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My rant...... - 4/22/2006 12:47:14 PM

Phoenixandnika

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Our society is increasingly fast-paces and impatient. Technology has encouraged a taste for instant gratification: microwaves dinners, automatic tellers, credit cards, satellite communication, and can't forget fast food restraints. Much of our society in my opinion has become spoiled with convince and speed. I watch people become frustrated with anything that demands a substantial investment of time.

I look at some of the people who are seeking and I see Doctor Jeckyl and Mister Hyde. I often see a complete metamorphosis in attitudes and behavior. People who might be typically polite and have wonderful personalities turn into these often vile, angry, whiney people. They see others that don't call them to their feet or fall to theirs which every the case may be and throw up their hands in frustration. Stomp their feet screaming. "I want that!" What if someone who was a perfect match for you saw that tantrum? What would they think?

I believe the major cause of this tantrum throwing is people get focused on their destination and forget the road they must travel to get there. It kind of reminds me of my kids screaming "Are we there yet? Are we there yet?" while on a road trip. To them the trip is simply to long, tedious, and frankly boring. Is that truly how you see your journey to find a life partner? Your journey to find a dominate or submissive?

Often times I see people turn vile to those that have found partners weather dominate and submissive and to me I think is due to jealousy and perhaps the one "seeking" sees them an obstacle or part of the problem. I can't count how many threads I read on CM where people say " Your owned already so you don't belong" or "Your not seeking so go away!"

You and you alone are in the drivers seat on this journey, which is your life. Now you can either be that nagging child screaming " are we there yet" or you can simply take in the scenery, stop and enjoy the locals along the way and perhaps meet someone that will end your journey. Perhaps you will simply throw your hands up and crash into that center divider crying out in agony "I just wanted.....".

I don't personally think our journeys every end they simply change course but each of use determine our own paths and how we take this trip that is our lives.

Nika{Phoenix}

< Message edited by Phoenixandnika -- 4/22/2006 1:19:34 PM >

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RE: My rant...... - 4/22/2006 12:54:30 PM

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Makes sense to me.....

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RE: My rant...... - 4/22/2006 12:59:02 PM

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Quite. Good rant, very wise one.

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RE: My rant...... - 4/22/2006 1:04:59 PM

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I agree, I think people generally have lost contact with the process of life, we do live in a *microwave* society. I often wonder how many people would still eat meat if they had to kill the animal or witness it being killed, or if they would appreciate a meal more if they were part of the whole process rather than just buying it from the supermarkets. We have bred a superficial society and I think its part of the reason for all the troubles in our society and relationships in general.

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RE: My rant...... - 4/22/2006 1:10:20 PM

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I too hate that the boards don't offer 'spellcheck'...honest. Still, I understand your rant, I ranted similar but not as in depth awhile ago...the experiences lead to the awareness which allows us to become. There is no destination, just the steps taken and the places we pause to rest...sometimes we rest long enough to forget we were travelling and then we wonder why there is nobody else with us...or we continue our journey with another and recognize that though we are still together physically our travels took us in other directions and we cannot get back on a similar path, or don't desire to...
I am not seeking 'instant' anything but I do know certain elements of my life are progressing at vastly accelerated rates, where other aspects seem to be catching their breath and so I find my sojourn is happening at various rates depending on the focus.

Yes, I did edit before I hit 'ok' 'cuz I too type faster than my fingers <g>

Thank you for your post.

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RE: My rant...... - 4/22/2006 1:26:47 PM

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To quote Aerosmith "Life's a journey, not a destination." The search for a dominant or submissive is simply one path on the journey through life. Take time to enjoy that path and learn along the way.

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RE: My rant...... - 4/22/2006 1:29:53 PM

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Hi Phoenixandnika,

I dont see your post as a rant but more as a much needed reminder to us all "travelling this path that we have chosen" to find "the one" that we are ultimately seeking....

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RE: My rant...... - 4/22/2006 5:29:36 PM

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lol
Like the rant.
Its funny to Me because when I inform most slaves who contacts Me for a possible contract that they will be living in a third world type kind of Gorean Home not like anything recognizable to their current lifes they just um errrr dissapear.........

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RE: My rant...... - 4/22/2006 5:41:41 PM

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Great rant, thank you!!!!!

LOL, and I am not one of the 'owned ones' and still think its a great rant!!!!

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RE: My rant...... - 4/22/2006 5:44:45 PM

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good going girl, we need more "rants" like this,

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RE: My rant...... - 4/22/2006 5:50:15 PM

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quote:

To quote Aerosmith "Life's a journey, not a destination." The search for a dominant or submissive is simply one path on the journey through life. Take time to enjoy that path and learn along the way.

Hmmmm or to quote Simon&Garfunkle ... "Slow down, you move too fast .. Ya gotta make the morning last .. just .. whistling down the cobblestone ... do do do do ... feeling groovy!!"

heheh .. yes indeed, too fast paced, too goal-directed rather than process-directed .. where the only thing that matters is the bottom line, or what one wants to the exclusion of other things .. heheh like needs ..

Sure, I would like a partner .. but if having a partner meant having the wrong one, then how can this be a good thing? I would rather be alone, than with somebody and lonely.

As for singles being bitter with partnered people .. that is unfortunate. We all have insights, and if one is not willing to open one's mind, then gosh what the heck are they doing here? heheh

Thank you for ;-] the insight

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RE: My rant...... - 4/22/2006 6:17:38 PM

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*rubs sleepy eyes as she tries to grab her coffee and type* lol
ok so that is not a good option....hehe had to try it.

girl does not see this as a rant, but more of a reminder to "Stop and Smell the Roses."

girl is on the path to find a Master that will be the One for her, and she can chose to "Stop, Smell the Roses," jump in a puddle (ok she still has a bit of child left in her and actually finds it relaxing to jump in a puddle and giggle at the fact she got wet and possibly wet a friend along the way.) and smile on her path to find the "Right Master."

or girl can chose to grumble, growl, bitch, complain, run amuck and not find the "Right Master," for herself.

girl has chosen the Path that says "Stop, Smell the flowers," etc because she would rather be happy not just for herself but for those around her who have found a Master/Mistress or both a Master and a Mistress.

Thank you for the reminder to stop and smell the roses today.

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