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she is .....he dosnt know - 10/3/2010 7:52:19 AM

flodjod

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my partner recently decided she wanted to explore her sub side and with my blessing, we have a long distance relationship where i travel to see her every 6 weeks or so, in the meantime she sees others as well purley for sex.

she has told me that this is something that she needs to do for herself and her first foray into it was as she told me mindblowing and told me all about it.

this has since made me more than interested from a voyuer point of view, in the past her requests for me to spank her or pull her hair has meet with resistance from me as i felt that I am a lover and that pain was not my thing, she has always said the loving we have being gentle and long is so special for her yet she craves this other outlet, and I so want to know what it is that makes her happy so I can be that for her.

although it was mind blowing she suffered sub drop as her dom ignored her for a long period of time causing her much distress which had me very concerned and finaly she told him that it could not continue if he couldnt be more regular and commit to a regular session.

she has now seen another twice the first she said was not what she expected and the second which was what he called an evening out of adventure followed by an all night session at her home she has said was too extreme and not the sexual satisfaction that she wanted and will not see him again although she said that she has now found her pain threshold.

since telling me all about the first dom experience she has only told me the fact that she has been with the second dom and nothing about it at all almost as though it was hers and not to share and i do feel left out.

I know that she still wants to continue to explore this part of her sexuality and I so want to be part of it but have no idea how, I am not a dom and not a sub ...maybe a fence sitter or as said just a lover gentle and kind , but the drive for me is to see and know as to be able to provide that pleasure for her this way as well as the way we make love.

Any suggestions would be greatful, I know that i am visualy stimulated by these images but the thought of dominating someone or being dominated and the thought of pain does not. is this a strange fetish or is it more common than i presume.