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RE: Why don't you ever see wishlists on submissives pro... - 10/14/2010 2:09:28 AM

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Naaaa... HE has to be six feet tall. Hot, in my opinion, doesnt start until the 6 foot mark.

Haha! That's round about where 'serious crick in the neck' starts, in my opinion

Perfect man-height for me is somewhere around 5'10".

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RE: Why don't you ever see wishlists on submissives pro... - 10/14/2010 2:12:18 AM

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The wish list on subs' profiles is usually me.

It is???

Oh wait, you said subs....

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RE: Why don't you ever see wishlists on submissives pro... - 10/14/2010 8:31:23 AM

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Well now folks, We/we know that many dominants have an inherent sense of entitlement when it comes to accommodations of any sort. It ranges from money, gifts, time allowances, sexual practices, and BDSM play. Most Dom/mes are not shy telling the submissive about their "will", "desire" and "need" from the submissive. It is counter intuitive for a submissive to make likewise "demands or requests." The inherent position of the sub is ALWAYS below the Dom/me. That right to request is granted as a favor or gift, rarely assumed or afforded without permission.

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RE: Why don't you ever see wishlists on submissives pro... - 10/14/2010 8:36:25 AM

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

Naaaa... HE has to be six feet tall. Hot, in my opinion, doesnt start until the 6 foot mark.

Haha! That's round about where 'serious crick in the neck' starts, in my opinion

Perfect man-height for me is somewhere around 5'10".

And here I am, 5'7" and have found the hottest guys to be my height or a bit taller. Everyone thinks I would only be with tall men, but height does not appear to have any bearing on hotness, at least for me.

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RE: Why don't you ever see wishlists on submissives pro... - 10/14/2010 8:46:23 AM

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The only thing on my wish list, is that I be on his

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RE: Why don't you ever see wishlists on submissives pro... - 10/14/2010 10:44:20 AM

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The average height in the US is at least 1 inch more in the US than Canada/Britain, though. Even more if you only count Caucasian men living in Michigan.

Also, I am 5'10"!!!

(For now.)
5'7" is a really good height. Tall enough to reach the cookie jar, not tall enough to never have to ask for help with ceiling fans.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
The wish list on subs' profiles is usually me.

My impression of sub profiles:
Looking for DarkSteven. Hoping for DarkSteven. Also lookin' for DarkSteven. Ok, clearly DarkSteven. Shadow-tiger. Back to DarkSteven."

Pretty much everything asking for a structure/love, my mind puts in the "Looking for DarkSteven" category.

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RE: Why don't you ever see wishlists on submissives pro... - 10/14/2010 12:38:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: behavingbadly

i'm sorry if this is a stupid question i'm new to the lifestyle.

Greetings behavingbadly,

Welcome to the site. As for your question, the problem lies with interpretation and if the individual takes your words to heart or embraces the idea that you're willing to make exceptions. In the past when I've included such information I always had a handful that drew their own conclusions. The margin of error was usually vast wide but they believed their attributes would outweigh what I desired and/or preferred. In some instances including those details only served to attract persons outside of the demographic mentioned. I discovered the merits of saying little.

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RE: Why don't you ever see wishlists on submissives pro... - 10/14/2010 2:11:37 PM

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Bebehavingbadly,
I haven't read the entire thread, but from the responses that I scanned, I see that many do not quite understand your question. I believe that the reason for that is that "wish lists" are found almost exclusively on the profiles of Dommes. Many of those who answered are Dommes themselves, so they probably don't spend much time viewing the profiles of other Dommes.

As a male sub, I see wish lists all the time. They are rampant here on CollarMe. The wish lists that I usually see tend to include giftcards from the Domme's favorite stores or websites (Victoria's Secret and Amazon are very popular), jewelry, sex toys, and lists of various bills that they want subs to "adopt".

If you take the time to see who has wish lists, they tend to be "financial Dommes" or pro-Dommes. Also, you may notice that the profiles that include wish lists tend to belong to 18-25 year old "Dommes" who almost always have the same type of profile pictures. Either their pictures are super-hot like they're bikini models, or in their picture they are holding a fist full of cash in one hand and they're giving you the finger with their other hand. I don't know what Domme manual they are all subscribing to that tells them that that is the official pose for Dommes, but I see that pose a lot. Those types also tend to send subs/slaves unsolicited e-mails that typically address the sub/slave as "worm" or "bitch". Once again, that must be in the Domme manual, because they all seem to do it.

If I were you, I wouldn't spend much time worrying about WHY they have wish lists. If that type of Domme is not for you, simply block and delete them when they contact you. Financial Dommes aren't going anywhere. Besides, they're harmless so long as you don't send them any money. Frankly, I don't understand why so many people are offended by them.

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RE: Why don't you ever see wishlists on submissives pro... - 10/14/2010 2:23:21 PM

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I think I agree with this answer. Other than financial Dom/mes I don't think I've ever seen a wish list.

Oh, and DarkSteven....Do switches count? Cuz you'd totally be on mine if I had one. ;) :D

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RE: Why don't you ever see wishlists on submissives pro... - 10/14/2010 3:09:07 PM

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If wishlist is characteristics of a potential partner I know that I like to see them on a subs profile. There are so many more male doms here than there are fem subs that it helps a lot if I can see that there is something about me that is going to appeal to her in particular.

Meanwhile if I can see that I am not going to appeal to her, for one reason or another, well, there may be less femsubs than male doms here, but there are a lot of people in general, and I really enjoy the headsup that I should not waste my time on someone who is not going to be interested in submitting to me.

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