RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet

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flcouple2009 -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 6:02:06 AM)
What is wrong with just simply telling everyone you are past that stage of your life? Tell them you'll be happy to answer an "occasional" question but you've retired. Then just go about your life. The rant has to start with you since your the one who just didn't say no.

DesFIP -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 9:02:52 AM)
Next time someone says you owe this, tell them that you don't. Tell them that you've been giving and not getting for quite a while and you're done. Tell him to pick someone else to work. Better yet, make it a requirement of any members of the space that they do some work. Don't keep saying yes when you mean no.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 10:02:13 AM)
Thanks. I have been saying no, and not being available for awhile now. It's b een good. The young folks couldn't care less, it's the ones who have a need for me that noticed my absence.

myotherself -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 10:09:31 AM)
no cheesecake, but I have vodka and hugs. [:D]

LadyHibiscus -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 10:33:50 AM)
YAYYYY!!! I like my friends. [:D]

LaTigresse -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 11:25:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Shadow-tiger Oh come on, it's obvious what to say: Fuck the fucking fucker! As in, do what you feel is right by you. And let that someone suck on his 'giving back' sycophantic ass like the lip puckering lemon it is. Also, mega hugz and fist pump. I'm all in a friendly mood tonight, can't ya see? [8D] Typed as though it came from my own finger tips. Seriously........I am at the point in life where I really try to limit my commitments. If I don't want to do it.......chances are I won't. I owe very few, very little. When I do something for someone, it's because I want to. If that's not good enough, FUCK THE FUCKING FUCKER![:D]

LadyHibiscus -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 11:27:40 AM)
Is it our age, do you think, LaT? I feel like waving the perimenopause banner and saying FUCK IT I served my time!! Not that anyone could have given me shit when I was young, either. [;)]

mistoferin -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 11:45:05 AM)
I want one of those banners!

LadyHibiscus -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 11:47:02 AM)
No shit, right Erin? Did you know that you are one of my cronies? YAY FOR ME, I say!! I want to know where it's written that being a "community ~koff~ leader" means that you have to be a kiss ass who is everyone's friend! Leading is being willing to point out the flaws, and FIX THEM, not being willing to smile pretty and shove the shit behind the couch and hope no one smells it. Uppity Bitch Hib

mistoferin -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 11:51:44 AM)
Crony is one of the nicer things I've been called![;)] Make my banner say this: Its all about the he says she says bullshit I think you better quit Lettin' shit slip Or you'll be leavin with a fat lip Its all about the he says she says bullshit I think you better quit talkin that shit (Punk, so come and get it) Its just one of those days Feelin' like a freight train First one to complain Leaves with a blood stain Damn right I'm a maniac You better watch your back Cuz I'm fuckin' up your program And if your stuck up You just lucked up Next in line to get fucked up Your best bet is to stay away motherfucker Its just one of those days!! ~Limp Bizkit

LadyPact -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 11:53:06 AM)
Holy shit! I damn near typed out this very thing yesterday. I feel very much like you do on the subject. Not about the stuff away from the computer, but certainly the stuff on it. I really don't "owe" anybody anything just because they decided to create an account on a site that I participate on. I'm not "required" to post book length explanations for humiliation, punishment, or any other thing that they decides flips their fancy. People have done that. They are called authors and they write things called "books". I'm not here to condense everything that I've learned through BDSM for someone who can't get off their lazy ass to do the research or seek out a demo in the local community. I've done the "giving back" thing. I still do it, but I do it in those ways that I want. It's isn't because of some sense of entitlement that other people think that they have. I've done more time teaching topping skills than I've ever received and I've done more of My share of paying back when it comes to explaining things to other people. I've carried out My commitments and run plenty of events. Believe it or not, there are times that I want to just go to the play party to........... play! When I choose to take on an obligation, I fulfill it, but I'm not under constant obligation to put aside My wants for the desires of other people. If I'm doing a demo or promoting an event, yes. That's My job. It's one that I signed on for willingly. The same doesn't apply simply by signing on to CM. Enough is enough when you say it is enough. If that means that you don't want to answer technical questions every time someone asks them or if you only feel like saying yes to one person who wants to learn a certain thing and no when someone else asks, that's your right. For Me, this whole thing is about doing those things that I want to do. That, and not one thing more.

LaTigresse -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 12:02:01 PM)
I am not sure why I am the way I am now other than, I think I am sure enough in myself to feel comfortable about not spreading myself to thin. I know myself better now. I know that I really NEED quiet time at home. I need to spend time with those closest to me. I need to be the mother and grand mother my mother has never been......for ME. I need to have the horses, dogs, cat, flowers, big spaces....around me and in my life, for me to be happy. And, I need to work. All of these things require vast amounts of my time, but also energy. Physical and emotional energy. I also try to focus on things that reflect a great deal of positive energy back, rather than constantly drain me. The difference between spending time with my kids and grands, versus spending time with my father or mother, is an example. One thing I've noticed is that s types often require A LOT of my emotional energy. Many of them are emotional energy vampires. Need need neeeeeeeeed. That's great IF there is some reciprocation that helps me recharge my own batteries. I think that, as we get older, not only do we tend to have more and more that requires our time and energy, we get better at taking care of ourselves and knowing just how much we can take on and still do what is best for ourselves. And we get better at prioritizing.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 12:18:40 PM)
It is a priority thing, and while I am not out for credit or reward, I do expect SOMETHING to come back to me, yanno? I feel that I have done my part as a leather person, I still offer up a link to someone who wants the info on local events, but I don't have any feeling that I NEED to do anything for anyone outside my own household. One thing that REALLY kicked in for me this year---it is GREAT to be single!! S type men suck a person dry, more often than not. I just don't need to have to think, worry, or even give a fuck about someone else's needs, ESPECIALLY when my own are not even in the picture.

pahunkboy -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 2:19:37 PM)
LOL. guilt tip. Tell him, "next topic"

LadyHibiscus -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 3:04:24 PM)
STOMP!! [:D]

mstrjx -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 4:09:26 PM)
I think being here (when I'm not being snarky, and when I'm not begging for attention, and when I'm not stalking, and when I'm not begging for attention again, and when I'm not soliciting dates (because THAT would be like begging for attention, and I'm not into all that)) is the very definition of giving back. You write a sincere post about someone else's problem, and you're trying to make their life better, at least until they trip over their OTHER shoe. That's giving back. You say you moderate boards. You post here. You step into public, you do so at your own peril. But you shouldn't need to if you don't want to. You give back here. Where's my cheesecake. I want to nibble on some while I'm not begging for attention. Jeff, who just gave back

pahunkboy -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 5:14:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus STOMP!! [:D] hehe. I love you!

LadyHibiscus -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 7:15:00 PM)
Jeff, I would totally share my cheesecake with you!

SorceressJ -> RE: The Rant That I Can't Have On Fet (9/15/2010 8:34:07 PM)
Oh SNAP!; thanx to erin for the song lyrics, them's just the vibes I needed right now. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who overextends herself into a hissy fit sometimes.. --> NOT a hijack, just good therapy.. Matter of fact, let the non-Bizkitheads among us be not offended or anything (this song is LOWD, and it has swears in it too. Good Stuff yo), but here's the WHOOP unedited version of that video. Word: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_9zpAWFFKQ

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