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CreativeDominant -> RE: is the dom/me always above the sub? (10/15/2010 8:17:55 AM)
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ORIGINAL: behavingbadly
i don't think so. the sub gets pleasure from having someone else make decisions for them and etc. why would anyone do something they don't like. of course you compromise but why would someone do something every day they don't like?
This sounds similar to the "Dominant superior/submissive inferior" threads but I am going to go with the idea of "who's in charge". In that case, the answer is easy...the dominant is, in those areas arrived at through time, getting to know each other and negotiation.
As noted by many dominants on collarme, I don't like to micromanage. I do like to have control and I like to have the final say but if you feel you can't go to the bathroom without permission...decide what to specifically wear on any given day...etc., then you and I are not going to work. When it comes to household tasks and relationship tasks, I believe in an efficient use of time so that we would spend more of our time together doing things we liked rather than doing things we don't like.
That brings us to the question of "don't like". Though some of this thread appears to have been edited, laundry is a task that is mentioned. you don't like doing laundry, OP? Too bad...if that is your job, do it. If there is enough that your Mistress/Master orders you to do that you don't like...sit down and have a talk with them OR do like a lot of submissives/dominants do: let everything build up--- without ever saying a word to let your partner know what is going on inside you and then wait for the opportunity to blow up, leaving your partner confused as hell, and leave.
I don't like working on patients who come in from the feedlots and haven't bothered to clean up first so they have shit on their boots and the smell of shit and cattle on their clothes when they come into my office. But...their money is as good as the businessman or secretary who comes in. And getting their problem fixed is just as important to them as it is to the banker or lawyer or secretary. And luckily for them, it is just as important to me...and I can set aside the fact that I don't like their smell or their animal crud that ends up on my clothes.
In your profile, you state right out that you need a lot of handling. Perhaps that is where this thread is coming from. But a D/s dynamic is a lot like other dynamics mentioned here...the general over the private, the boss over the secretary, etc., etc.. If you want to buck the power structure all the time, then find a dominant who enjoys that. But don't be surprised if you go through quite a few...many dominants get frustrated with a constant struggle.
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