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Aileen1968 -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/10/2010 6:07:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 We want to see pictures of really ugly man feet. hey, hey. You just hurt my foot's feelings. [:D] Now I have to soothe it, call it down, ruffle its feathers. No little foot, no matter how much you desire it, I will not put you up Aileen's ass. Hahahaha. You have feet and a cat in your avatar. Hahahahahahahahaha.

almira -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/10/2010 10:03:41 PM)
are you even taking anyone's advice on here? i would put my 2 cents in, but i don't want to be harsh

Communist42 -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/10/2010 11:37:08 PM)
Hi everybody! I haven't posted much before, but I appreciate the chance to give my opinion on this topic, and OP seems like a nice guy with an earnest question. Here is a list of things that I want to know about a potential mate: Attractive? Do they want a long-term relationship, one-time sex, or something like FWB? Can I handle the stuff they love to do, like anal sex or watching football? Do we have any interests in common? To what degree do they expect me to submit? Are they online only? How experienced are they in the lifestyle? Do they want marriage? Are they poly? Do they want kids? Something that's more important than any of those is the general demeanor of the person, which should reflect their experience and thoughtfulness. The first sign of a potential mate (for me) is correct (or nearly correct) grammar and spelling. The second is a lack of negativity in the profile. Without a charitable perspective on other beings, and the self-control to not vent those frustrated internet impulses which are natural yet unwholesome, no one can be a good mate for me. Third, and most important; the prospective dominant should demonstrate their philosophical discernment. For me, the ultimate human truth is Love. Any dominant who shows that they are ignorant of the fact that power is nothing more than illusion will immediately engender my distrust. Though I have not yet been lucky enough to experience it, I believe that a dominant who used to be a submissive would be the best playmate for a sane sub. The perspective that comes from the enjoyment of serving others seems necessary to the moral use of power and trust. OP, I would guess that you don't understand a great deal of this BDSM world - just as I do not, either. If you answer the questions which are presented in the list above, you should get more responses. If you understand and agree with the paragraph which precedes this one, you are blessed and should definitely show it in your profile. Pour out your heart, and see who loves it.

Twoshoes -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/11/2010 12:46:00 AM)
They look for their marbles. But I stole them. So they want intrigue, honesty, specificity and references to shiny things. If all else fails, write a list of books or movies you like.

shivermetimbers -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/11/2010 2:19:43 AM)
For me, it was quite simple. The profile had to give me a feel of a real person behind the screen name, not just someone doing it for a lark, or laying it on thick with their vast experiences and semi-literotica style writing. I looked for character, not a caricature.

alphatoast -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/12/2010 1:54:21 PM)
I thank you all for the replies especially this one which I think speaks to me the best for some reason. quote: ORIGINAL: Communist42 Hi everybody! I haven't posted much before, but I appreciate the chance to give my opinion on this topic, and OP seems like a nice guy with an earnest question. Here is a list of things that I want to know about a potential mate: Attractive? Do they want a long-term relationship, one-time sex, or something like FWB? Can I handle the stuff they love to do, like anal sex or watching football? Do we have any interests in common? To what degree do they expect me to submit? Are they online only? How experienced are they in the lifestyle? Do they want marriage? Are they poly? Do they want kids? Something that's more important than any of those is the general demeanor of the person, which should reflect their experience and thoughtfulness. The first sign of a potential mate (for me) is correct (or nearly correct) grammar and spelling. The second is a lack of negativity in the profile. Without a charitable perspective on other beings, and the self-control to not vent those frustrated internet impulses which are natural yet unwholesome, no one can be a good mate for me. Third, and most important; the prospective dominant should demonstrate their philosophical discernment. For me, the ultimate human truth is Love. Any dominant who shows that they are ignorant of the fact that power is nothing more than illusion will immediately engender my distrust. Though I have not yet been lucky enough to experience it, I believe that a dominant who used to be a submissive would be the best playmate for a sane sub. The perspective that comes from the enjoyment of serving others seems necessary to the moral use of power and trust. OP, I would guess that you don't understand a great deal of this BDSM world - just as I do not, either. If you answer the questions which are presented in the list above, you should get more responses. If you understand and agree with the paragraph which precedes this one, you are blessed and should definitely show it in your profile. Pour out your heart, and see who loves it. I also thank you for the critique about the photos as I'm not really sure what kinds of photos people want to see either. :) Ill be reediting my profile as I go along. The main reason why I asked my question is because I don't want to just write a profile that says the wrong thing. I don't want to give someone the wrong idea. And I don't want to bore them to death with stuff not worth reading. Thanks Again for the advice :D

Saltypepper128 -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/13/2010 12:42:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Twoshoes They look for their marbles. But I stole them. So they want intrigue, honesty, specificity and references to shiny things. If all else fails, write a list of books or movies you like. Or you could sell them some crack for cheap. Just make sure you're not giving it away. Girls don't like guys who are too nice

alphatoast -> RE: what stuff does a slave or sub look for in a profile (10/14/2010 2:05:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Saltypepper128 quote: ORIGINAL: Twoshoes They look for their marbles. But I stole them. So they want intrigue, honesty, specificity and references to shiny things. If all else fails, write a list of books or movies you like. Or you could sell them some crack for cheap. Just make sure you're not giving it away. Girls don't like guys who are too nice ok thats probably the weirdest bit of advice for getting a girl I ever heard lol XD.

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