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CreativeDominant -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/20/2010 3:03:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious There's a blog entry a friend wrote that I thought might be relevant to a current thread, but in it he's discussing pretty dangerous stuff and I didn't feel comfortable posting a link-I ended up copping out and cmailing the OP just for their own interest. It got me thinking back to a discussion I remember having with Lady P when I was pretty new-she said there were things she wouldn't post the specifics of on the forums in case someone inexperienced tried them and it went wrong. I was kind of offended at the time-I thought the duty of care was with the reader, not the writer, but I get what she meant now-I don't want anyone else's accidents or bad experiences on my head, even indirectly. I think she was talking about needleplay, and it got me wondering: Are there kinks you won't discuss on CM, for whatever reason? Is it that you don't want to be responsible for encouraging other people to behave irresponsibly, or you don't think they'll be received well, or the experiences are just too private, or something else entirely? As Stephen noted, there are an awful lot of things I won't discuss on CM, some of them having to do with kink. Part of that is because there are aspects of my life that I don't care to share with the world at large and part of that is because there are certain stances I have that I will only argue about for a little while and then, upon the realization that I am unlikely to change someone's mind...or the converse, they are unlikely to change mine...there just isn't any sense in arguing further and that tends to either kill threads or lead to the accusation that you won't back up your stance. One reason I try...thought not with much success lately...to stay away from the political threads. Things get twisted, emotionalism comes into play and pretty soon the argument denigrates into personal attacks rather than issue-oriented discussion/argument. While I am willing to do that with my political beliefs once in awhile and more willing to do it with discussions of a BDSM-D/s-relationship topic, I am not willing to put a lot of what I do PERSONALLY out there.

Acer49 -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/20/2010 3:13:46 PM)
quote: Are there kinks you won't discuss on CM, for whatever reason? Is it that you don't want to be responsible for encouraging other people to behave irresponsibly, or you don't think they'll be received well, or the experiences are just too private, or something else entirely? _____________________________ quote: ORIGINAL: mbes Absolutely, but it is from a privacy standpoint. What other adults do is not my decision, or place to censor. There is no aspect about this lifestyle I will not openly discuss. Anyone is free to ask anything they like. However if it about my partner, they will need to ask her. I do not kiss and tell. I am not my brothers keeper. Just because I will discuss knife play or fake rape scene, does not mean I am twisting their arm to go out and do it, no matter how great I tell them that it is I do not act irresponsibly nor do I try to convince others to I do not concern myself with whatever others may think about me or my activities, that is their cross to bear.

wittynamehere -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/20/2010 3:18:14 PM)
FR I'm a private person and that limits what I'll say online in open areas. And then there are rules against a lot of the things I'd like to discuss, so I can't or I'll be banned.

porcelaine -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/20/2010 5:57:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious Are there kinks you won't discuss on CM, for whatever reason? Is it that you don't want to be responsible for encouraging other people to behave irresponsibly, or you don't think they'll be received well, or the experiences are just too private, or something else entirely? VaguelyCurious, Yes. Both reasons apply and there's another that I feel very strongly about and that's respecting the other party. Irregardless if the individual participates in this site or others, we're all entitled to our privacy and I view those disclosures as a violation of that principle. I believe it's possible to share my opinions without providing a play by play of the things I've seen and done. More than this, I can't fathom how the information would be beneficial to the would be stranger without tainting the deliverer in the process. ~porcelaine

MarcEsadrian -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/20/2010 10:15:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious quote: ORIGINAL: MarcEsadrian Beware what you divulge, even to vetted confidants and "lovers" you think you can trust. Despite the wooden-headed hypocrisy in doing so, there's a sacred shotgun kept under many beds. I love that you put 'lovers' in quotation marks [8D] I think there's some truth in this. There are things that go round my head that I doubt I'll ever share with anyone, 'lover' or not. But I suspect it's not just kinky people who are like that-I reckon everyone has the odd dark thought. Hmmm, yes. I can be a cynical bastard, but I don't mean to put all lovers in those biting quotes. "Lover" is the most personal and intimate word I can think of, where there is more one mind among two; it's a seldom realized ideal in reality. Dark thoughts are one thing; I think nearly everyone grants impunity to the occasional bout of amoral Tourettes within the brain, but hideaway longings, passions, recurring imaginings and experiences that could only be deemed patently evil and beyond mere accidents of the brain belching up a transient what if scenario—yes, those are entirely different.

Kana -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/20/2010 10:24:35 PM)
Are there kinks you won't discuss on CM, for whatever reason? Nope, not really. I am pretty up front about what I like and don't. It's all part of my diabolical plan to absolutely disrupt the intranetz and confound everyone I encounter by engaging in honesty. Is it that you don't want to be responsible for encouraging other people to behave irresponsibly, Nope. I couldn't care less what anyone else does and if they are stupid enough to try advanced edge play without any training, any negative repercussions are on them. or you don't think they'll be received well, Again, couldn't care less, though I will confess to enjoying rattling others cages when I get the chance. or the experiences are just too private, or something else entirely? Nope. But it will be a cold day in hell before I shared something truly private or personal on a public forum board.

ranja -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/21/2010 2:12:56 AM)
Yes there are kinks i won't talk about... they are mainly kinks i have no clue about, so i have nothing relevant to say about them i wish more people were like me in that respect

MistressLavinia -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/21/2010 7:16:39 AM)
Yes most definitely. I rarely talk about any of my kinks, but there's some I'd never talk about here or anywhere, they stay locked away- where they should be[;)]

laurell3 -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/21/2010 5:31:46 PM)
Yes absolutely.

subboi3382 -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/26/2010 4:10:38 AM)
yes, they won't let me lol

SubPet715 -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/27/2010 2:21:44 PM)
I try not to talk about kinks period on CM...weird huh? Reason is I don't wanna seem like one of those generic horn dogs who thinks nothing of more of this site than it being a free adult friend finder. Kinks and the like will be discussed by anyone who is polite enough to message me and is curious enough to do so. But I won't freely discuss my kinks with just anyone.

Madame4a -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/27/2010 3:22:20 PM)
Just like LP.. I definitely refrain from talking about most types of SM activities for that reason.. the only time I will, is privately with someone I trust not to wander off and try something new on the strength of my advice only. And trust me.. it happens.. SM, in my mind, is a hands on thing and should be, in part, learned that way.. relationship crap.. particularly everyone else's relationship crap, [;)] I'll discuss ad nauseum... [:D] quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious There's a blog entry a friend wrote that I thought might be relevant to a current thread, but in it he's discussing pretty dangerous stuff and I didn't feel comfortable posting a link-I ended up copping out and cmailing the OP just for their own interest. It got me thinking back to a discussion I remember having with Lady P when I was pretty new-she said there were things she wouldn't post the specifics of on the forums in case someone inexperienced tried them and it went wrong. I was kind of offended at the time-I thought the duty of care was with the reader, not the writer, but I get what she meant now-I don't want anyone else's accidents or bad experiences on my head, even indirectly. I think she was talking about needleplay, and it got me wondering: Are there kinks you won't discuss on CM, for whatever reason? Is it that you don't want to be responsible for encouraging other people to behave irresponsibly, or you don't think they'll be received well, or the experiences are just too private, or something else entirely?

SailingBum -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/29/2010 1:49:26 PM)
I ve done quite a few things that will never see the light of day kink or otherwise. BadOne

Carouselambra -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/29/2010 7:18:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven There are lots of things that I will not disclose in the open forums, and a few of them are kink. DarkSteven on 9/28/10 at 9:41 PM: Well, I love female asses - so pretty, especially if jiggling. And I love the control of holding her in place, and getting to vary the intensity, the rhythm. When she squirms, it rubs my cock if she's OTK as well.

Aynne88 -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/29/2010 7:20:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Carouselambra quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven There are lots of things that I will not disclose in the open forums, and a few of them are kink. DarkSteven on 9/28/10 at 9:41 PM: Well, I love female asses - so pretty, especially if jiggling. And I love the control of holding her in place, and getting to vary the intensity, the rhythm. When she squirms, it rubs my cock if she's OTK as well. n/m. [8\|].

anniezz338 -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/30/2010 10:04:15 AM)
Yes, there is one. My off the wall guess is the ones people don't mention usually are considered taboo. Touching on taboos can be very touchy.

LadyRian -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/30/2010 4:24:03 PM)
Yes.

subforherMaster -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (9/30/2010 10:51:47 PM)
Some kinks are private and only to be discussed within the relationship. No one else needs to be in on them.

ThundersCry -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (10/1/2010 10:15:48 AM)
of course.... my bizz... <eg>

thatsub -> RE: Are there kinks you won't talk about on CM? (10/1/2010 10:44:51 AM)
This forum is a permanent record of sorts for your CM profile, and due to privacy issues I avoid discussing certain topics no matter how interested I am.

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