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gungadin09 -> RE: Psychology and BDSM (10/18/2010 12:33:58 AM)
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ORIGINAL: charlestonscmilk
Dependent Personality Disorder, another name for sub? A friend of mine NOT in the lifestyle, a shrink, believes that the disorder described below fits 90% of submissives.
Any comments?
What are the symptoms of dependent personality disorder?
•Inability to make decisions, even everyday decisions, without the advice and reassurance of others
Not me. On the contrary, i'm pretty independent in my decision making. Making a decision or doing something that others disapprove of can make me feel guilty or anxious, but generally not enough to deter me if i think i'm right.
•Avoidance of personal responsibility; avoidance of jobs that require independent functioning and positions of responsibility
No. i seek out jobs that require independence and responsibility, as well as assertiveness and risk.
•Intense fear of abandonment and a sense of devastation or helplessness when relationships end; often move right into another relationship when one ends
Yes to the fear of abandonment and devastation part. When my relationships end, i go into a "survival mode" that lasts a long time. It generally takes me at least a year to recoup. i don't move quickly into a new relationship.
•Over-sensitivity to criticism
Yes. Outwardly either stoical or easygoing, internally, i tend to obsess about criticism.
•Pessimism and lack of self-confidence, including a belief that they are unable to care for themselves
Yes. With a healthy portion of self doubt on the side. In regards to my social life, at least.
•Avoidance of disagreeing with others for fear of losing support or approval
No. i hate it when people do this. For a long time i was told i was being too blunt, so i try to reign myself in now, consciously softening what i say, especially in social settings. But i believe a person should be allowed to express disagreement without giving offense, as i do not take offense to those who disagree with me. Unless it is done rudely, i find disagreement stimulating.
•Inability to start projects
No.
•Difficulty being alone
Absolutely no difficulty there.
•Willingness to tolerate mistreatment and abuse from others
Yes, although if you are willing to tolerate it, does it really constitute "abuse"? i try to see negative feedback as something helpful; to learn from it and correct myself, although it hurts my feelings.
•Placing the needs of their caregivers above their own
i am very sensitive to other people's needs. i think of that as a good thing; a lack of selfishness or ego; being a team player.
•Tendency to be naïve and to live in fantasy
Absolutely.
i dunno. Some yes, some no. Do i fit the profile? i would guess that most subs are as one dimentional as your friend seems to think.
pam
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