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xssve -> RE: Is there a place for "nice guys"? (11/19/2010 11:58:35 AM)
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
The problem I have with your profile is that you appear to be looking for women with serious psychosexual hangups who are not self aware. So what happens after she comes to grips with her deep seated desires? You don't have anything else to do together so you need to dump her and find someone new?
That by itself would make me not want to meet you.
If that's the case, then a lot of women suffer from it, because that's exactly what they do to, and expect from us - a "nice guy" who will fuck mercilessly fuck their brains out - and I totally get it.
With women, I suspect its largely driven by biology, a man strong enough to carve out a comfortable space and get the job done, but who isn't going to kick her to the curb after he takes what he wants.
From a male perspective, and not to say this doesn't occur to women, it a more cerebral thing: it's the power of "corruption", of tearing down the walls of another's inhibitions - and yeah, there is a bit of a danger element to it, the whole fear of feminine insatiability, but the allure is not simply in the act of corruption, the satisfaction is in the give and take of trying to control the "beast" you've unleashed without necessarily "taming" her - it's kind of an animal thing, and it means that complete control is never an option, more like a roller coaster ride, a delicate balance between security and spontaneity.
There are variations of it of course, in another sense, it's a sort of junkie dynamic, i.e., the submissive will do whatever you want to get the "fix" - when a woman does it to a guy, we call it being "pussywhipped", and you could characterize it as a "psychosexual hangup", but it's a spark, and elsewhere others are complaining about no sparks, so I'm suggesting that you can easily overthink it if you try - truly insatiable women are not as common as the Madonna/Whore mythos would seem to suggest, that level of arousal is difficult to sustain - even women suffering from PGAS don't typically turn into insatiable sluts, they just need to "flip the switch" a little more frequently.
But I get the sense that DS, that you're aware that fantasy does not always translate directly to reality, for instance I see you expressed some interest in cuckolding, which is related, I say follow your instincts, perhaps look for women interested in that, and/or swinging as well - don't expect the next, or every woman you meet to be on the same page, but just have fun, and sooner or later you'll find one who will be.
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