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RedBottomGirl26 -> RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... (10/12/2010 10:03:32 PM)
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I think if a "Master" left (and I use it loosely here) because a Master really would care about your well-being, even if the relationship wasn't working, or if it changed. He/or She would still care about your feelings and progress. I don't think a true Master would just up and dump someone, especially if he/she knew just how damaging their absence could be. The very least they should do is stay friends with you until you are back on your feet, and have possibly found you something you could rely on, instead of leaving you to your own fears. A good Master is not a careless one, a good Master is not a thought-less one. True, most dominants & masters don't want to be called "sweet" but...depending on the type of dominant he is, he may not have the same ways as other Doms. Especially the Daddy Dom types tend to care a little more about the state they leave you in, though some of them don't want to leave you at all, even as a friend, which is a good thing. It's nice to know that even if the relationship isn't compatible, that you still feel that you can trust him to still be your friend and listen to you. Of course, not all dominants are Daddy Doms, some may not even be considered cuddly or very sympathetic at all, but first and foremost is his concern for your safety, next would be his pleasure or desire, and he should still care about your desires, he just may not think of them first thing, but certainly if your pleasure isn't on his list somewhere at the middle or bottom, then he's probably not thinking about you at all.
It's true. Life does go on, though sometimes it can be challenging to face that prospect alone. Even the most independent person still needs people from time to time, and of course for a sub or slave, this requirement seems to be a little more dependent (even if you're self-reliant or self-assured, you may still want to talk to people and social for your own well-being). So, it is really tough. I do agree that if the person was so quick to leave, then obviously the person who left thinks there is at the least a compatibility issue. It may be just as simple as that, maybe it doesn't really have to do with what they thought of you as a person. Sometimes you can be the best of friends with a Dominant and or Master, but the dynamic perhaps not always working out right. I've found out that while you may feel needy or clingy and yes, some men don't mind it, though it doesn't always win you any favors (trust me, over half my incompatibilities have been over the issue of clingy). Sometimes, it's best to just leave things be, if he really wants to come back to you he will in time, if not, then maybe you can do some re-evaluating and figure out if there are some things you need to change to better yourself, so the next time someone comes along, you'll be a little more prepared than you were before. I also agree w/ what someone else said, about you may not meet anyone soon after a break-off, but sometimes you can meet someone amazing even when you don't intent to find anyone. Alot of times I think the times we can find someone is when we're not trying so hard, and just being ourselves. While effort is good to put into anything, some people get intimidated by too much effort, though on the same coin, too little effort could signal laziness.
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