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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/16/2010 7:57:34 PM

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I like virgin Dommes. Gimme a nice sorority girl with furry handcuffs who thinks Lifestyle is a brand of condom and whose only experience with bondage is the Anne Rice Sleeping Beauty series and maybe duct taping freshman cheerleaders to the goal posts in high school. Yummy.

Haha, I used to have that kinda fantasy too, younger, innocent dommes type. But older women have more experience, also know what they want, so it appeals to me greatly to be dommed by an older woman.

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/16/2010 9:02:00 PM

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Haha, I used to have that kinda fantasy too, younger, innocent dommes type. But older women have more experience, also know what they want, so it appeals to me greatly to be dommed by an older woman.

That is definitely the right thing to say.

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/16/2010 9:04:23 PM

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For me it's not as much experience or inexperience that matters. What does matter is the person's ability to be open and really *feel* the experience. I like sincere reaction. I like *openness* whether it be open-minded or emotionally available/expressive. Being stoic can be a form of being too fearful to react, and a need to maintain control. I appreciate someone who is willing to go to their edge and give up control, so we may both feast off of it.

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/16/2010 10:12:23 PM

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For me it's not as much experience or inexperience that matters. What does matter is the person's ability to be open and really *feel* the experience. I like sincere reaction. I like *openness* whether it be open-minded or emotionally available/expressive. Being stoic can be a form of being too fearful to react, and a need to maintain control. I appreciate someone who is willing to go to their edge and give up control, so we may both feast off of it.

Yeah I noticed that it's not so much about experience but how far I'd be willing to go to make a Domme happy. I always try my hardest to maintain control, so I imagine I'll have to have control taken away from me, at that point I would most likely submit entirely.

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/17/2010 7:35:44 AM

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Well, and it is also a matter of maintaining your head and heart until you find yourself in the right situation with the right person. How "far you would be willing to go" is given to someone in whom you have met, and formed a relationship of trust in. My Lady and I did not start with "how far" - though she knew exactly what buttons to push - and it was everything I could do to maintain my head and heart while still saying "This was wonderful, more please!"

We worked into a place of "how far" and it took several months of us in our dynamic before I was able to let go of my fears and being stuffed for so long and allow things to "just happen". She was very patient and I tried my best to send her signals that said "I want to, even if right now I can't."

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/17/2010 7:44:41 AM

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I don't think you have to be a Domme to notice that mankind is making a universal effort to cure virginity . . . and for good reason.

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/19/2010 3:32:53 PM

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WTF ?????

Yes, it is time for me to put my Domiguy like hat on ...

You have GOT ... TO BE KIDDING!

Looked for your profile ... and got MissSix ...

Looked for ... xkittenx profile ... and got MissSix ...

So I think you are both full of BS ...

If you really want to know ...

I CANNOT STAND VIRGINS!

Talk about incapable, incompetent ... and FLAT OUT BAD!

Who is dumb enough to want one?

Hell ... I believe a blow up doll is ... better than a virgin!

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/19/2010 3:47:50 PM

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Gee what a bad spot to be in. Following the infamous Domi.

REPLY to the original poster:

Well, everything you've said so far is encouraging. You seem sensible, open, honest--dare I even say it: Sane!

Can't wait to hear how this turns out. Please please come back and tell us?

I only had one virgin in my whole life and this was my first husband--and omg.. I knew ahead it would be terrible and tried to talk him into doing a run-thru with a friend of mine first. No dice.
God--I will Never forget it. I was a virgin myself. Years later after the divorce, with some experience under the belt-- I realized he really was the Worst Lay on the Planet.. so that made me feel a bit better. But wtf.. why did I not realize that you shouldn't marry someone you couldn't trust to deflower you properly. Oh well, live and learn.

You sound like you've got it together and are going to have a fabulous First Time.

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/19/2010 4:01:01 PM

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Gee what a bad spot to be in. Following the infamous Domi.

Ms Millgrove, You generally are a very brilliant Lady ... But in this case ...

You are replying to imposters ...

Did You check to see if their profile's exist?

I think ... not ...

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/19/2010 4:28:51 PM

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Xkittenx is a real person, lots of posters have hidden profiles.

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/19/2010 4:53:34 PM

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FR,

Woah. To be able to do the following conversation again . . .

"I want to do what you tell me to do, or what you want to do to me."

"Really? You're kidding. That's brilliant! Do you mean it?"

. . . And see a look on her face, as though she's just won the lottery . . . .

Oh no, I don't mind 'virgin Dommes' one little bit.

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/19/2010 10:38:34 PM

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What's wrong with a virgin? I would be perfectly happy with a virgin!

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/28/2010 2:56:12 PM

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I don't see the problem with virgins. When my sub and I got together he was a virgin and personally I loved it. I didn't have to re-educate him on how to please me and he didn't have any pre-conceived notions on what makes a man a great lover, thank goodness.

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/29/2010 3:47:18 AM

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I must admit... I am a Mistress with a hunger for Virgins. I don't fantasize about them or actively seek them, but as soon as I meet one (unintentionally) the seduction techniques are put to the test. Maybe its the idea that they'll remember you forever or its going somewhere where no woman has gone before.. I don't know. I just can't help myself.

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/29/2010 4:47:11 PM

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Cool thread. Not sure is I am holding out or just chicken to move forward, I agree finding the right domme is absolutely key. I've had sub desires for about 12 years and still have not acted upon them. I keep telling myself someday, someday....

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/29/2010 5:33:10 PM

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I've been with three virgins and all were a pleasant experience. Not the best, but definitely not bad. I don't seek out virgins, but apparently I am drawn to the sheltered and as-yet uncorrupted. We're all so constantly exposed to sex that there is something alluring about uncharted territory. As B likes to say, "The best part about innocence is the way it tastes when it melts in your mouth."

The first was a mostly vanilla bf/gf situation, we were both learning from each other...and discovered exhibitionism and public sex along the way. Fun!
The second confessed he was a virgin and didn't want to disappoint me, so I taught him exactly what to do to make me happy...GREAT success. He showed a decidedly subby nature so I introduced him to kink. Our relationship didn't work out but we are good friends, and if I pinch the back of his neck his immediate response is still to drop to his knees.
The third wasn't technically a virgin, but she came out as a lesbian just before we met and I was her first female lover. That counts, right? She was actually amazing in bed, even the first time, and if I wasn't sure of her character I wouldn't have believed she had never been with a woman before. She was already a little kinky and switchy with sub tendencies, but had no interest in anything intense. There was light play but no training (beyond the usual measure when learning a new body).

OP, you don't have to "give it away" - the phrase sounds flippant and I don't think your body, or anyone else's for that matter, should ever be treated with disrespect (unless it's the fun kind) - but it could be a special treat when you do find someone.
Just don't forget to tie a nice ribbon around the package; presentation is everything!

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/29/2010 8:47:32 PM

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Cool, I look forward to my first bdsm experience. Hopefully it will be as good as I hope.

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/29/2010 9:51:02 PM

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Just don't forget to tie a nice ribbon around the package; presentation is everything!

HUMOUR HIJACK! That line reminds Me of an old song in which a drunken Scotsman goes to sleep under a tree. Two young maids happen along and decide to find out what's under a Scotsman's kilt. One ties a blue ribbon around what she finds and then they go on their way. When he awakes, he has to answer nature's call of course and exclaims "Och I don't know where you've been me lad, but I see you won first prize!" Just one of those lines that's stuck in My head for years LOL!

To the OP: Virgin or not isn't overly important to Me. As others have said, willingness to learn is WAYYYY more important. I don't engage in casual sex but ultimately would want a permanent sub to please Me sexually, so I wouldn't expect a boy to give it away lightly but eventually. I think there are quite a few Dommes out there who feel the same way and I hope you meet one. Good luck!

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/29/2010 10:34:46 PM

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i love fixing virgins

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RE: Opinion on Virgins - 9/30/2010 1:31:44 AM

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I personally don't care for them as I don't have the patience or time to devote to properly breaking them in.

This being said, I would rather have a virgin than someone who has been trained poorly. Perhaps I dislike virgins because I know I wouldn't want to screw someone up (at this time, I definitely would. too much going on) for the next FemDom.

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