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TeeGO -> Sub male friends? (4/23/2006 7:00:45 PM)
I was just wondering how common it is for male Doms to be close friends with male subs?

Wulfchyld -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/23/2006 7:05:46 PM)
Dominant or submissive shouldn’t have any bearing on friendship. I welcome friendship with anyone and hope my slave will be my best friend in the whole world. So don’t let the distinction of D/s get in the way of friendship.

juliaoceania -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/23/2006 7:32:05 PM)
My former Dom had many sub male friends and no dominant friends. He didn't even realize this until I pointed it out to him, he just naturally was more compatible with people that were on the sub side I think.... Not sure why this was, nor was he

Level -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/23/2006 8:17:05 PM)
Like Wulfchyld said, it shouldn't matter. There's male submissives that I like and respect. I wonder if vanilla males would have more trouble with male submissives though... food for thought. Level

theRose4U -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/23/2006 8:45:13 PM)
quote: I wonder if vanilla males would have more trouble with male submissives though... food for thought Only the ones that turn into doms on Friday and Saturday nights [8D] Seriously, I have friends that are Dom/mes and subs and encourage my boys to also have these kinds of interactions as long as play isn't part of the "regular" arrangement with those people.

Guilty1974 -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/25/2006 3:02:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TeeGO I was just wondering how common it is for male Doms to be close friends with male subs? Why would it not be common?

FangsNfeet -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/25/2006 11:15:39 PM)
I have friends that are straight, gay, bi, dom, sub, switch, and everything in between. Just because a guy says he's a sub does not mean that he will be submissive to me. Either way, I do have male friends that are submissive in there relationships and I don't judge there decission. I don't find it uncommon at all to be having a male sub as a friend of mine.

Reasonable -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/26/2006 4:19:28 AM)
Unless one happens to be gay(or homophobic)-it's of no real interest to most males what each other's sexual orientations are. It seems to matter a great deal more to females.

IronBear -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/26/2006 11:04:58 AM)
One of my best friends is a non Gorean Domme who owns a male sub. Bothare personal friends. there are times like when he is working on my comp or similar whilst respect is there it is easy to forget that he is a sub 24/7...

Saint -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/26/2006 2:18:33 PM)
Hmm, interesting thread. This got me thinking and I did realize that I dont have any close friends who are male subs. Almost all of my friends are either female submissives or Dominants, or Male dominants. Thats not to say I hold prejudices against any male submissives, I dont. But as to why I dont have close friendships with them. I think thats more because I very rarely encounter them at the places I frequent so I never get the chance to know them.

TeeGO -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/29/2006 8:22:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Guilty1974 quote: ORIGINAL: TeeGO I was just wondering how common it is for male Doms to be close friends with male subs? Why would it not be common? I don't know, that's why I was asking. I do have a good friend that is a Dom.

Isara -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/30/2006 8:19:07 AM)
While not a Master [;)] as a Mistress I have submissive/slave friends. Hell, I often go to the "Subby Munches" that are held around these parts. It's good gossip time ;) Dominance and Submission are facets of personal relationships for me. No, that doesn't make sense ;) Clearly I'm tired. Nevertheless I hope my point is made. I have friends who are gay/straight vanilla/kinky. As long as I -like- the person. I don't see Dominance or Submission getting in the way of our relationship, any more then gender or sexual preference would for example

feastie -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/30/2006 8:49:31 AM)
I'm not a master or a male sub, I'm a female submissive and I have friends who have all different orientations. It doesn't matter what their orientation is to me. I value them as a person and a friend.

OTKkindaGirl -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/30/2006 9:07:18 AM)
My best friend and i became friends before we knew about each other well enough to figure it out. i am always attracted to dominant personalities but had no idea she was in the lifestyle or a Domme with slaves of her own. We are friends first and not in a Domme/sub relationship with each other. i imagine it isn't any different for you guys once you break through the barriers the vanilla world sets before you.

topcat -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/30/2006 10:36:02 AM)
Dear TeeGo- a fair amount of my friends are male submissives, and I find it very unusual that the dynamic enters in to these friendships in anyway. I find that a male dominant/ male submissive friendship makes for a great team for working the room when going stag to a club or event- you can pimp each other shamelessly, you can, by way of some sort of impromptue demo, display your respective skills. Actually, as I think of it, a sub is my first choice for wingman in the scene. Stay warm, Lawrence

TexasMaam -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/30/2006 9:13:01 PM)
TeeGo, I always enjoy your posts, and Gentlemen, what great replies! Thanks for letting Me read... TopCat, you're just too nifty! TexasMaam

topcat -> RE: Sub male friends? (4/30/2006 10:31:36 PM)
quote: TopCat, you're just too nifty! M. Texas- Why thank you- I do try<g>. Stay warm, Lawrence

RavenMuse -> RE: Sub male friends? (5/1/2006 12:54:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TeeGO I was just wondering how common it is for male Doms to be close friends with male subs? Logicaly I would say it shouldn't matter..... However, whilst I have and have had in the past, good friendships with Fellow Doms, Dommes, switches of both genders and Female subs I have never been on more than nodding aquaintence terms with a Male sub. Coincidence? It certainly hasn't been a consious choise.

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