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LadyPact -> RE: The rise of teens and 20 something on here (10/19/2010 9:46:18 AM)
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ORIGINAL: boi4lady
I have read and re-read the comments under this thread and I can see both sides of the point. I think the OP assumes that age comes with "life lessons" that everyone learns from. He also, I assume, sees older people as having thought things through far more than younger people do. The final thought, though unspoken, is that older people have sampled more of life and thus have more of an experience base from which to pick and choose what is best for them.
The first two points I disagree with and see as being largely meritless. I do not see older people as necessarily having more wisdom than younger people through experience. Rather, I see older people who were wise as young people growing in their wisdom while older people who were fools in their youth remain fools in their old age. I can't count the number of fifty-something's I see collecting their wellfare check and cashing it in the local bar and grill. Most people, in my opinion, simply continue on the path they set as a young person (even younger than me).
As for the proliferation of young people in this lifestyle, I think it simply reflects a broader acceptance of alternative lifestyles by and in the public at large. I can assure you that very few people of my age, in my acquaintance, are as set in this lifestyle as I am. Few of my friends would realize just how "kinky" I am (aside from my lack of body hair, which I am pretty good at covering up).
As for the whole "sampling of life" thing, I am not sure that age plays a huge roll in that either. Most older people I know do not have a huge experience pool from which they draw. Rather, they simply keep making essentially the same mistakes over and over. Honestly, of the older people I have met "in the lifestyle", few claim to have become dominant or submissive at some golden age. Rather, all of them (that I know) claim to have always been dominant or submissive, they simply came to recognize it and come to terms with it at a given age. In my case, that age was fourteen.
I have to disagree with your disagreements. I don't think I was "wise in My youth" at all. Wisdom isn't something you're either born with or you're not. Some people do acquire it with age and experience.
I don't think you can measure everyone by the pool of people that you know. Not everyone involved in wiitwd has always been kinky. I am a later in life Dominant and an even later in life sadist. That didn't kick in until I was thirty-five. This can be a confusing area because some people do always have these yearnings and just don't have the information on them that they need and for others, like Me, they really weren't there when I was younger.
One huge advantage that I feel I had when I got involved in kink was that I did have the life experience of how to have a successful relationship. I also had experience in how to be in charge of other people. I had already made mistakes in those areas that I learned from so I didn't have to repeat them. Those weren't things that I had at the age of eighteen or even twenty-one.
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