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STRONGHAND4U -> Advice on becoming a slave owner. (10/18/2010 7:16:29 PM)
Having been in the lifestyle for several years. I look back at my most rewarding experience and find it was with a sub who basically would do anything I asked of her and I envision this as what a M/s relationship is like. I understand that it is a great responsibility to be the dominant person in a relationship and I am seeking advice and input as to how much more or less that is true of having a slave. Any advice and suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

sexyred1 -> RE: Advice on becoming a slave owner. (10/18/2010 7:19:28 PM)
What is your question?? How to get a slave to be like the one you had who was most rewarding to you?? Who can answer that for you? Only you.

DarkSteven -> RE: Advice on becoming a slave owner. (10/18/2010 9:47:23 PM)
Well, starting off your profile by calling yourself a Male Dominate probably is not a good start.

lilmissdefiant -> RE: Advice on becoming a slave owner. (10/18/2010 9:50:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Well, starting off your profile by calling yourself a Male Dominate probably is not a good start. LOL!!![:D][:D][:D][:D]

inkSecret -> RE: Advice on becoming a slave owner. (10/19/2010 2:20:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: STRONGHAND4U Having been in the lifestyle for several years. I look back at my most rewarding experience and find it was with a sub who basically would do anything I asked of her and I envision this as what a M/s relationship is like. I understand that it is a great responsibility to be the dominant person in a relationship and I am seeking advice and input as to how much more or less that is true of having a slave. Any advice and suggestions would be greatly appreciated. ...I'm still getting over the fact that Santa Claus is on CollarMe... Wait... Does this mean if I help Santa Claus that I get put on the Nice list? Or if I help Santa get a Slave wouldn't that be Human Trafficking and I get no Presents I really want a fucking Kinect for xBox this year...

nephandi -> RE: Advice on becoming a slave owner. (10/19/2010 4:10:42 AM)
Greetings quote: ...I'm still getting over the fact that Santa Claus is on CollarMe... Really it never hit you that the whole naughty and nice stuff with rewards for the nice and punishments for a naughty was kind of kinky? To the OP well reading books on M/s relationships and developing yourself until you feel ready to take on the responsibility of owning a slave and then you can make a profile and start looking. Be Well

SorceressJ -> RE: Advice on becoming a slave owner. (10/19/2010 4:44:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: inkSecret ...I'm still getting over the fact that Santa Claus is on CollarMe... Wait... Does this mean if I help Santa Claus that I get put on the Nice list? Or if I help Santa get a Slave.. Um, I think He's already got one.. [;)] [image]local://upfiles/1044097/C0D1818D7C634987A268C8846C6ED3C6.jpg[/image]

DesFIP -> RE: Advice on becoming a slave owner. (10/19/2010 12:00:13 PM)
You get someone to obey you in all things by being someone worth obeying in all things. There are no short cuts. You need to make damned good decisions all the time, not take the easy way out, not leave her holding the bag. You need to want the responsibilities of the position more than you want the rights. It's like being the President. He gets to have an indoor pool and bowling alley in his basement as stress relief because he's always the person answering the red phone.

Zevar -> RE: Advice on becoming a slave owner. (10/19/2010 2:45:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: STRONGHAND4U Having been in the lifestyle for several years. I look back at my most rewarding experience and find it was with a sub who basically would do anything I asked of her and I envision this as what a M/s relationship is like. I understand that it is a great responsibility to be the dominant person in a relationship and I am seeking advice and input as to how much more or less that is true of having a slave. Any advice and suggestions would be greatly appreciated. It appears that you may not have separated the past from the present. Clearly there are differences in each woman. Every woman is an individual, thus will relate and express herself in the way that uniquely represents her ways. I caution you if you are attempting to reproduce the situation in your past. You can cherish this past time all you care to. However as you might well know in the present time the woman that willingly relates with you will be who she is AND not the woman from the past. As long as you are willing to understand and accept this then going forward with relating again will have a much better opportunity in becoming meaningful. It is ineffective to compare one woman to another and a total waste of effort and time. Accept the woman of the present time to serve you as she does without looking back. If you do look back you will never allow yourself to accept what is in your present time to enjoy and come to cherish in a whole other new way. Take care!

OsideGirl -> RE: Advice on becoming a slave owner. (10/19/2010 6:05:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Well, starting off your profile by calling yourself a Male Dominate probably is not a good start. I think I love you Steven.

WickedLittleGirl -> RE: Advice on becoming a slave owner. (10/19/2010 6:13:27 PM)
Well...calling you "Sir Santa" is not exactly turning me on. Just thought I would throw that out there.

STRONGHAND4U -> RE: Advice on becoming a slave owner. (10/19/2010 6:55:59 PM)
Yes, I am probably not making myself clear, at least that what the replies would suggest. I am the DOM side of D/s now and was thinking about what I really want and how to get there, so I was asking for advice on what I should be thinking and considering in order to be the MASTER in a M/s relationship. Dear if the SIR SANTA turns you off then I will have to suggest that you may not be on the same wave length as I am, and that is OK because it takes a lot of different kinds of people to fill up the world and we should all be grateful for our differences and our individuality. It was my poor attempt to show that I have a lighter side to my personality in case someone was looking for someone who was not all whips and chains.

leadership527 -> RE: Advice on becoming a slave owner. (10/20/2010 12:41:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: STRONGHAND4U Having been in the lifestyle for several years. I look back at my most rewarding experience and find it was with a sub who basically would do anything I asked of her and I envision this as what a M/s relationship is like. I understand that it is a great responsibility to be the dominant person in a relationship and I am seeking advice and input as to how much more or less that is true of having a slave. Any advice and suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Here's one for you. This is the one that just mystifies me time and time again. If you're thinking "slave", then you are taking ownership of an entire human being. Do you have some specific, concrete answer for what you want to do with an ENTIRE human? it's not possible to lead without a goal in mind. Do you have one? Is it a worthy goal or is it just a fuck toy? Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with fuck toys... but it's not enough of a role to be fulfilling for most humans I know. Think of it this way. Assuming the perfect slave dropped in your lap right now. Do you have 20 or so years worth of stuff in mind for her to do?

Areflectionofyou -> RE: Advice on becoming a slave owner. (10/31/2010 3:37:48 PM)
Now that is just mean!!! quote: ORIGINAL: nephandi Greetings quote: ...I'm still getting over the fact that Santa Claus is on CollarMe... Really it never hit you that the whole naughty and nice stuff with rewards for the nice and punishments for a naughty was kind of kinky? To the OP well reading books on M/s relationships and developing yourself until you feel ready to take on the responsibility of owning a slave and then you can make a profile and start looking. Be Well

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