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Focus50 -> RE: Eye contact? (10/14/2010 1:29:11 PM)
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ORIGINAL: JuliaV
I'm obviously new here and I attended this private party of doms and submissives a while ago. I was really nervous. I felt like puking to be honest. It was the first time I'd even thought about dwelling into this. It was something I've been curious for a really long and at the same time it terrified me. I go to college here in the city, etc. I'm from the city. Though I've 'seen it all' I was mortified. Anyway, everyone's talking and socializing. I know, essentially, no one.
But there's this guy that I noticed from the corner of my eye staring at me. I wanted to look at him obviously but it was the weirdest thing. I really just couldn't. And I felt myself going red. I stood up and went to get a drink and he seemed to be following me. I'm fairly tall at 5'9 and relatively thin. But it seemed like he towered me and I felt this feeling of... 'engulfment' and I just wanted to die lol It seems silly but bear with me. (Sorry that this is so long, btw.) In this deep voice he asks me to look at him. I'm all flustered and shit but I raise my head and look at him. Anywhere but his eyes. I really can't explain why I can't look doms in the eye.
He later, after we had coffee a few days later, told me that that was potentially the biggest turn on for him. That I couldn't look at him in the eye.
And I'm just wondering, some sort of affirmation, as to if this is common. Like, do other doms/Masters feel this way? Like I said, I wouldn't know. Never even slept with anyone let alone have a dom.
But yeah. What's up with this? Thank you in advance :)
Eye contact is the hottest form of D/s communication - period!
I understand, even like that it's difficult for many subs to hold a Dom's gaze. And if that sub happens to be *my* sub, then there'll be times I make her hold my gaze just because it's difficult for her to do so - esp if she happens to be in the shit over something.
While I understand it can be difficult for a stranger sub to hold my gaze, too, I find that annoying, even borderline rude. Such is the nature of a D/s dynamic, there's a "familiarity" in a stranger NOT looking me in the eyes when we speak. A familiarity she/we haven't mutually earned.
Talking to my girl while she's looking at my feet is familiar, respectful, non challenging, expected etc. Damn, it's intimate!
But I also understand if a newbie doesn't get that - and why they find it both hot and confusing to them. Life is ALWAYS about the little things, as is D/s....
Focus.
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