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Bravado -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:04:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

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ORIGINAL: Bravado

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Nigerians being scammed and sold overseas?  Overseas from where?


Nigeria. You know, where Nigerians are from?



And being sold where?  Is this fuckin' bizzaro world?

Bizzaro-Master


Not only overseas, but on their own continent as well. Crazy, isn't it?! Why would anyone want Nigerians? You'd think everyone would be into Chinese, because they work well with small parts, and eat less!




CaringandReal -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:05:48 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Bravado

I'm not so stupid as to believe that there are any "true slaves" among the privileged people in the world, so I expect that any sub will have some tangible needs and expectations. When they argue that they have no such needs and are ready to commit themselves to be permanent property, I wonder if they even realize that it is a lie.



You may not be aware of this, but this particular topic gets brought up once every week and a half or so, usually by a new participant (who isn't aware of the regular posting pattern involved with this subject) and also occasionally by someone who is here a lot but who feels strongly about it. I guess it is rather on the mind of the collective bdsm unconscious. ;) No matter, new things always come out of this discussion which are often quite useful--as well as the crap that the chompers of cynical popcorn live for. So I am happy to see it arise like a phoenix once again.

Legal slaves in the times in which they were common also had tangible needs and expectations and nobody with any common sense or observation skills would ever argue that they didn't. They were not machines. They got hungry, they needed food, shelter, medicine or rest when ill, etc. Saying that slaves do not have needs is a nonsensical denial of both their humanity and their mamalian nature. What distinguishes a slave from someone free is not their possession of needs, nor their denial or affirmation of such needs, nor even whether they get those needs met (as you may be aware, some "free" people are in terrible circumstances without even the power to end their lives to get rid of the pain and horror). There is zero contradicition between someone having needs and expectations and also being ready/willing to commit themselves to being permanent property. How could there be when expecting to become permanent property is itself an expectation, something which, according to your somewhat flawed definition, slaves never have? If someone who has expectations, desires, and needs regarding ownership becomes owned, then guess what? They are a slave with expectations, desires, and needs. Those things don't magically poof at the moment (or during the process) of their enslavement.

You may have met some really stupid "slaves" if you believe that silliness about being owned meaning having no desires. Or perhaps you have not ever met a real slave living in real ownership and therefore know very little about the actual conditions and mindset? Women or men who fantasize about being slaves or masters on a personal-ad site but have had no experience with this reality may have some very strange preconceptions about it, just as anybody very unfamiliar with something is liable to make some very naive assumptions at first. Another type you are likely to meet on kinky personal -d sites are people who have not owned successfully or who have not been enslaved by someone competent. Bothtend to be bitter and have strong opinions about the infeasibility of the institution (the thinking goes: If _I_ can't be a successful slave/master, than NOBODY ELSE can; underlying assumption: nobody else is better at me at anything!) So, if someone has not succeeded at something, does that by default make them an "expert" in the subject that they failed? I suggest you tell that to the people who administer the bar exams, medical exams, or CFA tests. They will be shocked and saddened by this great revelation! Or, if you prefer, try to start judging the information you take in by the quaility of the source. ;)

The distinction between someone enslaved and someone free is that the enslaved individual responds to the authority of their owner at all times (notice I didn't say "obey"--I said "responds"), an authority that, at times, but fewer than you might think, overrides their own personal intentions or desires. You could say the same is true for someone employed, but it is not. The employed person is absolutley free to quit their job at any time that they wish, and will usually do to if pressed too hard to do things that are against their nature. You spoke of expectations. Ok, here's an exception: someone who is enslaved fully does not have the employed person's particular expectation, that they can just "quit," even if they are required to do things that go against their needs, desires, or nature. A slave may expect that at many times they will not be required to do onerous things, but they will also know that there is no guarentee that they won't. They may run if their owner is too cruel or neglectful of their needs but they usually do not regard it like one would quitting a job: as a free decision. They call it "running away" thus acknowledging the ownership implicitly. Legally owned slaves ran away quite a bit, too, you know. That did not negate their slave status in the eyes of the state. And while a slave in a bdsm relationship knows that their owner doesn't have the legal sanction or law-enforcement resources to bring them back if they run, they might expect, if the ownership has been real, that they will, nonetheless, be brought back.

My former master had provisions for getting me back if I ever ran. I asked him once about this--it's one of those really essential questions you ought to ask someone before becoming a slave, and then see if you can live with the answer. A few other masters I've talked to who took their ownership seriously have had similar (although not identical) provisions. A slave, to me, knows that they are owned, knows that their owner regards them as property, knows that they are not allowed to leave unless they are freed, and knows that their owner will exercise every means to bring them backto their state of slavery if they try to exit without permission. And slaves that I have known need, crave, expect, and thrive on this reality.

Is anybody really ever enslaved? They can be regarded as such whether they think so or not, if they lived in a time and place where either legal slavery was sanctioned or the opportunity for bdsm slavery existed. You could say that slavery is only a mindset, nothing tangible, even in legally sactioned systems, and that a person could always buck the mindset and free themselves, but very few of the total number of legal slaves, who often had many reasons to do so, ever did . There are various reasons for this, from fear of painful reprisal and death to comfort and security:being used to one's position and place. But even if you were kept in chains 24/7 the option for escaping still existed, if you could figure out an angle. I think that a lot of slaves did not run away for a simple reason: they identified as slaves and could no longer think outside that point of view. Running wasn't an option they considered, even when things were quite bad.

Modern conditioning and propoganda works quite similarly: we get used to believing in a certain reality or in certain facts about ourselves or others or the world, and after a while we are no longer aware that this is propoganda, that we've been sold a story by something external to ourselves. Instead, people internalize the ideas they are bombarded with and, untimately, when the propoganda or programming is sucessful, they become our own thoughts.

This is also how sucessful bdsm slavery works, on the micro level. The dominant's intentions, desires for us, views of us, become interalized and we forget or lower the priority on our own ideas about ourselves. We eventually come to believe that the dominant's ideas about us are our own, and one of these ideas is, of course, that we are owned property with no rights other than those our owners give us. There is nothing inherently evil in this, in fact, it probably won't even be successful if you don't welcome it willingly. And it is a process that ranges from quite plesant, intoxicating even, to one you barely notice. If you do not like it and are fighting it constantly, it is less likely to be successful. Which may be why people conflicted about slavery do not make very good or long-lasting slaves. Butthose who thrive in this environment of extreme control, even over our thoughts, or expect it for our future, if we are unowned make excellent slaves.




crazyml -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:06:19 PM)

Ed to remove sarcastic humour so as not to detract from CaringandReal's brilliant post.




crazyml -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:09:56 PM)

CaringandReal... wonderful post.




Bravado -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:10:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Hotch

Maybe we should start calling age players pedophiles?


Next I'll start a thread arguing that "true age players" aren't real because they aren't abusing children. But there won't be an argument there, because not a lot of people are obsessed with the idea of being branded a pedophile, whereas so many people feel the need to convince others that they are truly slaves.




Bravado -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:17:19 PM)

CaringandReal, while your response was extremely informative, only one aspect of it was relevant to the discussion in which a distinction is being made between "true slaves" of the BDSM world, which are willing advocates of the kink in search of fulfillment, and unfortunate slaves of criminal trafficking, who are simply stuck.

"Legal slave." I like this phrase. Your contribution perhaps closes a question I had presented, which to me satisfies the argument within this thread.

So, to all you BDSM fanatics who will argue until the day you die that you are or own a "true slave," yes! It is true! You are right! But, you are not a legal slave, which will, I'm sure, soon become the "cool" thing to claim...




switch2please -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:23:21 PM)

Historically, slavery is not a matter of choice. In BDSM, much emphasis is put on being consensual.
Of course the two working usages of the word don't completely mirror each other.
If the term bothers you, don't use it! [sm=dunno.gif]It's not rocket science...really....




LadyPact -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:24:28 PM)

I don't think anybody has argued that they own an illegal slave, gone into their definition of a true slave, or any other adjective that we can throw in front of the word 'slave' to make anyone and everyone happy.

As to the other comment of calling those who engage in age play "pedophiles", if anyone thinks that label hasn't been thrown around by those not involved in BDSM against those who were/are, I think you'd be sadly mistaken.




mnottertail -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:25:21 PM)

It is now officially time to bring up chainsaws.........or nazis.




MarcEsadrian -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:27:08 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Hotch

There really should be a better term for someone who gives themselves over 100% to another within the confines of the lifestyle and with the expectation that they will be treated within the scope of their expectations.


There is. It's called "consensual slavery".




Wolf2Bear -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:28:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Bravado

I'm not so stupid as to believe that there are any "true slaves" among the privileged people in the world, so I expect that any sub will have some tangible needs and expectations. When they argue that they have no such needs and are ready to commit themselves to be permanent property, I wonder if they even realize that it is a lie.

If they knew what true slavery was, then they wouldn't be asking for it. If you have the audacity to claim it's something you enjoy and want me to show you what true slavery is, come along, I have plenty of stones to haul and a place to dump your body when you've died of exhaustion.

While I respect that a person may have fantasies, and would like to roleplay the kink of being a real slave, I'm sure I can't be the only one that is annoyed when he is approached by a girl who attempts to convince you that she's the traditional definition of a slave and ready to serve as though all other BDSM slaves are posers. I'm willing to believe that someone out there masturbates to the idea of building a pyramid in the desert for a decade of unrewarded effort until their demise, but I don't think that person is a young white girl who hasn't worked for a decade in any job, let alone something brutal and unforgiving.

Do you suppose these people know that they are lying, or have lost themselves in a delusional fantasy? Have you had any experience relevant to the idea of a "true slave?"

This topic was inspired by the recent news, in which many Nigerian slaves were discovered being trafficked, which is unfortunately fairly common. I have great pity for those people, and their plight makes me wonder how any could convince themselves that it's what they want.



Ok so exactly in what context you define true slaves?  Is off line in a M/s relationship where one person willingly handed authority over to another and they lead perfectly satisfying lives together?  Is it the old feudal system in Europe when the serfs worked the land and paid a hefty tithe to their lord? Is it the illegal immigrants who are swindled into paying all their life savings to be smuggled into North America or Asia only to be forced into the sex trade industry? Is it the black Africans who were taken from their villages and brought to the New World, sold into slavery to wealthy plantation owners?

You see, slavery means many different things to many different people. here in WIITWD, we are smart enough to understand that us who identify as a slave are not self deluding ourselves into thinking this style of slavery is the only type.  How we define being a slave and all that entails is solely defined by the people directly involved in that relationship. So that example you wrote in your OP is only one form of slavery and it sure the hell has nothing to do with how most people here who do identify as a slave define it. Next time try comparing apples with apples and not with oranges.




switch2please -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:29:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

It is now officially time to bring up chainsaws.........or nazis.


How about nazis with chainsaws? They should be zombies too.




Bravado -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:31:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: switch2please
If the term bothers you, don't use it! [sm=dunno.gif]It's not rocket science...really....



Let's revisit the topic where I describe how people claim to me that they are true slaves. Even a rocket scientist, in all their incredible space-age powers, can do nothing to prevent others from speaking their mind.

Unless they use lots of rockets!




MarcEsadrian -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:32:25 PM)


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ORIGINAL: CaringandReal
Modern conditioning and propaganda works quite similarly: we get used to believing in a certain reality or in certain facts about ourselves or others or the world, and after a while we are no longer aware that this is propaganda, that we've been sold a story by something external to ourselves. Instead, people internalize the ideas they are bombarded with and, ultimately, when the propaganda or programming is successful, they become our own thoughts.


Well said and excellent observation.




switch2please -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:40:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Bravado

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ORIGINAL: switch2please
If the term bothers you, don't use it! [sm=dunno.gif]It's not rocket science...really....



Let's revisit the topic where I describe how people claim to me that they are true slaves. Even a rocket scientist, in all their incredible space-age powers, can do nothing to prevent others from speaking their mind.

Unless they use lots of rockets!



So ask them (personally, via message, after these claims) to explain and compare their definition of 'true slavery' with your definition, or dismiss them as sheltered and naive and move on.
...unless your true topic was preventing people from speaking their minds in the first place? If so, you're going to need a LOT of rockets.




tazzygirl -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 2:42:51 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Bravado

French may not be the wanton slut as you say. It could very well be a "true slave," being misused by force against its will. Who are you to judge, anyway?!?!


Wait. You are asking who is someone to judge when you just posted an OP full of judgements?




Bravado -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 3:03:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MarcEsadrian


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ORIGINAL: Hotch

There really should be a better term for someone who gives themselves over 100% to another within the confines of the lifestyle and with the expectation that they will be treated within the scope of their expectations.


There is. It's called "consensual slavery".



So far we have covered true slavery, legal slavery, and consensual slavery. Are there any other types of slavery that we're missing? How about nocturnal slavery? Type-two slavery? Chronic slavery? Post-traumatic slavery disorder?

Enlightenment abound in this thread!




Bravado -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 3:13:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: switch2please

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ORIGINAL: Bravado

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ORIGINAL: switch2please
If the term bothers you, don't use it! [sm=dunno.gif]It's not rocket science...really....



Let's revisit the topic where I describe how people claim to me that they are true slaves. Even a rocket scientist, in all their incredible space-age powers, can do nothing to prevent others from speaking their mind.

Unless they use lots of rockets!



So ask them (personally, via message, after these claims) to explain and compare their definition of 'true slavery' with your definition, or dismiss them as sheltered and naive and move on.
...unless your true topic was preventing people from speaking their minds in the first place? If so, you're going to need a LOT of rockets.



I'm on my way to rocket school, as to prevent you from having an opinion. One moment you'll be in a heated argument, and the next a crater will be in your place! Then I'll blow up the moon! Finally, I'll settle down on Mars and start a family of bigots that will lord over the galaxy with our stubborn disposition on semantics.

If I didn't want others to speak their mind, I wouldn't have a public profile on a personals website, nor would I create a thread on its message board for all to discuss. Unless this is all a trap to suck your brains out, and I'm an articulate zombie.




RedMagic1 -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 3:14:17 PM)

It is extremely hard for people with real-time relationship experience to comprehend the view of someone who just sees things through the lens of email.  In a real sense, it's worse than just having porn experience, because, deep down, we know porn is fake, but maybe there really are real people emailing me and asking me to buy them!  (Actually, in my case, there have been, but it didn't come from unsolicited mail.)  Don't judge from emails you might receive.  Only judge based on people you know in real life who consider themselves true slaves.  Don't know any?  Then frikkin meet some.

Don't you know vanilla couples who are slaves to each other?  I do.  I've known more than one elderly couple where, when one spouse died, the other spouse died soon after.  They were each others' lives, and their reason for living was over.  This just isn't that weird or perverted a concept.  Like most things in kinkland, it's not as far from vanilla reality as people might like to think.

Bottom line: if you sound like less of a self-righteous dick, more real-live women with slave desires will be willing to interact with you, because more women period will be willing to interact with you.  The best way to sound like less of a self-righteous dick is to look for the positive in things, not the negative.  Might want to give it a try.




LadyRian -> RE: True Slavery, a delusional roleplay. (9/29/2010 3:20:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: crazyml

J'ai beaucoup de pop-corn. Puis-je m'asseoir à côté de vous?



Je vais partager avec vous le pop-corn. Est-ce caramel pop-corn?




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