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RE: Hoods and Chains - 5/13/2006 5:12:14 AM

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i would just like to comment on your posting Fury.......brilliant!

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RE: Hoods and Chains - 5/13/2006 6:11:01 AM

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I agree with the people who say that you should really not allow yourself to be chained and hooded on a first meeting, when it comes to issues of your own personal safety you should be insisting and not suggesting.

perhaps girl wasn't clear on this issue: while it is true we are meeting for the first time, she has spoken to Him about hoods, blindfolds and other things she wishes to experience or that are fears she wishes to rid herself of and He has agreed to help her. her question was meant to ask for advice in regards to hoods and chains because she is curious about these things.

girl is not going to be hooded or chained the first day she is there and has safe calls set up and will be emailing a friend every other day with a word that if not in the email He will know what to do.

she thanks each of You for Your advice and knows that her safety is paramount to anything else, but she does wish to learn new things and work on her fears.

again Thank You All for Your help.

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So...how long are you planning to stay with people you've never met before? Are you staying WITH them?

Sorry, but it doesn't sound to me like you have your safety protocols in order. A first meet is in a public place and includes coffee or a meal. Not an extended stay.

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RE: Hoods and Chains - 5/13/2006 4:50:48 PM

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her next question is: have any of You kept Your slaves/subs in chains and if so, please can You share any information that will help her prepare for this?

I enjoy chains more than ropes. Something so wonderfully gothic about the clinking to me.

A hood is similar to a blindfold. Sensory deprivation of certain senses can sometimes cause an increase in the amount you feel other sensations.

Your question is puzzling me. Are you concerned about whether you will enjoy wearing a hood or chains? Anything we do in this lifestyle can cause the person being subjected to it to feel a bit nervous. Have you set firm limits with these people, and do you trust your limits will be respected?

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RE: Hoods and Chains - 5/14/2006 10:06:39 PM

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*smiiles softly* again girl thanks all of You for Your replies, and will bring up the ideas that were suggested, especially the one on communication if she unable to communicate with Him.

girl arrived safe and sound after 3 days on the bus and watched a demo on mummification which scared her a lil bit but still would not push it aside, as she has not tried it herself and is interested in it.

again Thank You all for Your helpful advice.

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RE: Hoods and Chains - 5/14/2006 10:10:24 PM

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"Your question is puzzling me. Are you concerned about whether you will enjoy wearing a hood or chains? Anything we do in this lifestyle can cause the person being subjected to it to feel a bit nervous. Have you set firm limits with these people, and do you trust your limits will be respected? "

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girl wanted to know what it was like and if You had a slave that You had put in chains, things like that.....

girl has set firm limits and does trust they will be respected...

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RE: Hoods and Chains - 5/15/2006 6:23:54 PM

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girl has set firm limits and does trust they will be respected...

Trust, but verify. Prepare carefully and play safely.

That's an order.

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RE: Hoods and Chains - 5/15/2006 8:44:25 PM

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Trust, but verify. Prepare carefully and play safely.

That's an order.

girl called all her safe call people and has verified with Sir that if she has to safeword that not only will her safe word be respected, but girl will also be respected for doing so, as He has said He does not wish her to think she has to continue just to please Him.

girl thanks You for Your concern :)

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RE: Hoods and Chains - 5/15/2006 8:49:41 PM

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Good girl. I'm pleased.

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RE: Hoods and Chains - 5/15/2006 8:56:14 PM

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"Good girl. I'm pleased. "

Thank You......... girl knows that usuallly first meets are held in public but when one does not live close enough to do so, one goes and if her tummy says no she gets the hell outta dodge.

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RE: Hoods and Chains - 5/16/2006 9:29:03 PM

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Smart girl, too.

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RE: Hoods and Chains - 5/17/2006 2:55:38 PM

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"Smart girl, too. "

*blushes* Thank You for the compliment Petruchio Sir. girl is having a good time here and although she misses her friends back home, she has set them aside other than to call and let them know ok girl is alive and having fun :)

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RE: Hoods and Chains - 5/19/2006 7:27:48 PM

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A first time meeting should not include play of any kind, it should be a time of getting to know each other and you getting comfortable. In time after many times meeting and casual play, enough trust should be built for the next step. Hoods, blindfold, and sensory devices take time to get used to and tons of TRUST.

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RE: Hoods and Chains - 5/20/2006 7:59:08 AM

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A first time meeting should not include play of any kind, it should be a time of getting to know each other and you getting comfortable. In time after many times meeting and casual play, enough trust should be built for the next step. Hoods, blindfold, and sensory devices take time to get used to and tons of TRUST.

girl did not play the first day she got here, but took her time getting to know Them and Others that were here at the play party, watched a demo on mummification and talked about it afterwards, letting Them know girl was scared to try it and the subject was dropped.

girl has tried the hood and while it did startle her, she is not ready to toss it aside as a limit just yet, but will try it again later on. she did tell Them that she was scared and why, but as she said she is not going to toss it aside just yet as a limit.

girl also did not play for a few days after the party as things were a bit crazy around here, and she was trying to catch up on her sleep that she missed on her 3 day bus ride to get here. Sir did say that because she had a rough trip to get here, that He would perfer her to get some rest and talk about things before we played.

girl has a list of things she wishes to try and some things that she wishes to work on while here, and when we did play Sir asked which of them girl wanted to try and she left it up to Him and His girl.

girl was then able to talk about things afterwards and tell Them what she liked, what scared or startled her, what she wishes to work on once again.

the next time we play girl will have a better idea of what she wishes to try, hoods being one of them, so that she can decide if it is a limit or if she likes them.

girl has been careful not to overdo things and Sir knows of girl's knees being bad so that she can not sit or stand for too long and if her knees start to bother her, she knows that she can say something and be allowed to rest for a period of time.

girl understands that she will get a wide variety of opinions on playing for the first meet, but she knows that is out of concern for her safety. however, girl has safecalls that she has been calling and that includes a cousin who lives 3 miles away.

girl has been diligent in making her calls and sending emails to those whom she can not call, so that they know she is okay and is safe. if girl did not feel safe or cared for while here she would as she has said afore "get the hell outta dodge."

Blessed Be

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RE: Hoods and Chains - 5/29/2006 8:30:59 PM

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girl has played with Sir and His alpha slave, and has to say that this has been the best three weeks of her life other than when she met her first r/l Master.

girl now knows that she likes hoods, phalic gags, wax play which she really liked to begin with, but while bound in an antique medical chair and having her breasts bound in what she thinks is a medevil breast bondage device she realized she really liked it.

the one thing she is still not sure about because we haven't done it "yet," is chains, but girl is not ready to push them aside as a limit due to things not going as we had planned, therefore, not being able to do that just yet.

Again girl Thanks all of You for Your kind, helpful and supportive advice in regards to hoods and chains...

Blessed Be

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