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RE: CHICKEN - 10/11/2010 11:01:35 AM

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A 'real' dom might make you do it but a smart one won't make attempt to make a sub do something they would freak out over.

Ask yourself what you're afraid of and brainstorm with him how not to hit any of these triggers. Ask him about this dungeon and whether or not he thinks you're ready for it.

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RE: CHICKEN - 10/11/2010 12:06:35 PM

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past experience has shown i am scared at doing new things and terrified when i am forced to do them but after it is over ok about it even the one time it was a bad experience and i asked for it even when he said it was a bad idea so i could not blame him.

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RE: CHICKEN - 10/11/2010 1:45:12 PM

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The first time for me was very scary - and i was in my 40's - but i trusted my Sir and got through it, and eventually got to the point of being comfortable with my nudity. It took a time or two - lol. If you discuss this issue with your dom, and agree to it, you have to trust him not to push you too hard. Perhaps you could agree on a type of play and safe words before hand. That way, you won't have to worry about the play as well as the public exbition bit. Baby steps!

Some times you just have to push yourself into an uncomfortable position to get through the fear.

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RE: CHICKEN - 10/11/2010 7:11:28 PM

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So just go and observe the first time. Second time you could wear more revealing clothes and third time you could play lightly. Desensitization.

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RE: CHICKEN - 10/11/2010 8:59:49 PM

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thank you all for your advise

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RE: CHICKEN - 10/14/2010 9:05:45 PM

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handcuffs are a chickens best friend

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RE: CHICKEN - 10/15/2010 8:33:36 AM

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It's why they cross the road?

Personally I think the reason is to get a can of beer up their ass and then be tossed on the BBQ, but chickens have a lot of reasons it seems.

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RE: CHICKEN - 10/16/2010 6:57:48 AM

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It sounds like he hasn't forced you because he may not want to share you in there or he things it's a possible limit for you.Communication is the best with you Dom my dear.

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