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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/17/2010 7:41:06 AM

Voodali

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On a date, I will generally tell the wait staff what the boy is having. I fantasize about getting myself a big juicy steak and a beer, and ordering the boy a small green salad with lemon juice for dressing, but I guess I've been too soft-hearted so far, although one time I made a boy eat raw squid.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/17/2010 8:25:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: Voodali

On a date, I will generally tell the wait staff what the boy is having. I fantasize about getting myself a big juicy steak and a beer, and ordering the boy a small green salad with lemon juice for dressing, but I guess I've been too soft-hearted so far, although one time I made a boy eat raw squid.

Now i'm hungry

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/17/2010 8:30:55 AM

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I kind of have the opposite situation. Whenever a Mistress is with me for any length of time, she learns to love rare steak. Ms. M was a little disappointed the other day when I grilled a steak that was a little on the well done side. She was right.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/17/2010 9:44:54 AM

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i went on a date once with a Domme and i was surprised that She allowed me to order for myself. i understand that in some situation order for a slave would cause unwanted attention but do You usually order for them? Just wondering?

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Maybe she doesn't like ordering for you or isn't aware that some subs enjoy having their meal ordered for them. If this was an early date she may have just wanted to avoid ordering something you A) hated or B) were allergic to.

Even though I love it when Valyraen orders for me, he rarely does it because my food orders can be complex due to my dietary needs.

Edited to add: This is someone you've been in a long-distence relationship with. So, did you ever tell her that you like it when the woman orders for you and discuss your dietary needs/preferences?

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/17/2010 9:10:05 PM

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i went on a date once with a Domme and i was surprised that She allowed me to order for myself. i understand that in some situation order for a slave would cause unwanted attention but do You usually order for them? /quote]

Get over it.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/20/2010 2:16:49 PM

mwdsub4u

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i am a slave i went a mistress out to dinner She orered me a salad with no dressing, yet whent to the ladies room and come back with one, i lived it!

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/22/2010 10:49:38 AM

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Unless I have a servant who is on a specific nutritional program or is restricted to certain foods for medical or my own (nefarious

) purposes, I will typically allow the servant to choose what xhe prefers to eat -- however, I -do-, typically, give the order to the wait-staff myself. That, I'm afraid, is part and parcel of my being a control freak.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/22/2010 3:57:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavem70
i went on a date once with a Domme and i was surprised that She allowed me to order for myself. i understand that in some situation order for a slave would cause unwanted attention but do You usually order for them? Just wondering?

I suspect this is different in the male dom world since it is an old-fashioned bit of chivalry to order for one's wife. But yeah, I order for Carol maybe 50% of the time. Largely, for me, it's not a control issue... it's a test. Making a "good" food order for Carol involves intimate knowledge of her life, her mood, the things she's eaten recently, etc. I see it as a part of my job to SEE my slave. So I like to use ordering for her at a restaurant as a litmus test.

Aside from that, she likes the excitement of not knowing what she's going to eat.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/22/2010 4:34:07 PM

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I never ordered for my pet. It takes me forever to find something I want to eat. If I picked out his meal. We would never eat. After all this time we have been together. I know I could pick something he would enjoy. Too bad I can't say the same for myself ...

At home I pick what/when and how he will eat though.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/22/2010 4:41:27 PM

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No, that has never been a part of any dynamic I was in. I would not ever expect someone to order for me; why? I can speak.

Now picking the wine...he can do that.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/22/2010 4:49:03 PM

Twoshoes

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You definitely do not want a sadistic person ordering your food.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/22/2010 9:51:05 PM

MistressDarkArt

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Funny timing on this thread: just went through this last night. We agreed in advance on the two entrees we wanted to share, then I ordered and specified the choices of soup/salad and dressings/potatoes/vegetables, etc...based on my very detailed and and picky-to-the-nth-degree preferences (poor *someone* knows them by heart by now!) Why get just half of what I want when I can have it ALL?

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/22/2010 10:14:13 PM

chiaThePet

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Garcon.............

I'll have the Beef Swellington and shall finish with a delectable serving of Creme Pie.

Enough said.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/23/2010 4:27:30 PM

hausboy

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On occasion, the Head of Household was kind enough to take me out to a restaurant. He allowed me to order for myself--and I thanked him for the kind gesture--both the meal, and the freedom to order my own food.

I'm much more in the position of serving meals to Dommes/Doms, in which case my meal is taken in the kitchen, separate. On those occasions where I am permitted at the same table to share a meal, it is always an honor but I admit, feels very odd and out of place to me. I'd rather eat with the servants in the kitchen. Dining with the Dommes (is that like Dancing With The Stars?) makes the mood too informal for my taste.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/24/2010 6:50:22 PM

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Firstly, I agree with others that ordering for the sub wouldn't be appropriate on a first physical meeting UNLESS it had been negotiated beforehand and allergies/preferences already noted.

Secondly, I DID do this with 2 male subs I met up with some time ago, it was for coffee and cakes only after we'd been to a not-very-much-fun bdsm party that we gave up on early. We negotiated this on the walk to the restaurant and the boys were both very happy to play along. It sure as heck frustrated the young male waiter who tried his best to get the boys to speak for themselves! He even waited till I had My mouthful (and theirs empty) to ask them if they were enjoying their cakes. I was tickled pink when both kept silently eating, waiting till I had swallowed and answered for them LOL! That little discreet scene made a fun time out of what had been, up to then, a bit of a washout evening. So with negotiation, it can be fun.

Thirdly, as Master's sub ... i get to do all the ordering! He doesn't enjoy doing it, so we discuss what He wants, and then it's my job to convey this and get the order right. There are times when i can spiel off what He wants (on His subway sandwich for eg) and then be completely flummoxed when asked what should be on mine! However, if i am too unwell to order (eg my back/foot is hurting too much to stand in line, or i have laryngitis so the waiter won't hear the order), He will do it and usually gets it right! i regard that as quite a treat. And the other time He orders is definitely a treat ... on my birthday!

Now the really funny side of all of that, is that one of the boys in My first story ... is now my Master! So, no wonder he was happy to play along that night with not ordering for himself LMAO!

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/27/2010 2:43:25 PM

JamesS66

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I typically ask my slave to offer me three choices, from which I pick.

It seems to address both sides of the coin -- me being in control and her getting something she likes and has a taste for.

Works for us!

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 10/31/2010 2:18:09 PM

TexasMaam

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I love to order for manthing and he enjoys it when I do. Then there are times that I'm not completely attuned to what he is in the mood for so I let him order. I think he prefers for Me to order most of the time.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 11/4/2010 2:47:14 AM

nephandi

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Greetings

When I was a slave I can not remember once that Aswad ordered food for me. He was never into micro management and he assumed I knew what I liked to eat myself. I also had a playpartner once, a Dom, and he to never ordered my food for me. Some are into micromanagement, others are not. If that is something which turns you on why not ask your Dom if she would mind ordering for you.

That being said, if I where on a date with a Dominant and he or she decided to order food for me I would be rather surprised, a date do not mean that they control you in any way. In some lifestyles like among Goreans the free get a greater authority over slaves so if I identified as a slave and went out with a Gorean man and he ordered my food for me I probably would not react, but if I went out with a BDSM Dominant I would see something like that as rather strange.

I wish you well.

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RE: Restaurant Order for Your Slave - 11/4/2010 4:28:07 AM

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I was in a long distance relationship with a Dom. After we'd been speaking for a while, when I was in a restaurant, we'd review the menu together and he'd tell me what to get. After a few times, we'd need less discussion. While his choices were never what mine would have been, I enjoyed this very much.

I agree with other posters that ordering for someone without knowing them well is risky. My Dom was able to learn enough about me to pull it off to our mutual satisfaction.

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