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scifisub42 -> invisible profiles? (4/25/2006 5:59:41 PM)

Hi, I didn't see a forum for questions regarding collarme's site, so this seemed like the next best place. If the moderators need to move it, please do so.

I have an email from a dominant.... but when I clicked on his name (which should have taken me to his profile)  I got 'profile not found'  I've had something similar happen once before, and I'm wondering if  anyone knows what the heck is going on?  He's not on my block list, Is there someway to make your profile unreachable?

scifi



cuddleheart50 -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/25/2006 7:25:13 PM)

I have had it happen to me a couple of times, and if there is no profile, there is no response from me.



HouseDiscipline -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/25/2006 7:49:29 PM)

He has his profile deactivated. By deactivating the profile he makes it so that the only people that can email him are those that he emails first. Not a bad method of controling the influx of emails one gets.



BeautyAwakens -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/25/2006 8:07:51 PM)

I just took my pics down,  so far it has seemed to have weeded out the idiots from those truly interested.  I've deactivated my profile before, out of respect and I was busy concentrating on one person and wanted to give all my attention to him without being bombarded with emails, to deactivate then contact others with nothing for them to go by in return..well that's just crappy and if they cant provide more than a "hello, hey would like to get to know you" I don't give them a second thought and why should I??? 



HouseDiscipline -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/25/2006 8:30:09 PM)

Actually, if you look under the area of the messege you get, it shows you the stats of the person that wrote the messege and a pic if they have one. So it's not like you have nothing to go by if their profile does not come up.

Besides which, some people would actually prefer the person they contact to actually get to know them as a person first, and by their kinks later. It's just as crappy to read a profile and use that as your total base for who's writting you, instead of talking to the person. It's rather myopic in it's simplicity.



ServiceNTucson -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/25/2006 9:36:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: HouseDiscipline

He has his profile deactivated. By deactivating the profile he makes it so that the only people that can email him are those that he emails first. Not a bad method of controling the influx of emails one gets.


Or, it could be a site problem, such as the ones I have.  Nobody gets the emails I send and if you click on my name beside this post, you'll get "No Profile Found."  But, if you put my name into the Username box on the homepage and search that way, poof, I have a profile.



BeautyAwakens -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/25/2006 9:42:15 PM)

What was meant by my response was, first and formost I have a peeve when it comes to emails along those lines.  I take the time to introduce myself, offer some insight as to who i am, what im seeking as well as qualities i offer.  I never go by just a profile...lets face it...alot dont offer anything more than age, location and gender specifications.  If i can take the time to fill out as much as possible in mine, i expect the same or close to it in return.  That goes for emails as well, your here to hopefully find what your looking for, put forth the effort and show it.



ServiceNTucson -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/25/2006 9:51:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BeautyAwakens

What was meant by my response was, first and formost I have a peeve when it comes to emails along those lines.  I take the time to introduce myself, offer some insight as to who i am, what im seeking as well as qualities i offer.  I never go by just a profile...lets face it...alot dont offer anything more than age, location and gender specifications.  If i can take the time to fill out as much as possible in mine, i expect the same or close to it in return.  That goes for emails as well, your here to hopefully find what your looking for, put forth the effort and show it.


I have put forth some effort.  Unfortunately, I cannot force collarme to show it.  I have written a profile, as stated in my post above.  I have written and sent emails, not one of which was ever received.



Reasonable -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/25/2006 9:51:56 PM)

I'm basically an asexual, who likes fetishes. My interest in getting together with anyone for a "relationship" is nil. I simply find the mindset and drama to be entertaining.

(And they have an apalling lack of little boxes here, to state my prefference)

Even stating my lack of interest in the profile-people insisted on mailing me. And then immedately began acting like they were going to try to initiate something. Very annoying. Evidently, folks don't beleive that people like me exist.

So I deleted it. Sometimes "leave me alone" really DOES mean exactly that.

Not "maybe"[:D]



juliaoceania -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/25/2006 11:16:28 PM)

When I have been emailed by a deactivated member I will not contact back and the reason is very simple... This person may not want their wife/girlfriend/current sub to know that they are looking on the side ... especially if they are seeing someone they met via  Collarme. I do not have the time or the inclination to try to figure out someone's real status if they are not having their profile as transparent as my own. Maybe I am paranoid, but I have been thru such nonsense before and learned when to spot it.



IronBear -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/26/2006 3:25:17 AM)

If you copy the poster's nic into the Usename on the search area on the other side it's suptising how many hiden profiles come to light....



MrDiscipline44 -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/26/2006 5:23:34 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

When I have been emailed by a deactivated member I will not contact back and the reason is very simple... This person may not want their wife/girlfriend/current sub to know that they are looking on the side ... especially if they are seeing someone they met via  Collarme. I do not have the time or the inclination to try to figure out someone's real status if they are not having their profile as transparent as my own. Maybe I am paranoid, but I have been thru such nonsense before and learned when to spot it.

Really? Is this the same reason you have taken your photo down? Jumping to a conclusion based on something that has happened once or twice (even five times) does not make it true for all who may contact you. Like I said before, some people actually want you to know them before the kinks are brought in to the relationship. Now, I'm not trying to change your thinking. Just enlighten it.



Saraheli -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/26/2006 3:14:14 PM)

Shhh.....he's part of the conspiracy...



MrDiscipline44 -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/26/2006 5:36:02 PM)

You know too much now. We'll have to dispose of you.



juliaoceania -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/26/2006 6:20:30 PM)

I took my photo down because of some things I read on another thread of people taking photos and using them as their own.. my profile is still up with all my info. It is not the pic I mind not being there. ..It is the deactivated profile. My profile is still very much up

On Edit, we have the right to respond or not to respond to anyone we choose, it is called freedom od association



huntme -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/26/2006 10:25:41 PM)

Curious that some here feel the actions of others are wrong without ever simply asking why?  We all do what we feel is right, so why would you assume somoene is an idiot, or call their actions crappy?  Isn't very polite or well manered of you now is it?



juliaoceania -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/26/2006 10:35:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: huntme

Curious that some here feel the actions of others are wrong without ever simply asking why?  We all do what we feel is right, so why would you assume somoene is an idiot, or call their actions crappy?  Isn't very polite or well manered of you now is it?



Where did anyone say the actions were wrong? I merely said that I will not return the emails of people with deactivated profiles. I do not know that there is anything wrong with them at all, I get plenty of emails from people that have their profile showing and I do not want to play guessing games as to why people would email me and have a deavtivated profile. There may very well be an innocent explanation, but then again it might be a reason that I want no part of..
As far as people always wanting to initiate contact first, if we all felt like that no one would be showing their profile. If that is how they feel, fine by me, but at the same time they risk that people will just delete their emails... because I bet I am not the only one who does.

I have not read anyone calling people an "idiot" or saying they were acting "crappy". They were just saying what they thought.



bignipples2share -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/27/2006 12:03:31 AM)

I've never answered anyone whose profile was deactivated. I just figure they decided to leave collarme after they sent the message.
I do want to be able to see what someone is into on their profiles. If we are never going to match up, why go through all of chatting. Is it not simpler to list what you're into and someone says, nope, that's just not me, never will be me and nip it in the bud from the get go? If someone is into statues and just wants me there to say what a great job he's doing with the statue, I certainly wouldn't stop them, but I also would not be their match and they need to look elsewhere. Why go email after email, just to find out that you want that and no, I'm not ever gonna be into it?

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Saraheli -> RE: invisible profiles? (4/27/2006 3:42:47 PM)

oh oh 



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