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RE: falling in love with a slave..... - 9/27/2010 10:14:41 AM

MistressDrei

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I do not have sex with all my slaves. If i do have sex with ONE, its because i have chosen him over the others because I am in fact attracted to him.
I call him a conjugal slave. One special slave that is allowed to kiss and make luv to me not just fuck me. As to being fucked, i can get that anywhere.
Everyone has a right to live their life as they please, but that does not mean you have to lie or trick anyone.

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RE: falling in love with a slave..... - 9/27/2010 10:32:41 AM

rulemylife

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ORIGINAL: MistressDrei

So why the hell you TRYING to read it!!
I was trying to type from a phone not that i need to answer to you insolent pig.. dont like it, dont look at it
SIMPLE!!!

Is typing from a phone more difficult?

But you have asked a good question.

I think I was trying to read it it because I thought I discovered someone speaking a new language, and I always like to learn new things.

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RE: falling in love with a slave..... - 9/27/2010 4:14:40 PM

BlueEyedSubinDE

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"Male slave wants me to only b with him and he also wants one of my more attractive slaves. When this all started I promised him my slave lea but being with him made me insecure and jealous."

If I understand this correctly - he wants you to be monogamous with him, BUT he not only wants to be poly, he wants you to provide him with the additional partners? If that is the case, for me "Welcome to Dumpsville slave, population you.

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RE: falling in love with a slave..... - 9/28/2010 2:06:29 AM

allthatjaz

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ORIGINAL: MistressDrei

I do not have sex with all my slaves. If i do have sex with ONE, its because i have chosen him over the others because I am in fact attracted to him.
I call him a conjugal slave. One special slave that is allowed to kiss and make luv to me not just fuck me. As to being fucked, i can get that anywhere.
Everyone has a right to live their life as they please, but that does not mean you have to lie or trick anyone.

Good for you. You sexually dominated the one that you were most attracted to. That speaks volumes. What I have read and understood from your posts is that you sincerely are a dominant woman and not someone who is just playing games to get attention. Dominance turns you on and thats a VERY good thing.

I think the problem for you started by choosing a man from vanilla land. He learnt about you, thought it sounded fun and kinky and let you believe that he could be into it too. If he really was into it then he would of already been exploring this very attainable way of life.
I think most of us Dommes could pick up a vanilla guy and convert him but it would only be temporary. For him it would just be another way of obtaining a bit of kinky sex before going off and talking about it with his mates.

As far as being able to dominate a man that you fall in love with (for future reference), the more you know him and the more you love him, the more your dominance will flow. If he loses respect for you because you have him in your bed, then he's just a game player living within his own fantasy.
I know dominant women that are married to their sub male. I know a few that have had children together. Why would that stop you being dominant? surely it would enhance it.
There are a good number of male subs out there that feel sex with a Domme would spoil things. These guys are handy to have around if you just need to scratch a dominant itch but they are not long term relationship material. They get off on not being allowed to touch the forbidden fruit. They are simply players but don't let these players convince you that sexual domination is wrong... its not.

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RE: falling in love with a slave..... - 10/5/2010 6:06:09 AM

MistressDrei

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Thank you allthatjaz... its exactly what it is!

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RE: falling in love with a slave..... - 10/5/2010 6:39:35 PM

Rochsub2009

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: MistressDrei

My "real" life is a mess. Being a mistress is the only thing I can be in control. I do want a relationship... a vanilla one or w a slave.

This struck me as important: wanting to be a mistress for the wrong reasons. If your real life is a mess then how can you be expected to make good decisions for yourself and others? If you want a relationship that is EITHER vanilla or D/s, then how genuine are you?

If you are not truly a Domme and only play one on TV, then you are doing a disservice to those who get involved with you.

Sexyred1,
Actually, I got hung up on the same parts of her message.

IMO, if one is not in control of their own life, then they are doing a disservice to any subs/slaves that they try to dominate. How can you control others when you are not in control of self?

MistressDrei,
You are the Domme. So you make the rules. Your world is what you make it. That's the thing about BDSM; there is no rulebook. Typically, the Dom/Domme makes the rules. And that's you.

Most of the questions that you asked are ones that only you can answer. Look introspectively. Then dominate your world.