Tigress is right. No one can make you feel anything. You allow them to make you feel a certain way. I've seen and run into guys like that. I've also known some VERY submissive women and shit like that works on them. They are submissive to any jerk who calls himself a dom. Be thankful you aren't one of those and move on.
The S&M scene in the real world isn't some magic place where assholes and idiots are shown the door and only the noble and pure transcend into our hallowed halls.