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Dollbecky -> seeking some advice.... (4/24/2006 9:58:13 PM)

I keep reading how most women on CM are swamped with mail.....not me [8|] maybe there are no subs in my area ?
Is it something in my profile ? Can you ladies maybe offer advice to me on the presentation of my profile, maybe I am missing or overlooking something ?
I am curious...(yellow)       ,sorry  coundnt help  myself  :) but really I thought that maybe new eyes might spot the flaw






colosubseeking -> RE: seeking some advice.... (4/24/2006 10:03:45 PM)

Well Dollbecky, from a submissive male point of view, i would say that your profile looks to be in pretty good shape, but i might change one thing. In your first paragraph, you may want elaborate on your relationship with your "Beloved", as it is a bit confusing until you read down farther. Perhaps people read that, get confused, and skip the rest of the profile?

On the other hand, many people complain that they get e-mails from people who don't read their whole profile, so i dunno...

Short of that, i would probably chalk it up to location [sm=river.gif]



darq -> RE: seeking some advice.... (4/24/2006 10:21:38 PM)

I havent gotten that many emails either ... We must have missed the wave.



ServiceNTucson -> RE: seeking some advice.... (4/24/2006 10:32:39 PM)

It could be that your email on collarme doesn't work, just like mine doesn't.  I have sent numerous notes to friends whom I know offsite.  Not one of them has ever received them, even though they show that they've been read.  I've sent a couple of letters to support asking about this.  Never gotten a response.  I did post a thread about this in the "Off Topic Discussion" area here, asking anybody to email me to see if it worked.  I got one email, from a moderator, telling me the email worked fine, who then quashed the thread.  That is the ONLY email I've received on collarme in months.



proudsub -> RE: seeking some advice.... (4/24/2006 10:56:11 PM)

quote:

I keep reading how most women on CM are swamped with mail.....not me [8|] maybe there are no subs in my area ?


Be sure to check your bulk mail folder, CM has had a problem with mail going there.



BitaTruble -> RE: seeking some advice.... (4/24/2006 11:00:18 PM)

You must have just modified your profile as it's pending approval, but with the picture you have up there, which I think is quite lovely, I'm surprised you're not inundated. Perhaps it is your location. I have no idea.




MistressLorelei -> RE: seeking some advice.... (4/24/2006 11:59:02 PM)

My guesss would be that many submissives here are looking for a long-term relationship with a Mistress who does not already have a partner.  Sure, there are many submissives who would gladly like to play non-committed, but many are here hoping to find a D/s relationship which could end in marriage.

Some males are not pain sluts and some aren't into humiliation, and then there is your location, so you may have a more limited sub pool... but your profile is well-written, your photos is nice and you seem sincere.  Having less mail can be a good thing... less to weed through... it's not the amount of mail, it's the 'right' mail..... I hope yours comes your way soon.  Best of luck

Also, keep posting in the forums...  lots of times that will get attention from a male who can actually read.



Dollbecky -> RE: seeking some advice.... (4/25/2006 5:38:31 AM)

Thank you for having a peek a my profile I was worried it might appear poorly written or I seemed insincere.... thank you for the reassurace and the kind words :)
I can happily go back to my non-traditional relationships and while away my time, making friends on CM, sewing and having fun and wait for the right kind of sub to be delivered by the cosmos :)




Proprietrix -> RE: seeking some advice.... (4/25/2006 5:49:59 AM)

I think your profile looks great. I agree with the suggestions above. Some subs are looking for a relationship. Some wouldn't want to consider someone already involved.
Perhaps when Jasmyn comes on, she might have advice. She's also in NZ, so she sees the sub pool there from a NZ perspective.



thetammyjo -> RE: seeking some advice.... (4/25/2006 7:36:45 AM)

My guess is that location maybe the biggest factor. I bet most people put in a certain number of criteria when they search and perhaps NZ is just too far away.

It might also be age because lots of people of age preferences. I've noticed that younger self-identified sub/bottoms/slaves get more attention than younger dom/tops/owners do. Of course, just plain old attention is not always good attention.



bandit25 -> RE: seeking some advice.... (4/25/2006 7:45:00 AM)

darq...it may be that not many are looking only for online.  Also, you don't say where you are from.  Perhaps, you don't appear to be serious.  Just a thought.



Dustee -> RE: seeking some advice.... (4/25/2006 8:02:37 AM)

For Dollbecky:  I have no idea!  I liked your profile a lot. It might be demographics, I am not sure how many New Zelanders visist this site.

For Darq: As soon as you post a photo you will be inundated, most likely.  A lot of people click on the photo profiles first, or even have the "hide profiles with no photos" option checked, so they never see you in their lists. I have experimented on my profile. As soon as I take my photo down, the emails drop considerably.  No photo can be both good and bad. With a photo up, most respondents do not read the profile and therefore are nothing close to what I am looking for. I think that without a photo, you have a higher chance that someone will read your words because that's all they have to go by, but it doesn't always happen, and it can be rather discouraging to get only a couple of emails a week from people totally clueless. :)  If you can't put up a photo for some reason, at least describe yourself a little with words, it helps.



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