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RE: Fear of Being Collared? - 9/23/2010 9:31:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: Twoshoes
That's about the 3rd time I've seen that piece of advice. Personally, I'd hope so because currently commitment really scares me.

Fear, if left to run rampant, can of course screw up just about anything. That being said, I can tell you that when I met Carol I had about 2 billion VERY good reasons to not get involved... starting out with I was married (separated, technically, but I take my wedding ring seriously and it was still on my finger) and I thought she was a lesbian. None of those reasons mattered. The chemistry involved was not something that could be lightly ignored... or even ignored at all. I always think of it like north and south poles on magnets. Once we got in close enough proximity to each other *CLICK* and it was all over.

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RE: Fear of Being Collared? - 9/27/2010 2:30:17 PM

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I have fear of people thinking they can collar me right off the bat.

Meeting people on here who assume I will be their slave because I am looking for a domme, that i'm in some way desperate and will settle for anything. So in those cases I just back away, it will look like fear but it's pretty much a strategic retreat because if they bothered to know anything about me is that I like things to go slow and simple.

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RE: Fear of Being Collared? - 9/27/2010 3:54:03 PM

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It has to feel right. To everyone involved. It sounds as if there's some mixed signals coming through on the status of this couple's relationship, and this "break" might turn into "break up". That will be chaotic. Believe me on this one, even if a divorce is amicable, the process is a drag and gets stressful.

If they get back together this might also lead to some weirdness, because they'll be trying to straighten out their issues, and you'll more than likely get caught in the middle of it. I don't think you'd feel too good if you were put into a position where might be asked to take sides, would you? I'd feel very confused if it were me in this situation. There's a lot going on here, with some complex emotional undercurrents. My advice would be to hold off on the collar for now, until all of this gets sorted out.

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