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CaringandReal -> RE: Well, I guess I should get this over with (9/10/2010 5:32:42 AM)
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(Waves to you) I spoke with you briefly when you were newer to Collarme, and when I was under another name and face that...well, wasn't as "green" as my current one. :p
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"If I had compassion while on CollarMe, it would just be painful"
They do say that pain is an acquired taste. ;)
Seriously, it's not that painful to feel compassion for what you see on this site or in most places in life. Most of what I see in a place like this is self-inflicted, and while I feel some compassion for that (about the same as I would for a child who is very sick from eating too much Easter candy), it doesn't hurt because I know they can get out of their self-set traps if they really needed or wanted to. But most people are quite content with whatever they are doing that is causing this "suffering" and do not want out under any circumstances! We are all like that in some ways.
There are a few people on CM who understand what you're saying about masters and slaves, who, in fact, have taken things like cliff-jumping as natural givens, minimum requirements hardly even worth mentioning for ... well, decades, to be honest. There are not a lot like that, though, and while that makes what you are looking for much harder to find, it will make its eventual finding all the more sweet.
The "club way" is certainly easier. It's far simpler and, with many people, far more effective just to manipulate them on the crudest levels at which they operate (working the twin greeds for attention and entertainment, with tiny appeals to a desire to "appear good to one's self"--usually expressed as caretaking or service--thrown in for spice) than to engage rarer qualities into your service. But if you want anything else, anything more than being skilled at manipulating the simple greeds that control most people, you may find yourself waiting a long time before the genuine thing comes your way.
Of course, each time you encounter something that looks genuine but turns out to be quite lacking, as disappointing as it that is, you learn a little bit more about how to recognize the genuine--and perhaps how to be worthy of it. By the latter I mean how to be--not just appear as--someone who naturally attracts the genuine article to himself. Being is required, obviously, as the genuine isn't particularly impressed by appearances.
You do want to be that, I believe, and this desire is laudable. Getting there can be pretty painful, though.
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