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RE: My transition from anti-fetish to being a submissive - 9/24/2010 9:04:54 AM

SassySouthrnLady

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I've always been one that liked things to go my way and taking charge when they didn't. Even as a kid I liked making others do what I wanted, how I wanted and when I wanted. Of course as time passed I was considered bossy, bitchy, rebellious, etc. I remember being called a maneater at 17. LOL I had no clue what the guy meant, but I was pretty sure it wasn't good.

I started dating a guy back in the late 90's and we started talking about fantasies and one thing led to another and before I knew it we were figuring out what we liked and what felt right. After the first power rush from being in complete control I was hooked.

Over the years I've attempted a few 'vanilla' relationships, but they just didn't do it. I keep coming back to this because it fits who I am.

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RE: My transition from anti-fetish to being a submissive - 9/24/2010 10:17:32 AM

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When I was young, most of the kids on my street were boys. I loved playing cops & robbers...I was always the robber, which resulted in me being caught and tied up/cuffed. I always enjoyed them tying me up, even the torment of 8 year old boys.

Sounds fun. I'm jealous. I know I got my first kiss from a boy at 7, but really, there were more girls than boys in my neighborhood. Or at least we "played together" more. I don't consider myself bi-sexual, though I have participated in the behavior as an adult. However, when I was a child, I can remember 3 separate groups or individuals, all female, that I had experiences with, sometimes multiple ones.

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I'm going to have to see the Secretary.

It is good. That reminds me - there's another one with James Spader also that I've heard about but haven't seen. Its called Crash (but not the one with Matt Dillion and Don Cheadle, etc. but the older one.) Apparently, he and Helen Hunt get in a car accident and go from strangers to getting their kink on around cars and accidents. I have to get that now. :)

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RE: My transition from anti-fetish to being a submissive - 9/24/2010 8:34:27 PM

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Different parts of me became aware at different times. I think some was inate and some came as i grew as a person. As a tween i loved the penthouse forums that involved some force. There was a book i read where they tortured a girl in it, and i kept re-reading that part, even though i didn't really understand why it facinated me. My first love (18+) was open to trying about anything and since he was a big guy it seemed natural for him to be in the dominant role. That's when i found i loved the feel of rope, spankings, floggers, nipple clamps, etc...a little pain with my pleasure. We were into Star Trek novels and i read and re-read the one where the Klingon kidnapped a female human, because the sex was rough and hot, just the way i wanted it.

When I was suddenly dating for the first time as an adult at 36, i found myself looking for a man to take charge in the bedroom. I actually said this out loud! It wasn't until I met an awesome Dom who halfway through our session asked me to "do him". Suddenly i realized how much i enjoyed listening to someone beg me, it was just soooo cute! Never been the type to yell or degrade, just doesn't work for me, but i sure can give a look that gets me exactly what i want every time

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