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LieselBlue -> Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/8/2010 5:26:35 PM)


I'm a sub trying to find a dom.

Anal penetration interests me very much, but I don't have much experience there.

I've seen an "anal dilator" kit advertised on the web. It has plugs ranging from 1/4" to 2" in diameter.

Should I buy the kit and use it on myself before my master shows up?

Or, should I wait for him?

Would it be more fun for him to initiate me into this kind of play or for me to prepare my own ass before my dom arrives on the scene? I do sincerly hope he would be more creative in his butt play than this simple kit.

Thanks! Liesel




Twoshoes -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/8/2010 5:28:49 PM)

And you haven't asked him because:

A) He doesn't exist;
B) You don't exist;

Edit: Why not ask him? He probably doesn't care (as explained below)!



DarkSteven -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/8/2010 5:31:25 PM)

Do what you wish.  I cannot imagine any Master caring whether you've prepared yourself.  I mean, if he's worried that he'll lose a comparison with a butt plug, he's got serious insecurity issues.



ResidentSadist -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/8/2010 6:07:36 PM)

I just love all the ass & scat threads lately.

I see you don't have a Dom but want to get anally penetrated so badly you are considering buying some gear.  So you joined CollarMe today and posted a thread about asking what brand to buy or whether you should wait to buy one after you find a Dom.  What if the Dom that finds you doesn't wanna' penetrate someone's stinky ass? 

I certainly cannot predict if it be more fun for him to stretch your ass out or if he would rather have you come to him blown out and ready to stuff a six pack up your butt.  But, as far as fucking yourself in the ass, have at it.  I suggest you get an Ass Master 9000.  Take some pics while you are impaled on the Ass Master and post them in your profile.  You'll prolly' have a much better chance of find a butt bouncing, anal assaulting Master that way... and at the least, the readers of your very first thread on your very first day will have something to look at . . . hell, why wait?  Your kitchen holds all you need.  Lube that ass up with some cooking oil and go sit on cucumber, a bed post or a lamp stand.  Then slap that pic up in your profile tonight!!!



BigDaddy723 -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/8/2010 6:24:34 PM)

I vote with Steven. It will at least get you some comfort with it so you can worry less and enjoy it more when you find a Dom.



mstrjx -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/8/2010 6:28:38 PM)

Well, there IS the factor about someone being able to take your virginity, so to speak....

On the other hand, it's rather like masturbation. You're on your own. You have interests, curiousities, needs. You experiment. For all it matters, you indulge in self-bondage.

What you do during your single-ness is up to you. Just don't hurt yourself.

Jeff



Wantstocontrolu -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/8/2010 7:27:52 PM)

Use it.  Better to be prepaired then damaged.



Twoshoes -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/8/2010 7:38:11 PM)

I'd like to apologize. It seems I misread the original question.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/8/2010 7:52:57 PM)

Just because you waited till having a partner to use a toy with, doesn't mean you'll be damaged. Come on not all people are irresponcible gits who's like oh yay, let me shove this huge dildo up your as and ram you as hard as I can manage, with no lube no less, knowing you have no experience in ass fucking.

And it'd be his job to pick someone who was a responcible sane person to enter into a relationship with, who's not so eager for a partner to but sex / play with, that they'd be inconsiderate and un careful. and damage him.


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ORIGINAL: Wantstocontrolu

Use it.  Better to be prepaired then damaged.



hausboy -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/8/2010 8:20:55 PM)

I've found that "virgin" buttholes (mine and others) tend to be on the finicky side at first, so there's no harm in exploring your own to see what sensations you enjoy, and get yourself used to the sensations so that for your first experience, you can enjoy it without freaking out if you've never felt what it was like. Buttholes have memories for trauma--one bad experience can really turn you off to future fun.

Here's my suggestions--from one shy "asshole" to another (I say that affectionately....)  forget the toys to start off with--use a finger--(if you're squeamish, well.....either don a glove or get over it, because anal sex can get messy....) and remembers these wise tips that were passed on to me by much wiser friends:
1. If it doesn't fit, don't force it
2. Too much lube is almost enough
3. Put condoms on toys (easier to clean, less likely to spread any bugs)
4. Keep a good grip on whatever goes in, because what goes in, may not come out if you let go. (The ol' butthole tractor-beam)  And if you lose a toy up there, you'll be off to the ER.
5. Use items that are MEANT for the butt--stick with (sorry, no pun intended) commercially made butt toys.  Smooth edges, butt friendly shapes, handles, etc.
6. Go slow and gradual at first, to allow yourself to get used to the sensations.

Have fun--there are some good books out there on anal sex as well (Anal Pleasure and Health by Jack Morin is a good book for beginners)
cheers
frederich




Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/8/2010 8:26:44 PM)

What w*ould be better advice, is to not use toys that can get lost up there, and always use a toy with a flared base, and be careful, even with a flared base, since it is possible a toy can snap off  the base.
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ORIGINAL: hausboy


4. Keep a good grip on whatever goes in, because what goes in, may not come out if you let go. (The ol' butthole tractor-beam)  And if you lose a toy up there, you'll be off to the ER.





ResidentSadist -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/8/2010 9:16:07 PM)

Dear ass noobs - just a quick FYI for you.
Don't use ass toys in your cunt.
There is a naturally occurring strain of bacteria in your ass that will infest your cunt, in a bad way. 
It's the same reason doctors tell you to always wipe from front to back.



LieselBlue -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/9/2010 11:35:57 AM)

Thank you all so much for your replies. They were fun reading.

I will follow your suggestions about safety.




GotSteel -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/9/2010 2:04:52 PM)

1/4" seems really small. I'd recommend starting with something more along the lines of 3/4" in diameter and you'll need lube.





MercTech -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/10/2010 9:32:52 AM)

Humph... if you like anal stimulation, go for it.

To quote a cheese harem movie, "My dear, if you don't know how to please yourself; how can you ever hope to please the Master."

Stefan



bliss4us09 -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/11/2010 6:58:16 AM)

Liesl:

In general I'd agree with those who say go for it now since finding the right Dom could take a while. One more thing: you're married, yes? Perhaps your husband would enjoy this kind of play?
If not (since he's a pillar of society), perhaps best to be very discreet with where you keep your plug when not in use.



angelikaJ -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/11/2010 5:13:25 PM)

Liesl,

Solo ass exploration need not be some big (no pun intended) formal affair.
Fingers work just fine for that purpose.
Just be careful as mentioned by ResidentSadist to keep anal play fingers away from your vagina, clit etc.

Incorporating ass-play into masturbation can be nice.

I do recommend Jack Morin's book Anal Pleasure and Health.



gman992 -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/11/2010 5:14:46 PM)

Give me your number and your directions and I'll be over there to help in a jiffy!



hausboy -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/11/2010 5:20:49 PM)

yes...thanks.  That's actually what I meant by using only toys meant for the ass.

I forget sometimes that this isn't common knowledge with everyone.  And ResidentSadist's advice is also very important--never go from "back door" to "front door"-- condoms on toys are great for this--just take off the condom after it's been in the butt, and then put a fresh one on.  No need to spend time cleaning the toy.  You can go from front to back without issue.  (that is, YOUR front to YOUR back)



subsfaith -> RE: Should I use an anal toy on myself, or wait? (9/12/2010 5:24:33 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LieselBlue
Should I buy the kit and use it on myself before my master shows up?

Or, should I wait for him?

Would it be more fun for him to initiate me into this kind of play or for me to prepare my own ass before my dom arrives on the scene? I do sincerly hope he would be more creative in his butt play than this simple kit.



Whether you wait or not is up to you.  Who knows if it will be more fun or not? No-one has ever had both experiences.  Really, it is up to you.

If you want someone who is more creative in this area then be sure to pick carefully.



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