on that statement.  How do you see behavioral psychology and behavior modification as equivalent to an "ez bake oven"; and what then do you consider the tools of a "culinary" dominant?

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/3/2006 8:36:28 PM   
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Mental Bondage, 
im not sure what it is really ?
If i was to guess its being restrained without fetters.
But what does that mean ? 
Is it obeying a Domme/ Dom's command like not leaving the house,
or not doing certain bodily functions on one's own ?
is it being put in a corner ? and staying there ?
i would really like to know about this,
Anyone care / would explain this .
Thanks in advance , Sincerely Unameme.

While Celeste, Amayos and others have commented, I think one important division has been left out.  Mental bondage is being conditioned to a state wherein, one obeys or responds without conscious choice, that is, your behavior is or appears automatic.

A simple example would be putting your hand on a hot stove.  Suppose you started to touch the burner on a stove and felt it was hot.  Feeling that heat, you pause and make a choice not to move your hand any closer.  That involved choice.  But suppose you were in a hurry or not paying attention, and actually put your hand on the hot burner.  Immediately you pull it away without thinking... that's an automatic response, you didn't make a choice.

Now keeping that in mind, let's look at your examples.

You are given a command not to leave the house?  You choose to obey.  That's not mental bondage, that's simple obedience.
You choose to refrain from various bodily functions when told?  Again, simple obedience.
You are put in a corner and stay.  Again, obedience.

Now some other examples.

A submissive is whipped with a flogger and becomes sexually excited despite the pain after being conditioned to respond this way.  This is involuntary, this is mental bondage.
A submissive is trained not to orgasm without permission, and even when having a "wet dream" does not orgasm even though they are sleeping.  This is involuntary, this is mental bondage.
A submissive is trained to always drop to all fours when placed on a leash, and as a result feels an overwhelming urge to do so anytime a leash is attached to their collar.  This is an involuntary response, this is mental bondage.
A submissive is taught to speak only in third person when referring to themselves until it becomes an habit performed automatically.  This is involuntary and thus is also a form of mental bondage.

Does that help clarify the difference?  Mental bondage means you obey without conscious choice, it feels like a reflex, an overpowering urge, a need.  Its literally submitting your free will to another to the point some of that free will is removed in observable and measurable ways.

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/3/2006 8:47:24 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Padriag

quote:

ORIGINAL: Unameme

Mental Bondage, 
im not sure what it is really ?
If i was to guess its being restrained without fetters.
But what does that mean ? 
Is it obeying a Domme/ Dom's command like not leaving the house,
or not doing certain bodily functions on one's own ?
is it being put in a corner ? and staying there ?
i would really like to know about this,
Anyone care / would explain this .
Thanks in advance , Sincerely Unameme.

While Celeste, Amayos and others have commented, I think one important division has been left out.  Mental bondage is being conditioned to a state wherein, one obeys or responds without conscious choice, that is, your behavior is or appears automatic.

A simple example would be putting your hand on a hot stove.  Suppose you started to touch the burner on a stove and felt it was hot.  Feeling that heat, you pause and make a choice not to move your hand any closer.  That involved choice.  But suppose you were in a hurry or not paying attention, and actually put your hand on the hot burner.  Immediately you pull it away without thinking... that's an automatic response, you didn't make a choice.

Now keeping that in mind, let's look at your examples.

You are given a command not to leave the house?  You choose to obey.  That's not mental bondage, that's simple obedience.
You choose to refrain from various bodily functions when told?  Again, simple obedience.
You are put in a corner and stay.  Again, obedience.

Now some other examples.

A submissive is whipped with a flogger and becomes sexually excited despite the pain after being conditioned to respond this way.  This is involuntary, this is mental bondage.
A submissive is trained not to orgasm without permission, and even when having a "wet dream" does not orgasm even though they are sleeping.  This is involuntary, this is mental bondage.
A submissive is trained to always drop to all fours when placed on a leash, and as a result feels an overwhelming urge to do so anytime a leash is attached to their collar.  This is an involuntary response, this is mental bondage.
A submissive is taught to speak only in third person when referring to themselves until it becomes an habit performed automatically.  This is involuntary and thus is also a form of mental bondage.

Does that help clarify the difference?  Mental bondage means you obey without conscious choice, it feels like a reflex, an overpowering urge, a need.  Its literally submitting your free will to another to the point some of that free will is removed in observable and measurable ways.


Well then, ive a ways to go yet. This language style, is so far removed from my reality, that i cant comprehend ever putting myself if not first, at least 2nd! Fucked if im doing 3rd.

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/3/2006 8:50:57 PM   
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Now some other examples.

A submissive is whipped with a flogger and becomes sexually excited despite the pain after being conditioned to respond this way.  This is involuntary, this is mental bondage.
A submissive is trained not to orgasm without permission, and even when having a "wet dream" does not orgasm even though they are sleeping.  This is involuntary, this is mental bondage.
A submissive is trained to always drop to all fours when placed on a leash, and as a result feels an overwhelming urge to do so anytime a leash is attached to their collar.  This is an involuntary response, this is mental bondage.
A submissive is taught to speak only in third person when referring to themselves until it becomes an habit performed automatically.  This is involuntary and thus is also a form of mental bondage.

Does that help clarify the difference?  Mental bondage means you obey without conscious choice, it feels like a reflex, an overpowering urge, a need.  Its literally submitting your free will to another to the point some of that free will is removed in observable and measurable ways.
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I liked these examples though, good demo's of the difference from obedience to mental bondage.
We live a vastly different lifestyle, clearly. But i can see your way of thinking makes sense. Im sure i could learn not to have wet dreams, just as i learned not to wet the bed. It is now automatic and subconscious.

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/3/2006 9:31:35 PM   
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Well don't read all that as being my lifestyle or how I do things... because it isn't.  I'm speaking academically on the subject, and so am using a variety of examples to try and answer the questions posed.

I do not, just for one instance, require a slave to speak in third person.  As a writer I find it, not to mention the whole C/caps thing, irritatingly bad grammar.  But do I use behavior modification and conditioning, yes indeed.  Actually it could be argued that to some degree all dominants do, even though they may not be aware of it.  In fact, all of us do.  If you're a parent and you discipline your child, you are in fact applying some principles of operant and respondent conditioning... though you aren't aware of that and don't know what those might be.

Keep in mind that Behaviorism itself was born out of the observations of Pavlov, Watson and Thorndike of natural processes, things they saw in nature.  Their main contributions were understanding what was happening... why the dog's salivated at all.  They and Skinner, then took things a step further and began designing an organized methodology of deliberately altering behavior using the same forms of conditioning that occur in nature.  And thus the foundations of behavioral psychology were laid.  (BTW, I'm vastly oversimplifying here but I doubt anyone wants a fifty page essay on this... consider this the Reader's Digest version  )

Behavior modification itself isn't mental bondage.  But, when its applied to achieve results specific to this lifestyle, it can certainly produce mental bondage very effectively.

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/3/2006 10:13:49 PM   
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My appologies.  I did not mean to imply their application were not worth merit.  Rather it would be more like handing a culinary chef and ez bake oven.  Functional...yes....living up to the chef's potential...no.

I'd be very interested in hearing you expand on that statement.  How do you see behavioral psychology and behavior modification as equivalent to an "ez bake oven"; and what then do you consider the tools of a "culinary" dominant?


I simply mean that we approach the subject from two different sides.  My interests lay in bilocation functional brain connectivity and resonance as well as binaural-beat stimulation. 

The "culinary tools" of such a dominant?  An awareness and development of their abilities in this area.  I've met three in this lifetime. 

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/4/2006 2:18:39 PM   
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Okay...so the reason I don't get sexually aroused at pain is cuz nobody taught me?  Lordy, I do feel better…I thought I was a duffus or something.  I get turned on by Sadists…not by the pain they cause me.  I like to watch them, be the object of their pleasure, and share in their delight.  Pleasing a Sadist turns me on.  Does that make sense?

Sheeshhhhhhhh… all this time I thought I was doing something wrong.  While I do like to get whipped bloody; it hurts like HELL!  But… OMG, the smile on his face!

Soooooooo… maybe with the right Dominant and enough time; I could learn a new trick…she says, cheekily. 

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RE: MENTAL BONDAGE ? What is it ? - 6/4/2006 3:09:34 PM   
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Okay...so the reason I don't get sexually aroused at pain is cuz nobody taught me?  Lordy, I do feel better…I thought I was a duffus or something.  I get turned on by Sadists…not by the pain they cause me.  I like to watch them, be the object of their pleasure, and share in their delight.  Pleasing a Sadist turns me on.  Does that make sense?

Sheeshhhhhhhh… all this time I thought I was doing something wrong.  While I do like to get whipped bloody; it hurts like HELL!  But… OMG, the smile on his face!

Soooooooo… maybe with the right Dominant and enough time; I could learn a new trick…she says, cheekily. 

Basically, yes, that's it in a nutshell.  I don't think I've ever met anyone in the meat who actually perceived pain as pleasure... pain hurts, that's pretty much a universal truth (or in behaviorist terms, its an unconditioned aversive stimulus; which is just a fancy term for "pain naturally hurts!").  Some people have higher tolerances for pain due to biology, their nervous system is wired in such a way they don't feel pain as intensely as someone else.  Some people learn to have a higher tolerance for pain; they feel pain, they just condition themselves to ignore it and tolerate it.  But the pain still hurts.  When you hear of someone becoming arroused by being flogged, or even having an orgasm as a result, that's another conditioned behavior (respondent conditioning).  Sometimes it happens because someone teaches or trains them to behave that way, sometimes it happens accidentally through an unusual set of environment conditions.  That is, sometimes things just happen in a person's life in the right combination to accidentally produce that behavior.  By accidentally I mean it wasn't intentional or deliberate, the causes occured for reasons other than attempting to produce that behavior.

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