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sooheezy -> Introduction: The thread (10/6/2010 9:32:46 PM)

Hello!

I am new to this site and hopefully soon will actually be new to the, I don’t know, lifestyle? I am 28 years old and have always been attracted to dominant women; unfortunately I have not yet really had a chance to explore that part of my sexuality….is that the right word? Sure.

What is there to say here? I am in Los Angeles, I work constantly, when I am not working I go to movies, museums, art galleries…basically I am saying I’m cultured like yogurt.

Hmmmm…I am hoping to meet like minded people on this site, maybe find out where all the women I fantasize about congregate in the real world. So far, no good, the only message exchange I have had pretty much told me not to expect anything because guys have it pretty rough here due to them not being in high demand. Oh well.

I am not sure what else to include in my introduction, so, if anyone is interested in asking me anything, ask away, I am an open, easy to read book.

Pleasure to meet you all…or, it will be a pleasure, I am sure, when I do meet you all. Eh.



MistressRosalyn -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/6/2010 9:39:51 PM)

Welcome.

BTW, pictures are a great start. I already have a Calvin and a Hobbes, so while using Calvin as an avatar is OK, Dommes are going to be able to see what they are getting!

Good luck in finding someone to serve.



sooheezy -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/6/2010 9:45:02 PM)

I was a bit worried about that. Here is the thing, for whatever reason, perhaps because it has been beaten into my misshapen head that there is something wrong with what I like, I am a bit hesitant to put my picture out there right off the bat. I wouldn’t mind sharing my picture with someone if they asked for it, but I just felt…I don’t know, nervous about throwing it out there in my profile. This would all be a non-issue if I was into finding a submissive woman from this site, but I am not, I want to find a dominant woman, and television, movies and the music of 2 Live Crew have made it clear to me that, that is not a normal thing for me to want to find. Hence the no picture in my profile.

Thanks for the welcome and the good luck!



DarkSteven -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/6/2010 9:54:49 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sooheezy
So far, no good, the only message exchange I have had pretty much told me not to expect anything because guys have it pretty rough here due to them not being in high demand. Oh well.



Pffffft.  It's actually easy to get women interested here.  I note that you're relocatable, so you can go for any and all of the Dommes.

First off, some class.  I note that you spell well and present yourself well, if a little bashfully.  Good.  No cock shots, and your profile states what you are as a person, not a bunch of kinks.  Excellent.

What 90+% of allegedly sub men do not get is that women, Dommes included, want a relationship, not a checklist of kink acts.  So when you talk to one, approach them just like you would anywhere else.  Talk about their vanilla lives.

A sense of humor goes a long way.  Some male subs like PeonforHer and PoliteSub are hysterically funny and flirt with the Dommes all they want.  And the women all love classy flirting

Finally, make sure that you have fun while you look!  An upbeat personality does wonders.

Happy hunting!




WyldHrt -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/6/2010 10:15:51 PM)

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I am in Los Angeles, I work constantly, when I am not working I go to movies, museums, art galleries…basically I am saying I’m cultured like yogurt.

Good stuff! You are in LA, which has a very big local scene; you present yourself well, even if you are a little shy; and a sense of humor gets bonus points!

Google munches in Los Angeles. It's north of me, but I know that there are several in the area. Munches are where kinksters get together in a vanilla setting, like a restaurant, to share a meal and conversation. If you find a group that appeals to you, contact the folks in charge and let them know that you are new. Most will be happy to help and introduce you to the group. There are also some good BDSM clubs in LA. My favourite is the Lair De Sade. They do an 'Insight' once a month for new folks, and there are sometimes events and classes open to non members.

You are in a very good area to meet fellow kinksters, all you have to do is get yourself out there. That said, participating here on the forums is a very good start.
Welcome! [:D]

Edited to lasso an errant comma.



sooheezy -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/6/2010 10:39:00 PM)

Thank you for the tips DarkSteven! Also thank you for pointing out my impeccable spelling, it is pretty much all I have to show for 7 years of community college.

And thank you for the comments as well as the welcome, WyldHrt.

I was always skeptical about going to a BDSM club. For whatever reason, I always assumed I wouldn’t be allowed in unless I had this leathery, latex, full body glove outfit on, and I’d be subjected to bad music. I base that perception on absolutely nothing.

I guess I need to get over that though, how am I supposed to meet anyone if I don’t get myself out there? The squeaky wheel gets the grease…a closed mouth doesn’t get fed…other clichés.

I got an email for a ‘munch’ this Sunday.

http://lads.la/munches/next-munch-topic/

Is anyone familiar with this group? I suppose now is as good a time as any for me to participate in something like this. Thanks again for the welcomes and the wise words.



WyldHrt -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/6/2010 11:07:52 PM)

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And thank you for the comments as well as the welcome, WyldHrt.

You are quite welcome.
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I was always skeptical about going to a BDSM club. For whatever reason, I always assumed I wouldn’t be allowed in unless I had this leathery, latex, full body glove outfit on, and I’d be subjected to bad music. I base that perception on absolutely nothing.
LOL! Then The Lair will be a pleasant surprise. You wouldn't want to show up in a bad hawaiian shirt, long shorts and mandals with socks (unless humiliation is your kink), but it's a pretty kick back place. Jeans and a nice shirt will work just fine. [;)]
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I guess I need to get over that though, how am I supposed to meet anyone if I don’t get myself out there? The squeaky wheel gets the grease…a closed mouth doesn’t get fed…other clichés.
Well said. [:D]
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I got an email for a ‘munch’ this Sunday.
http://lads.la/munches/next-munch-topic/
Is anyone familiar with this group?

Not familiar with that group. Hopefully someone local will chime in.
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I suppose now is as good a time as any for me to participate in something like this. Thanks again for the welcomes and the wise words.

My first ever kink 'event' was an open invite birthday party for one of the members here, about 3 months after I joined. I was leery, but sucked it up, saddled up and went to Las Vegas to spend the weekend with a bunch of folks I barely knew. That was 3 years ago, and some of the folks I met there are now counted amongst my best friends. We still kid each other about some of the crazy stuff that happened that weekend.  [8D]




GreedyTop -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/6/2010 11:59:04 PM)

welcome!  i agree.. you're a winner!!  you'll do well here, and if you present yourself as well, face to face as you have done here, yuo'll do fine...

(excuse my crappy typing, I have dyslexic fingers, and dont feel like going back to correct stuff..LOL)



sooheezy -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/7/2010 12:17:24 AM)

Thank you for sharing about your first ever ‘event,’ WyldHrt, that is reassuring. Also thank you for the info on the dress code at The Lair, it is good to know I don’t need to be in, what I assume, probably ignorantly, is traditional garb. Even the ‘Jeans and a nice shirt’ caveat is a bit of a scare for me, I am usually in shorts and a t-shirt, if that. It has been my goal since I was forced into clothes at whatever age toddlers are forced to wear clothes, to get back to my roots. One day I will be wearing nothing more than a fig leaf to cover my fig leaf shaped genitals, but for now it is just shorts and tee. I guess I could spring for some fancy pants and a shirt with buttons; it is for a good cause.

GreedyTop, if nothing else, the fact that you called me a winner will make signing up for this website a complete success. Thank you very much!



GreedyTop -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/7/2010 12:20:19 AM)

*giggles* at
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One day I will be wearing nothing more than a fig leaf to cover my fig leaf shaped genitals



OohAahMrs -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/7/2010 6:49:33 AM)

Welcome, you should do rather well, i can gather that from your intro and replies so far, just try and have some fun along the way.



sooheezy -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/7/2010 7:40:01 PM)

I am not sure what would be considered worse etiquette, to bump my thread up needlessly or to not thank OohAahMrs for welcoming me. I don’t want to be an ingrate, so, thank you for the welcome and the encouraging words.



MistressRosalyn -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/7/2010 8:40:24 PM)

On the picture thing, you can take a photo of your body, or a partial face shot (artistically done, of course!). As Steven noted, being on the message boards can increase your chances to be noticed, and once people get to know you, then there is a good chance of finding someone on here.

I'd chase after you, but my 28 year old daughter made me promise to not chase someone under 30.
Damn kids.



sooheezy -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/7/2010 8:52:50 PM)

Thank you for the suggestions and I mean no offense by this, but will you please tell your daughter that she has made a very powerful enemy today.



poise -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/7/2010 9:15:53 PM)

Welcome to Collarme...and hello to your long lost deviant side!



dreamofthemoon -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/7/2010 9:21:00 PM)

Hi, and welcome, sooheezy! [:)]



sooheezy -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/7/2010 9:29:42 PM)

Thank you both very kindly.

And my deviant side wasn’t necessarily lost; it was just shuffled away to the attic whenever visitors were over.



MistressRosalyn -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/7/2010 9:32:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sooheezy

Thank you for the suggestions and I mean no offense by this, but will you please tell your daughter that she has made a very powerful enemy today.


Awww, I didn't know you cared! *Grin*

At least she's pretty much OK with everything else her mom does, so an age limit doesn't bother me too much, and since her younger sister feels the same way, I'm generally OK with making them happy. 

I do admit that sometimes there is a well-spoken younger man that incites my interest though...

No, NO! Rosie! Behave yourself! Don't go there! You promised!

*Sigh*




sooheezy -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/7/2010 9:42:42 PM)

Incidentally that post is making me awkwardly stutter and forget how to use my words.




MistressRosalyn -> RE: Introduction: The thread (10/7/2010 9:50:03 PM)

*Wicked Grin*

Incidentally, your post is bringing out my wicked side...I find stuttering, shyness and awkwardness to be so endearing...

...Right before I bring the paddle down of course.

Must...remember...my...promise...*Sigh*



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