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JstAnotherSub -> Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 4:35:38 PM)
Call it what you will, I have to type. Turn your head if you don't want to hear a royal ass whining cussing raging vent. My cousin ran away at the age of 52. She took off to live with a dude in New Zealand. They have never met, but they have chatted for hours and hours and they are IN LOVE!!!! She did this without telling her family or oldest dearest friends, (of which I am one), and, well, we, the above family and friends have been worried and hurt and pissed as hell. Then there are her "on-line" friends, who have told us how we are haters and how dare we think it is right for us to do anything but wish her well and wish her happiness. I wish her happiness, hell I hope she has found her bliss, but the earthquake she left in her wake here makes the earthquake that got her stuck in Sydney for several days seem like a lil rumbling. We ran away when we were teens. Shit, we did all kinds of things when we were teens, and enjoyed every moment of it. No regrets at all, all of those things made us who we are today. Except, she is fucking insane obviously, cause she had run away at the ripe old age of 52. So, I and my family are all insane for thinking this could have been done differently, and I am good with that. Damn I feel better, but I swear I just read this and Termy came to mind for some reason. Someone hold me! (and congrats, Term, on the cleaning out the body thing)

daddysliloneds -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 4:40:32 PM)
what? does her life stop at 52 or something? she doesn't owe you or anyone else an explanation for her action... besides, she didn't run away 'from' home; it sounds more like she ran 'to' home. good for her!

poise -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 4:41:44 PM)
(((((((Hugs)))))))))) We cant dictate how we get to feel about things when they are thrown at us like that...no chance to prepare.... I understand you're feeling how ridiculously immature it was for her...at her age, to not consider the emotional cost those she left behind are suffering. Damn her for being so selfish! There will also come a time when you will actually enjoy the fact that she is happy...and it will be liberating for you, and for her.

JstAnotherSub -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 4:44:34 PM)
If you think it is ok to leave a 30 year marriage, family and friends, without a word, well, if you think that, we disagree massively. But thats ok. I dont care that she did it, I hope she has found her bliss. But she did it very wrong, and I suspect it will end going up in flames. And then I will hug her and help her through it, as I have before in her life. But for now, I am fucking pissed as hell at her. But thats ok.

bellesoumise -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 4:51:00 PM)
~FR~ quote: If you think it is ok to leave a 30 year marriage, family and friends, without a word, well, if you think that, we disagree massively. You didn't say what she had left behind, you left it as she ran away. But she's an adult, she can do whatever she wants. Life is short and everyone should have their chance while in the pursuit of their version of happiness. Yes' she could of said something, but in reality she has no obligation to anyone. Be happy for her, wish her well and pray that nothing happens to her.

daddysliloneds -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 4:51:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub If you think it is ok to leave a 30 year marriage, family and friends, without a word, well, if you think that, we disagree massively. But thats ok. I dont care that she did it, I hope she has found her bliss. But she did it very wrong, and I suspect it will end going up in flames. And then I will hug her and help her through it, as I have before in her life. But for now, I am fucking pissed as hell at her. But thats ok. hey, don't jump on my ass; you never mentioned the husband in your op... then again, i ran away from home as an adult before, the husband, the family, the friends; best thing i ever did for myself in my life! sometimes you have to think about #1 once in a while! oh and guess what, my life didn't go down in flames, it actually got a million times beter!

Twoshoes -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 4:53:21 PM)
I saw a movie like this once. She didn't ditch any kids, so eveyone else will get by!

JstAnotherSub -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 4:54:37 PM)
I don't see how I jumped your ass. I responded to your post. Notice the title of the thread....rant.....rants don't always remember every lil detail......theres a lot more I didn't mention besides her husband-lol. Gawd I would like to put my foot up her ass. Red Foreman

SeanPony -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 5:03:11 PM)
Let the good times Roll!

pahunkboy -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 5:50:50 PM)
The silver boards are beyond nuts. I think one of them drinks too much. Turned things upside down- ranted about wanting to be deleted- and then blocked me. Have another drink- the silver board will improve that way. In a round about way- her way of running off- so- here we go. People are not happy until they upset the apple cart- then they are happy until they are not. Ask to be deleted and then block- yeah- real nice.

DesFIP -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 6:00:01 PM)
If the marriage was fulfilling, she wouldn't have been online seeking fulfillment. However I am sorry for her children as this will be very difficult for them.

pahunkboy -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 6:07:39 PM)
it is crazy to run off to another country, for someone off the Internet, and at such an old age.

January -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 6:20:30 PM)
quote: it is crazy to run off to another country, for someone off the Internet, and at such an old age. Hey, that's not old. By the way, men have been running out on their mates for ages...it's called a midlife crisis or upgrading. But usually the man leaves the wife in dire poverty with children to raise. Anyway, I don't know the whole story in the OP's cousin's case, but if the cousin had a thirty year marriage, the kids aren't going to be infants. The kids (who probably have their own children) might be bewildered, but hardly devastated. Does the OP know what the thirty year marriage was actually like behind closed doors? I think not. Therefore the OP should stop judging her cousin's actions. If the OP wants to feel hurt, fine. But anger? Not appropriate. What does the cousin owe the OP? To make the OP comfortable, with no concern for her own happiness? Just because the OP is way pissed and indignant doesn't mean she has a right to be. January

littlewonder -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 6:39:30 PM)
the only bad thing I see in all of this is her leaving her marriage. Her children though are adults and will be perfectly fine and imo it's none of her family or friends business about her "running away". I don't see how she had any kind of responsibility to anyone here except maybe her husband and even that all depends on how bad the marriage was which we don' have any details about. If she wasn't married I would actually say kudos to her for realizing her life isn't over at 52 and making a new life for herself and giving in to her happiness instead of trying to please everyone else all the time.

Jeffff -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 6:54:25 PM)
Plus, it is springtime in NZ. Who doesn't love springtime? They have trout there you know!

KatyLied -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 6:58:03 PM)
The heart wants what the heart wants. Anything can happen on the internets! Long live the internets! ps 52 is NOT too old to run away!! age edit

pahunkboy -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 7:02:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: January quote: it is crazy to run off to another country, for someone off the Internet, and at such an old age. Hey, that's not old. By the way, men have been running out on their mates for ages...it's called a midlife crisis or upgrading. But usually the man leaves the wife in dire poverty with children to raise. Anyway, I don't know the whole story in the OP's cousin's case, but if the cousin had a thirty year marriage, the kids aren't going to be infants. The kids (who probably have their own children) might be bewildered, but hardly devastated. Does the OP know what the thirty year marriage was actually like behind closed doors? I think not. Therefore the OP should stop judging her cousin's actions. If the OP wants to feel hurt, fine. But anger? Not appropriate. What does the cousin owe the OP? To make the OP comfortable, with no concern for her own happiness? Just because the OP is way pissed and indignant doesn't mean she has a right to be. January How many times have you ran off?

Termyn8or -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 7:58:02 PM)
FR This may be the case of the 'second childhood'. I had at least one. I went to Florida twice without telling a soul. I did however have the courtesy to call and say "Guess where I am". I wouldn't be so pissed about her taking off like that, sometimes at some point in one's life the thought occurs "This just isn't working" and it is time for a change, But at least a phone call is appropriate, even if it is from the destination. Otherwise people wonder if you're dead or whatever. She might pay the price, divorced in absentia getting nothing. But if that's what she wants, well then it is. I would at least call, even if from the destination "Guess where I am". It may be after the fact, but at least people know you are alive and well. Simply leaving, well people have their reasons and we can't really judge that. But I would be pissed about not hearing anything. That's my opinion, that's all. T

purepleasure -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 8:02:53 PM)
I wish I had your cousin's courage to run away, and I'm only 47! Maybe by the time I'm 52, I'll have the chutzpah.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Vent, hissy fit, acting like a cunt... (9/8/2010 8:15:42 PM)
I'm sorry all this disruption is happening in your family. I don't know any of you, or her marriage, so maybe she was living the dream, or whatever. I hope everything turns out famously for her, and that you can all come to forgive her. I know that if one of my close friends did that without telling me, I would be appalled and outraged. At the same time, I admit to envy. I will never run away from home.

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