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Termyn8or -> RE: A connection? (9/13/2010 9:52:51 PM)
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I had to perv your profile to get a handle on this, and still I am not sure this is a respose you seek. Here goes anyway.
I studied a bit of psychology in eary life and I guess created a monster. As such I've been studying humanity for about thirty years. I don't let many people in real life know this to avoid the alienation which would result. However when I say it takes all kinds and we gotem, I speak from experience.
First an analogy. Years ago there were fagbashers, people who would beat homosexuals for no other reason than they were homosexual. There is alot less of that going on now for several reasons, not the least of which is that Gays learned how to fight, but that is not the only reason. It still goes on, but alot less frequently.
But what I have noticed is that many of the fagbashers have or had latent homosexual tendencies. Desires that they repressed because of the embarrassment which would ensue. In a way it is a form of jealousy, because courage does not lie in strength.
Offhand I would guess that you have at least a mild interest in BDSM, but hubby isn't into it. Hopefully your life is fulfilling enough that you are happy. It can happen.
So onto the subject at hand - I think a similar situation exists for the realm of BDSM. I think alot more people are at least curious or would like to try it, but today image is everything so they are reluctant to do so because of fear of discovery. They don't want to be seen as "wierdos", or rejected from the "pack". This is one of those animal instincts that remains part of the human psyche to this day, and is showing no signs of waning in most people.
Enter the Hellbound Hellraiser series of movies. If you haven't seen them, they have a cube, a much more elaborate version of a Rubik's cube or something like that. By moving certain pieces the posessor is transported into an alternate reality which I suppose is supposed to be hell according to the storyline. This world goes way beyond safe, sane as well as consentual(I think) with people restrained by fishhokks and such. Another example is one being kept in a straitjacket, and one would normally assume that due to insanity, DTs or drug withdrawal he felt creepy crawlers all over his body under the jacket. However of course there really were creepy crawlers all over him. But that's the movie.
It was fairly popular, why ? I would say that at least some lived vicariously through the images presented, but probably never even owned a pair of handcuffs. They would be embarrassed to walk into a sex toy store to buy a fake pair, and even more deathly afraid to go to say, a gunshop and buy a real pair. They do not want to tarnish their image.
And then there are those who would seek to ban BDSM outright, no matter how safe, sane and consentual it may be. My opinion is that they are the ones with the strongest desires, thus the most repressed - by their own psyche I might add.
But with life that sucks and is generally boring for most, the images on the screen are a release, a way to experience something they cannot in real life. I can see this because I was never fooled. All the excitement right there at the remote control or the video rental store. Release, fullfillment, but all fake. Right at their fingertips.
Then there is another contingent of humanity that fantasises a bit differently. The Damsel In Distress symdrome is what I would coin it. This is when a Man wants to see a Woman captive, all tied up or whatever - in distress. He muses about releasing her and of course she is grateful and he is the hero and they ride off into the sunset or something along those lines.
Now comes the entertainment industry, happy to oblige. They are possibly the best run operation in the world, and employ some very apt people to analyze commonalities in those movies, weighing in their peformance at the box office as well as future DVD sales (and before that, videotapes). They also know how many five foot TVs are sold, and VCRs and DVD players and all that. It is simply a part of market analysis and they are very good at it. They know how bored people are, they know that the constructive hobbies of the past are largely gone.
They must appeal to the largest segment of the market possible to succeed, and they do. In fact entertainment makes up a significant portion of US exports, despite the fact that many things filmed on location are done across the world, a fairly large portion of the final product comes from the US.
I am different than most because since a very early age I have known the stark difference between fiction and reality. I also know that it is impossible to have sex with a TV or monitor screen. I haven't even looked at porn for a couple of years, despite the fact that thousands of dollars of it reside on my harddrive. (mostly "borrowed" )
Some of my porn isn't porn at all, it is pictures of restraint equipment used in hospitals, mental wards and jails. The difference between others and I is that I actively persued purchasing such equipment, but to buy most of it you need to be a bona fide institution. In fact a fairly popular BDSM website is/was actually called the institute. But don't think less of those who find things that are used on the extremely sick and depressed erotic. Those with BDSM tendencies can no more easily fight the urge than a homosexual. If they go out and act out their fantasies non consentually of course that is a different story.
I am in doubt as to whether this is the answer which you sought, but I tried.
T
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